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Why?! The I want a relationship card?

Wuvable Oaf said:
A few months ago, I actually had a guy play the "I want a relationship" card and really meant it, to a point of desperation. We barely knew each other for two weeks and he was really pushy about wanting a relationship (he keep complaining how long he's been single and such, pretty blunt about it). I wasn't rejecting him or anything, just not going to jump into a relationship just like that. He took that as a sign of rejection and thought I wasn't interested.

Literally, within a week,he found himself a new boyfriend.
SPOILER ALERT: they barely lasted two weeks before breaking up.
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Sounds about right, hence why I am still single. Love takes time to discover.

P.s. Your avatar disturbs me now, it looks like the big guy from popeye flexing with a cat between his legs.
 
altlover85 said:
OP, I hate it too.



But did that study include gay people?
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haaaa

humans only got two

if a survey got get folk think it a wonda is it is a wonda when dudes makin footprints on moon just show off designer shoes

haaa
 
Hard-up1 said:
If being gay means our relationships are based on sex above all else, I'd like to learn more about re-orientation therapy.
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I don't think the relationships should be based on sex above all else, but then I don't think any relationship should be based on one thing above all else, except perhaps mutual love, satisfaction, and understanding I think for different people there are different focuses and priorities. But I think if one person's needs aren't being met in the bedroom and sex is important to that person, then it may be time to talk to your boyfriend/partner and figure out how to satisfy everyone's needs.

As was said before, I think if there are issues in the bedroom, there are probably issues elsewhere was well.

Hard-up1 said:
Do you think we are different as a subgroup?
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Yes, I do think we are different as a subgroup. I think there's less focus on creating a family (especially when you are in your 20's) and more of a focus on sex and dating. Granted, I don't know THAT many gay men in person, but the few I do know (that are around my age) don't seem all that focused on having kids. Instead they're more focused on their careers and going out.

All of the above is my opinion.
 
Soilwork said:
In all seriousness, I think a lot of the guys who do that think they want a boyfriend but are caught in that "looking for mr perfect" death cycle.

And of course the problem of not really knowing what they want.

But the biggest is that even the guys who DO want a BF go looking in the wrong places (like bars) and under the wrong circumstances (like while drinking) and it means we say things we don't mean.... Oh, they want a BF but they don't want it to be YOU.

The best remedy is to not look for a boyfriend. Go out and find a hobby that you love and find a gay group that does it... you'll meet a bunch of men you have things in common with and that's where you'll meet the circle of friends that will put you in the right place at the right time and Mr. Right finds YOU.

Trust me on this one, I've been married for 20 years.
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THANK YOU JASUN!!

I have been debating for days about starting a thread here...basically about this same topic and Jasun seemed to have cleared my mind (mostly). I've just recently (3 mos. ago) got into the online dating scene. Currently on okcupid and...... its going ok lol. BUT I made a big mistake of adding the grindr app to my phone.... baaaahahaha.... although there are A LOT more guys on grindr ...so TOTALLY not what I was looking for.

I'm looking to join a club etc... but not too much on meetup.com in the Toronto area (surprising) for gay late 20 somethings (that I can find). I dont want to be the guy "looking" for someone on these sites, but I've had limited luck otherwise.

Never mind okcupid, 'compatible partners', match.com... maybe we need more speed-dating venues?!?! lol.

Back to Jasun's post, in the end I guess you (I) can't force it to happen, but man oh man... IM READY (*8*)
 
Kulindahr said:
That particular one? Possibly not. But studies have been done which don't ask if people are married, just if they consider themselves to be in a committed relationship, and haven't found any differences on any basis.
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Let's do a poll here and ask how many people who are in a relationship waited a month or more before having sex for the first time. I'm not saying it isn't a good idea, I'm just saying it doesn't happen very often in the gay community. In the meantime, you'll be missing out on a lot if you refuse to have sex because you're waiting for Mr. Right.
 
SonOfSlobone said:
Let's do a poll here and ask how many people who are in a relationship waited a month or more before having sex for the first time. I'm not saying it isn't a good idea, I'm just saying it doesn't happen very often in the gay community. In the meantime, you'll be missing out on a lot if you refuse to have sex because you're waiting for Mr. Right.
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Missing out on what -- exchanging shots of proteinaceous fluids?

Most of the time, I can think of far more satisfying and productive things to do with strangers than sex.
 
Kulindahr said:
That particular one? Possibly not. But studies have been done which don't ask if people are married, just if they consider themselves to be in a committed relationship, and haven't found any differences on any basis.
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So what you're saying is that there have been studies that included gay people and didn't find any statistical differences between gay and straight couples?

Kulindahr said:
Missing out on what -- exchanging shots of proteinaceous fluids?

Most of the time, I can think of far more satisfying and productive things to do with strangers than sex.
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I think having sex with someone relatively early into the relationship helps to determine if both of you are sexually compatible which I think is important in a relationship.

If sex isn't as important for you, then it makes sense that you would want to wait a while before having sex.
 
Huntneo(PT) said:
I actually agree with both Kulindahr and Sonofslobone...

it's hard to explain, but I understand where both of them are coming from.
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Is it something along the lines of understanding that sex can be fun, but at the same time that meaningless sex can get old?

PS Happy New Year Huntneo(PT)!
 
What I love are the guys who have online ads saying that they only want relationships and aren't into hook ups or one night stands, but have pictures of their hard dicks or shots of their asshole as their main profile pic.
 
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ans birds crap
in
ya
hair
da world
go
ooh wot a nice pair
ans commerical bring out new shampoo
ans world go awww ans go bit googoo
as watch a you
both wash each othda hair
while a baboons
play anothda
round
of
world tours ta fill lot a chair

ans da 2 dudes
not a thang ta wear
but got a clean hair
ans marry da shampoo

cause he smell of spring air

ans got nothin do
with
tooth fairys

thankyou
 
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