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Would you date someone who had few or no close friends?

Would you date someone with few or no close friends?

  • Yes.

    Votes: 35 52.2%

  • No.

    Votes: 4 6.0%

  • It doesn't matter.

    Votes: 28 41.8%
  • Total voters
    67
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I'm wondering if a guy having friends would affect whether or not you would date him?

I didn't differentiate between having no friends and only having one or two because I'm lazy and I wasn't sure how much that mattered.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter.

Thanks!
 
Yes, I would. I'm sort of in that category. I don't have many friends (by choice) but I have a wide range of acquaintances. I just don't really enjoy the company of others. That's not to say I don't have exceptional social skills, I just choose not to use them.
 
LOL Are we still in high school? Does anyone here need their boyfriend to be Popular in order to feel validated for being with him?


As long as he doesn't have serious social issues.
 
Nomenclature said:
LOL Are we still in high school? Does anyone here need their boyfriend to be Popular in order to feel validated for being with him?


As long as he doesn't have serious social issues.
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I didn't mean it as a popularity test. What I meant was would it strike you as odd if he had no friends or very few friends. I guess I didn't communicate my intent very well.
 
Yes. I would rather date a guy that has little or no friends than a guy that has a bunch of bitchy friends that like to stir up drama for no reason. But I would hope that the guy would be open to going places and having a social life with me.
 
My boyfriend is just that type. He lives in a small town whith no good schools, so since he had to travel to other cities to get education, therefore he ended up not having close friends where he lives now...

It does bothers me a little, because I know that we only end up knowing a person for real trough their friends and aquaintances, and it seems sad that when we have a fight or something goes wrong in his life, he has no one to run to, to ask for adive or just to cry on a friendly shoulder (we live on different cities as well and only see each ther on weekends).
 
Grey_Sky said:
My boyfriend is just that type. He lives in a small town whith no good schools, so since he had to travel to other cities to get education, therefore he ended up not having close friends where he lives now...

It does bothers me a little, because I know that we only end up knowing a person for real trough their friends and aquaintances, and it seems sad that when we have a fight or something goes wrong in his life, he has no one to run to, to ask for adive or just to cry on a friendly shoulder (we live on different cities as well and only see each ther on weekends).
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Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you just want what's best for him and are not upset because you think he's antisocial, but because he doesn't have a support system.
 
It would depend on why. Someone who had no friends because he was anti-social or unable to form relationships is probably not someone I would want to date. He also is probably someone who would not want to date me, or perhaps anyone.
 
Being a bit of a loner and always choosing MY friends carefully, I'd say yes. The quality of one's friends speaks much louder than the quantity.
 
Being quite socially awkward myself I don't think it'd be fair to punish the guy for having the same problem.

Unless the reason he has no friends is that he's a huge douche bag, but in that case I would not have to think over anyways ;)
 
YES without a doubt, but he has to be HOT! I myself am not a people's person so if he wasn't either, it would make me EXTREMELY happy. As long as we get each other and he not a CIA agent or a killer on the side, this would be a dream come true.
 
Sure ...why not? ... I myself have few very seriously close friends* ...mainly because most people are brain-dead worthless scum. ..|

*To whom I am utterly devoted.
 
It would depend upon why the person had only one or no close friends, context, right?

If it's simply a personal preference on their part, then it shouldn't matter. Some people like having several close friendships, for others, one is perfect.

If they had no close friends, none, I would be concerned. I agree with what Grey_Sky wrote. I think it's a good thing for a person to have atleast one close friend, confidant, apart from their partner, if for no other reason, someone independent of you for those times they need to reach out. Just one.

There are people who have difficultly forming close friendships at all. This is not to be confused with someone who is happy with the choice of a few, or no close friends, this would be someone who wants to form those bonds, but can't. That would be a red flag for me. After all, a good, healthy, loving relationship should have it's foundation in a good friendship, if someone is struggling with achieving that level of intimacy with another person, I think it would be difficult to form an even closer relationship as a boyfriend/romantic partner.
 
NO friends? Probably not. I don't want to be the sole source of emotional support for someone.

Few friends? Of course...
 
Sure,why not? I can totally relate to that.I know tons of people,that doesn't mean we're friends.Some of them are cool,many are not.Most people though,I can take or leave.

I can count my friends on several fingers.I've moved around quite a bit and have lost touch with people over the years.These days,it's pretty much me,my family and a few people I occcasionally hang out with..

Good thing I'm comfortable in my skin.I don't mind being by myself for long periods of time..I guess my years driving a truck cross country got me used to ''running solo.''
 
If I lost 3 fingers I still would be able to count how many personal-at-my-town friends I have, and on-line I have a about the same amount and half-a-dozen of .

I don't think really close to any of them

When I was a teenager I was desperate to have a "best friend", is not even a boyfriend, just a friend that somehow needed me. I knew I was, at best, second choice, and mostly, the last choice. I felt lonely.

things din't improved, and... honestly, is not like I don't want a "best friend" anymore... is just that... I sort of accepted the fact that I won't have any close personal friend that doesn't make me feel like my presence is tolerated rather than desired.

with that in mind, I also give up to ever have a boyfriend... I too old, I haven't learned to make friends at my age I have no hope to learn to have a boyfriend... or be a good one... I never ever felt like... falling in love...

It depresses me to no end.

but I accept that, there is no point deny reality.

I am and always be alone.

Sorry for taking some much space from your topic.
 
CUMMINGS, thanks for the post.

BlueLantern said:
with that in mind, I also give up to ever have a boyfriend... I too old, I haven't learned to make friends at my age I have no hope to learn to have a boyfriend... or be a good one... I never ever felt like... falling in love...
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You're 26. That's not too old for most people.

BlueLantern said:
Sorry for taking some much space from your topic.
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No need to apologize for taking up space from this topic. I wrote this thread so I can read responses and get some input from others.
 
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