I have to agree with Master of Splatter in that NO, I haven't seen it explained.
I've seen "I'm Black first, Gay second" explained from the standpoint of "people see Race before they see Orientation" and like I said, I understand that ... but that wasn't what I was asking.
I'm asking specifically what that means in terms of the actions amongst Black Gays who view themselves as "Black first, and Gay second", as it relates to your positions on Gay Rights issues. In other words, if you were approached with a conflict as it pertains to Gay Rights vs what the position of the overall Black Community is as it pertains to their stance on Gays ... what would you do? I guess what I am getting at is how far are you willing to go in the name of loyalty to one's skin color vs the other side of you ... that being a Gay man?
To me at least, being black and gay doesn't mean I have to choose sides. Yes the black community is strong, and like to support our community the best we can, but I am also gay. I am not going to vote agains't gay rights because my community doesn't agree with it.
It isn't all group think, we are still individuals and we think for ourselves. Not all straight blacks are agaisnt gay rights and some will fight for them with us.
This could be in terms of having a religious parent who preaches that Homosexuality is an Abomination before God. You say you are "Black First, Gay Second". Does that mean there is less chance of a Black Gay coming out of the closet for fear of disappointing one's parents or peers, since the Community as a whole is against it, and you feel the need to put "being Black, first?"
Or when it comes to standing up and challenging the Church, since the overwhelming majority of Blacks according to various polls are the most religious racial group and with that, truly believe that homosexuality is an abomination before God, does putting "Black first and Gay second" mean that one is less likely to challenge the Church because there is a fear of being alienated from the Black Community if you do?
I can't answer either of these points as my family is accepting, and we aren't super religious. I do imagine for some black gay guys, like any other community, fear of being alienated or thrown out for being gay is a fear that keeps them in the closet. I think this point is more universal, than a real big black issue.
What I am trying to do is get a better understanding as it pertains to one's philosophies, and more importantly, one's actions on what you will physically do or not do, with respect to your viewpoint of "I'm Black first, Gay second". And what happens when those two things come into conflict with each other?
Your stuck on this "black first, gay second thing" When people say that, they are saying (unless your visibly feminine) people see a black person before they ever see that your gay. When you walk down a street, they see your skin color, and thats usually all they see. I mean, unless your kissing your boyfriend in public or sucking someones dick in the middle of the street, people could seemingly never know you were gay. People are by default straight until told otherwise.
No black person is, by default, white or some other race. We are black by default and it is shown all day, everyday, unless you bleach your skin or are never seen in person.
Also, on a side note, I have heard several Black posters in this thread say that "the Gay Community doesn't reach out to me" and "I don't feel necessarily welcomed by the Gay Community". And what I gather from this is that Blacks who say this are truly looking for some sort of physical reach-out from a physical Gay Community.
I just want to ask if you know who reached out to me from the Gay Community (who you seemingly want to refer to as the White Gay Community)? Absolutely nobody. Not a single person.
Well in the black community, along with other communities, there is a sense of helping your neighbor and making sure they can get some help.
For the gay community, because of the media, really all new gays think about is a gay bar. And a gay bar is usually no place to go to seek help on personal issues, and because of that, some men can become to feel dejected from the gay community and will always have support from the black community.
Then there is the racism in the gay community. And that is something black guys aren't prepared for. I mean, if your gay and you see how gays are treated in the world, you would imagine the gay community would be the last place to find racism and predujice. Yet in the gay community, racism is more seen and prevalent than the straight community in some cases, and that's a bad thing. One need only look on this site for racism. And the majority don't even see what's wrong with what they are saying.
And I would encourage Gay Blacks who feel this way to ask any number of other White Gays "Who specifically reached out to them from the Gay Community?" and I am sure that the answers will be very similar .... "nobody." And again, this leads me to believe there is a misunderstanding amongst Blacks on how they define "Communities" and how Whites view "Communities". There is no more of a White Gay Community that reaches out to people, no more than there is a Black Gay Community that reaches out to people. We have no Jesse Jackson. We have no Al Sharpton. And frankly, I don't want any Community leader speaking out for all Gays and speaking for me. We are all individuals and we are all uniquely different. However, we simply share the same ideologies as each other and thus refer to this as a "Community". It's a community only in the sense that we share the same ideals and ideologies, and want the same things for each other.
See and this is a problem that a lot of minority groups may feel about the gay community. There is no real community where their should be. Most minority groups have a strong sense of family, and community anongst common bonds and traits. We are all gay, yet even you say that you feel a strong, together community isn't necessarily a great thing.
A strong community centralizes all the issues, it makes it easy to get information out, and to organize for a fight against oppression. That is something black people, and other ethnic communities have always known, and that's why we try to stick together and help each other.
Where does a gay black man go to seek help, and guidance on issues of his sexuality and talking to his parents? A gay bar?
I keep hearing Blacks say that "the (White) Gay Community needs to reach out to Black Church Leaders". What if I reversed that and say that the "Black Gay Community needs to reach out to White Church leaders"? Who would you send? Who is the leader of the "Black Gay Community" and where is this "Community" based out of?
No, the gay community needs to reach out to the black church leaders. The black church leaders aren't gay, they don't care about gay people. That's something you need to understand. They don't need to care about you, they don't rely the white gay community for anything. They don't need to reach out to the gay community, you need to reach out to them.
If you don't reach out to them, then they will go on with their lives, and not give half a shit. If you reach out to the black community, educate them on the issues, and convince them, suddenly you have someone who is thinking of you when they talk to their representatives, or are talking to their friends, or go to the polls to vote.
It was similarly the same for the black community in the day. White people didn't need to care about us or are rights. The black community had to educate and convince them that they should support blacks in our fight for equality. If we had done nothing and expected them to come to us, we probably still wouldn't have our full rights.
I don't get this thinking that the black community needs to reach out to us? It's a stupid idea, and it is never going to happen. Why should they reach out to us? They have no need to, they have no reason to. It isn't their job to get our rights, it is our job. We are the gay people, not them.