Working With Will

[yeahman21]

Thats ok. Hes a great guy and a good friend and that doesnt come along too often.

 

[Kyanimal]

James, Bud! (If I may be allowed to consider I might rate "Buddy" with You!)

You may have "balked", "frozen" even, with that unexpected slight, out of left field, and that is entirely understandable! I, very likely, would have had that "deer in the head lights" reaction, myself!

But, Man!, I've gotta say, I'm even more impressed with Will, than I was before! It's SO obvious, now, that You TRULY do have a "Solid", Reliable, FRIEND! Someone to Cherish even more than ever!!

Don't get me wrong, Big Guy! I'm not "slighting" YOU at ALL!! And, I KNOW that You are quite capable of taking care of Yourself, with NO Doubts! But ... gotta admit ... Will's response was SO Impressive!

Whether, or not, anything more "happens" between You Two, as Hopeful as that may, or may not, be, Will is DEFINITELY a Friend to Keep!! Do NOT, entirely, close Yourself off to future "possibilities" ... Let Him direct those "choices" ... Just "Hold" Him with open arms!!

I think it would be "fair" to consider Yourself one of the Luckiest Guys in the World!! "Love" comes in many forms! Rejoice in the type You have found in Will!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Just know that if you two go out drinking again, he's going to want to fool around again - GUARANTEED.

He may also use this as an excuse to get together. "Hey let's go out" or whatever. You are going to have to decide if you want that. I assure this will not be the last time if you guys are friends.

Also, on the guy who commented, TAKE THE HIGH ROAD. Don't get fired or even worse, arrested for assault. You can think of a witty comeback, but violence is never the answer. Just be careful and not get sucked into something because they will fire you for starting a fight, but it will take several people complaining to get someone fired for something they say.

I just love living vicariously through you on this!

 

[cityboi]

As the previous posting states, violence is unnaceptable under the law. If you strike first the victim has a right to file a police report. You may then get arrested for battery and have to defend yourself in court against the victim who will be represented by the states attorney. If you lose you will be convicted of misdemeanor battery and have a criminal record to live with.

If you are being harrassed at work you should report it to management. If management does nothing to stop the harrassment you may have a case against the management.

Please, do nothing which can result in a criminal record for you.

 

[Coffee]

I'm glad that things work out well for you.
About the guy at work, I think he knows how too be serious already, what is right and wrong. A man like that could be a good friend later. Well, wait and see.
About Will, it's great that you two don't find it awkward after what happened. Not many people can get over it like you, though they always said and pretend it's ok and not a problem.
Your life is now in a good balanced situation

 

[Blueboy369]

Just treat him like a really good friend and have fun. No expectations.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Does Will have a big dick? Did he see yours? I know this is nosy, but wondering if does have a big dick and wanted to fuck, would you? Assuming he wanted to as friends?

 

[Guy89]

Ah, such an interesting approach to deal with the bully situation. I like it, good luck with that. And it's good to know things between you and Will didn't go all weird. He does sound like a cool guy.

 

[hhoiffk2004]

Thanks Coffee I'm glad everything has worked out okay too. I don't always make the most responsible decisions, so it's nice when I do something that I honestly probably shouldn't do and I don't get too badly punished in the end. The funny thing about the "bully" at work is that he just seems like the cliche bully in movies. He actually looks like the kid on the Simpsons that always goes "ha ha!" but older. I'm sure he had a hard life growing up because he just seems to always have a chip on his shoulder. And actually, as I'm writing this, I'm making a goal to befriend him and maybe make him a happier person, to the best of my ability. You know, like putting good karma into the world, since I've been so naughty lately haha.

And as far as moving on with Will, I really do think I'm doing pretty well. I admit, I still think he's very attractive and I sure as hell wouldn't mind another night like last Thursday, but the strong feelings have really died down, especially the jealousy thing. Which is a good sign. Haha




He does have a pretty big dick. I really don't know what the average dick size is, or what's above average, but compared to my own, I'd say he's about a half to a full inch longer. I think mine is around 7 1/2 to 8 inches. But I'd say mine is a little girthier (sp?). I could be off a little, but not much if any. No, he didn't see it that night. He has seen it, in the bathroom at work though. As far as having sex, I'd be a little concerned. My ass is normally a one way street (I'm generally a top) and something that long probably would be difficult to take. But I'm not writing it off--I'd be willing to give it a try. Probably the biggest factor would be my concern with how things would be afterward. A blowjob isn't quite as big a deal as anal sex. I'm not sure how he would be afterward. So that's a tough call. I will say that when I had brought it up before, which would have been on Sunday I think, I told him I'd let him fuck me if he ever wanted to try it and he just said not to tempt him, he hadn't gotten any in a few months and probably would do it. But he said it in a very joking manner, so I'm not sure if there was a hint of truth to that or not.

Oh, and Kyanimal (Chaz), you can absolutely call me buddy. You've been nothing but a good guy and I would love to be your JUB buddy.

aawww ur such a nice guy. you even wanna befriend the person that tries to bully you. ur not just the lucky one because you have a friend like Will but hes also lucky to have you!

btw, ur not just lucky, ur also hot!! hehe!!

 

[trawler69]

Does anybody else on here remove their underwear in a friends bathroom and leave it there? I think perhaps he might be playing with you but probably not maliciously. I'd be tempted to put them somewhere a bit odd where you know he will find them, like in his car or hanging on his wing mirror. You seem to be handling him pretty well

 

[yeahman21]

Im with trawler. And this guy wants to get plowed.

 

[Blueboy369]

Why did he leave his undies? Did he take a quick shower? If you showed him a porn and nothing happened, I wouldn't push it. If he drops any more hints then go for it, if not, lay low. Best of luck.

 

[GL]

So last night we hung out again. Lots of beer and more video games. Nothing really happened except I got him to watch a gay porn, which surprisingly he didn't freak out. But he didn't have a boner either. So my theory that he's secretly gay or bi and is playing mind games with me is not holding up so well. BUT he left his (used) underwear in my bathroom. I like to think he left them on purpose, but I'm trying not to overthink everything. So in the meantime I'll just keep enjoying them and hope he doesn't notice they're missing.

man, i wish i had your troubles!

your new friend is not too subtle, huh? if i were in your shoes i would seriously think he wants to try and do more. it sounds like his curiosity is more than piqued especially as i have never known a completely straight man, even one who is 'secure' in his manhood sit still for gay porn. either way it sounds like you have some fun to make.

 

[Blueboy369]

OK, so he stayed the night. Hmmmmm.......If he felt uncomfortable at all about what happened between you he wouldn't have stayed over again. Sounds to me like he may want something to happen but he's to shy to make a move. By the way, as far as the undies, finders keepers......

 

[amyleeisjesus]

I thought the same thing: how did he remember everything else and forget his underwear? He even did a double check of his stuff before he left and scanned over the rooms to make sure he didn't leave anything. I vividly remember him looking in the bathroom just before he left. But then again, maybe he really just didn't notice. I don't know. I'm trying not to get my mind set on a scenario where he's trying to make something happen because I don't want to let myself get pulled back in. I'm just enjoying things as they happen.

That's hot. What kind were they? I'm guessing boxers since they tend to be the standard of the faux straights. You should peek inside and see if he left a "present" for you. Who knows, maybe he got a little hot and bothered on that couch and wanted to share.

Hmm, what to do with them. That's tough. I guess to maintain the "we're just friends" deal you should nonchalantly give them back. I'd be tempted to tell him if he does it again you're keeping them, though. Just because you're "running low," nothing sexual of course. I have a feeling he'd do another oopsie and leave them there again. That you could definitely take as a sign.

The unflinching porno watching is another piece that raises my suspicion. I agree he seems to need some taming .

 

[PlayingwithChance]

^^

Omg that's great advice!

I think you should definitely give the undies back, and be all nonchalant about it, like you're just a buddy returning something he left behind. Do it in private though, like when he hangs out at your place next time, as returning his undies at work may be awkward.

And yeah, maybe even hint that next time he leaves em, finders keepers...

This leaves things open, see what he does, I think this Will guy likes to be teased. I don't know what his deal is, but I reckon he enjoys the... attention you seem to give him. He needs it. As to whether or not he actually likes guys... well, that's still debatable. Some people have needs that transcend gender though, and you should keep that in mind.

 

[Kyanimal]

Oh, and Kyanimal (Chaz), you can absolutely call me buddy. You've been nothing but a good guy and I would love to be your JUB buddy.

Awww ... Thank You! YOU are so Sweet!

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So anyway, yesterday this guy is walking around my department and I go up to him and ask him if he needs help finding something in particular. We find what he needs and afterward he says "so you must be the James that Billy's always talking about?" I didn't make the connection at first and I was just like "uh, I don't know any Billys..." and he said "Well, I'm actually about the only one that calls him Billy, it's William." (I'm just paraphrasing some of this, cause I don't remember verbatum...the word is verbatum right?) and I said "Oh! Yeah, Will, okay. Yeah he's a good guy." and he said "Yeah, good for nothing. (and laughed) Well, it's good to see that he has at least one decent friend. I hope he's not getting you into too much trouble." and he just like walked off. I didn't know if I should respond, so I sorta just blurted out "Oh, no, I'm not much of a troublemaker" and made some goofy laugh like a dumbass. I'm sure I came off looking like Beaver Cleaver. He's a scruffy, kinda mean looking truck driver, btw. It was really intimidating. But I get to call Will "Billy" now and it's so much fun. He hates it.

Everyone else seems to be zeroing in on the porn and undies "incidents". However, I'm more interested in the above ...

Who was that Guy???? Dad? Uncle?? Parole Officer??? (O.K.! That P.O. comment was a bit over the line! )

However, whoever He was, the Guy seemed to know "Billy" fairly well! He'd heard him talk about you so much?? He hoped that "Billy" wasn't getting You into too much "trouble"? What does he know? And, how does he know it??

Have You mentioned that encounter to "Billy"? I'd be interested in any explanation he might have ... Just being curious about some "deeper" information ...

BTW ... You're approach to the "Bully" only continues to IMPRESS Me with YOU!!

And the undies "thing"? Hmmmm! Yes, give them back, discretely. And wait to see if any future "offerings" are left "for the keeping"!!

And, Yeah!, I'm agreeing with everyone else that the possibilities of "future adventures" are seeming highly likely! Just don't let your hopes run away with You!

And, of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[GL]

wow. you met his dad? and how sweet is that that he's been talking about you at home? if i didn't know any better it sounds like he has a crush.

 

[voyager]

James:

I know you said you want to enjoy being single right now, but I just cannot believe that someone has not snapped up such a wonderful person as you and not let go!

Your screen name of "Superboy" is so appropriate! Just like the comic character, you are always putting other people's feelings and needs first, being kind and considerate to those around you, often sacreficing your own emotions while you are taking care of theirs. You did this with Josh, and now with Will, you are being such a good friend. Your attitude towards the "bully" and your recent reponse on another thread to someone who is shy and embarrassed prompted me to write this. Even when you were going through your own emotional troubles, you have taken the time to offer kind advise to others who were having problems. Any parent would be proud to have a son like you, and any parent should be pleased to have their son bring you home!

I also think that Will might be looking for something more. At 21, he may be confused about certain feelings or just not ready to accept them. His asking about your gay life, winking, wondering if you thought of him in "that way", asking for a BJ, talking about you at home with his Dad and just wanting to spend time with you suggests more than just a casual interest. He sees the kind of caring and compassionate person that you are, and I think he trusts that you will continue to be there if he wants to explore these feelings. I wish when I was 21 that I had a "superboy" friend like you to discuss and possibly explore such feelings. I might have been more willing to push the self-imposed boundaries of my own sexuality.

While many have said that Will is a very good straight friend, I think Will is very lucky to have you as part of his life. I know it must be hard for you to allow him to make the moves, but I agree with you that it is best for Will to move at a pace that is comfortable for him. Of course, this does not mean that you cannot drop playful hints!

BTW, as far a the underwear . . . just before you hand them back to him, as a joke and to see his response, you should tell him that you are wearing them and if he wants them back , he will have to take them off you! HA!

Best of luck! I will continue to read about you and Will . . it is actually one of the reasons I come on JUB every day.

 

[GL]

^ "ouch!" for that broken toe! as for will's reaction it would appear to me that he has been much more curious than he may have wanted to admit.