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Why would a straight guy do something like this?

gayjohnd said:
Do you be naked in front of him?
Have you ever jerked off when he's in the room? It would be hard for him to complain when he's done it.

I know you don't want sex yet but would you be up for other things with him? Things like jerking off together or a blow job?
If you don't want to do those just yet but want to date him then you have to be really careful with asking a scared closet out. It could scare him more and put him deeper in the closet.
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No, like I said, I'm extremely shy, very much to myself. I've been brought up that way and right now I cannot even imagine I could as much as be naked next to someone, let alone other things. But then again I'm young, just 20 years old and I think I'd need to know the person very well and trust the person completely to do something sexual with them and I only know him for a very short period of time. I usually jerk off in the shower where he can't see me, of course.

If I continue to pay no attention to him, do you think he'll stop eventually?
 
I hope the OP can get it together before he graduates if he is going to deal with real problems in the real world.
 
halunke said:
If I continue to pay no attention to him, do you think he'll stop eventually?
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I'm not sure and probably depends on why he's doing it.

If he's doing it in the hope you make a move or even just to annoy you he might stop if he gets bored and gives up.

Or maybe jayallday is right and he's normally like that. He might not have done it at the start because he didn't know you and got more relaxed the more he knew you. Though I really don't think a straight bloke will jerk off when another bloke, never mind a gay one, is in the same room and can see them unless they're drunk and watching porn. Is he sober when he does that?

Do you want it to stop or are you ok to let him do what he does?
 
gayjohnd said:
Is he sober when he does that?

Do you want it to stop or are you ok to let him do what he does?
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Yeah, he's an athlete and drinks with caution. I've never seen him drunk. I'm so weirded out because I've never been in situation like this before but even if he continues, I think I'll eventually become indifferent to it, as his genitals don't interest me.
 
The only other thing I can think on is did he share a room with brothers?

I don't have a brother nerver mind shared a room with one so I can't speak from experience on this.
I just googled it and it seems to be common enough for brothers to jerk off when another is in the room (sometimes together) especially with big families where shower time is at a premium.
Other users who have experience of sharing a room with brothers will be able to confirm that.

If it doesn't bother you and he's normally like this then just let him do what he's used to.
 
halunke said:
...If I continue to pay no attention to him, do you think he'll stop eventually?
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No.

He has to change clothes and if there's a en suite bath, he has to shower, so he'll continue with the nudity.

The masturbation (which is a common dorm roommate issue) will continue until he gets a girlfriend at which time it will be replaced by either a) asking for you to let them use the room or, even worse, b) having sex in the hid bed while you're also in the room.

If it bothers you, change rooms. If you want to stay in that room, either you're going to have to ignore it or you're going to have to be more assertive in getting him to stop.
 
So when you say he masturbates in front of you, he has a fully erect penis and is pleasuring himself to orgasm while you are in the room? This makes no sense to me. Is he watching porn at the same time? Do you guys make any eye contact while he is doing this?

The only reason I could think that he would do that in front of you is because he wants to start something sexually with you. Otherwise he would wait for an opportunity you are not in the room.

If you don't like him masturbating in front of you, tell him to stop. But I don't think the being naked thing will ever change.
 
I would put in a quiet new roommate request/dorm change.

He wants you to make a move either to reject you or get it on.... or both. Just be prepared for him to freak-out afterwards for a while. Hence the pre-emptive dorm change.

Definitely worth the chance. Will seem obvious in the rear-view.
 
swerve said:
Guys like their egos stroked.

Not unusual for an absolutely straight guy to want approval from a gay guy.

Go with the flow and enjoy your friendship.

Good luck in school! ..|

:):):)
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Jerking it though? To fruition?
 
Yeah, that's what he does. I haven't checked him out that carefully, maybe he watches porn, maybe not. We made eye contact probably once or twice when he first started doing it, after that I just turned away as quickly as I could.
 
pandh200 said:
make eye contact. then you will know where you stand
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This is so true. It's how dominance is established among animals. Every time you look away it allows him to become more provocative.

Lock eyes and make him look away if he's jerking it in front of you. It will stop it, or.....
 
offthewall14420 said:
This is so true. It's how dominance is established among animals. Every time you look away it allows him to become more provocative.

Lock eyes and make him look away if he's jerking it in front of you. It will stop it, or.....
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That's an idea. He might even cover up if you start watching him
 
Yep, forces his hand. Either that or keep jacking off but that's also super homo-erotic.
 
Or invite a date up your room and put him into the position of being the one who is made uncomfortable.

Although, honestly- you would be better off changing roommates since that is probably his hidden agenda.
 
You told him he is not attractive, so he is trying to prove that you do find him attractive. I suggest you tell him that you do find him attractive,but you know he is straight and nothing will ever happen. Tell him you will never came on to him, but you sometimes get vibrs from him and you wonder what he means.
 
It's college so I wouldn't make ANY blanket statements as to future behavior.
 
OK you have represented yourself as not interested in the least, you also have represented yourself as being in significant angst over this.

At some point your lack of action is not his doing. If you remain in some kind of paralysis over your own life, that isn't his fault.

WE don't know what's in his mind, we don't know him or you or how close to accurate your representations of the facts actually is. IF this guy is bothering you that much, get a new roommate, I've never seen a University where this was not an option, if you do nothing and continue to be sad and shocked, well, that's not his fault.
 
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