Would you rather top or bottom a straight guy?

[Rex]

Hey Sultan...wish I was in Michigan as I can tell you would be a great guy to hang out with and find you the right man. When you are with a true straight man you have to think like one and go into the encounter with the mindset that it is just going to be sex and not love however; you might find one that enjoys the sex on a regular basis just not enough to dump the wife or girlfriend for you.

I don't live in Michigan anymore. I live in Texas and have had a few experiences with straight military guys. Some of them just come here for training so I guess they see it as a good opportunity to do something with a guy here since they don't live here I guess and nobody knows them here so it's safer, plus they are away from whoever it is they are dating or married to...

 

[bijockdude]

I don't live in Michigan anymore. I live in Texas and have had a few experiences with straight military guys. Some of them just come here for training so I guess they see it as a good opportunity to do something with a guy here since they don't live here I guess and nobody knows them here so it's safer, plus they are away from whoever it is they are dating or married to...

You are so right in my humble opinion military men sometimes want to let loose after being around men all day...where you at in TX now?

Be great to share some stories sometime

 

[medic1]

Giving the choice i would fuck the as of him , like sultan there is just
something about topping a straight Alpha male and it probably happens
more than we realise .
Take cruising as an example just how many of those guys are either married
or in a relationship with a girl .
Unlike a lot of gay men i do believe that you can and do get straight guys who are curious ,and as the poster says straight men have to usually work harder for
their moments of pleasure .

 

[mark08]

This is a very keen observation lol...

This is what many "straight" men are after actually. I have had a few straight guys try to "seduce" me and in none of the instances did i picture them as the "top" or "dominate", even tho all these guys are pretty much on top of the social ladder, could have any woman they wanted, extremely attractive and intelligent, etc.

However, another dynamic presents itself - that assuming a submissive role may be in-line with other alpha male traits.

Or maybe some guys have a basic instinct that necessitate different roles, like being submissive to another guy, especially among alpha males.

Alpha males require the MOST amount of support, because they rely entirely on others for their social status. One of these support methods is being fucked by another guy. I think this is to "balance" his high social stature with a "down-low bitching out" and being totally submissive sexually.

This behavior has probably evolved for a reason, in that a social hierarchy with a well-supported and often submissive alpha male is good for race preservation.

As you can tell i have put too much thought into this lol...

I think you hit the nail on the head here. I'm what you'd describe as the ''straight alpha male'', very confident, etc. But, I do enjoy strapon play with women once in a while, as a way to balance things out like you put it. It's also a heavy load to carry to always be the one in charge, giving away control once in a while takes that load off.

This is a very interesting point and view and it's true in many cases. It's also really hot to see these types of "alpha male" masc guys act like bottom bitches behind closed doors. I've seen it, even had some of them. I wouldn't say those guys were straight though. They were bi at least to some extent.

Straight guys who have sex with guys might get oral or fuck but I don't think they'd be into bottoming or sucking.

To be honest, I'm straight and nothing about a man's body turns me on, so I probably wouldn't even get hard to get head from one, watching a guy's face on my dick would be extremely awkward for me. Same goes for fucking one.

However, people often get turned on by things they've never tried (hence why married couples of 10 years usually start cheating, trying kinky stuff, etc.) So as a guy who's into girls, I'd probably prefer assuming the bottom role since it would be entirely new to me (well, almost, since I've tried strapons before).

 

[momoda6]

Realistically, I'd do whatever he wanted me to do. If he's straight he's probably going to have very specific bondaries of what he's willing to try.

If it were up to me, I'd want him to bottom. Not that I'm particularly a top, but I feel like that would be a more memorable experience than just putting your dick somewhere else. It's like if they were fucking me, I'd probably think they're just trying to imagine they were someone else or with someone else, but if they were getting fucked, there's no way they can imagine they're still with a girl. That probably sounds really creepy though. Don't tell Freud.

 

[szuchie]

I think prison is a lot different than not having a girlfriend... I think any straight guy would rather masturbate than even think about doing anything with another guy. But maybe i'm wrong, maybe the world is just full of closeted "straight" guys that given the chance will choose to "go gay" if they're horny enough

I totally agree... I just made a similar thread regarding my "straight friend". If you ask a gay guy "Would you have sex with a girl" the answer is 99% likely no. So why is it different with a straight guy? There's a difference between straight and bi.

 

[hothunk222]

I would rather top a straight guy, fuckim in the ass and dominate him.

 

[youngnihilist]

Would love to fuck a "straight" guy, of course he's not straight if he's gonna bottom for me. He can say he is, but he ain't. I haven't messed around with a closet case in denial (aka straight) guy in a while, but I always loved rimming them and playing with their ass. Never got to fuck though. They need it.

 

[firstella]

You don't have to be in prison not to have access to women, at least 75% of straight guys are unattractive (out of shape, don't take care of themselves, no style) and have absolutely no game. Now, you might not know this, but it's a lot more demanding to get laid with girls than it is with guys, hence why it's not always an option to a lot of straight guys.

And I know it every gay guy's fantasy that all straight men are secretly gay, but sorry, they really arent. Some can get horny to a point where he'll be open to do something with a guy, but afterwards he'll feel really weird about it and probably just cut off all contacts with the guy. Gays will cuddle and kiss then go watch a movie afterwards. The two are very different.

First off its totally delusional to think that because you call yourself "straight" that what you choose to do with other men---called homosexuality--- is different and less "gay" (such as the theory that as long as you aren't the bottom or feel comfortable with it, you are in fact straight).

This doesn't make you straight, this makes you CONFUSED, and non-accepting of your true sexuality (whatever that may be). And most of us BI and Gay alike have already been through this stage ourselves. But its unfortunate that such a theory even exists.

"Straight Men" are uncomfortable after homo-sex because they are scared of what everyone would think of them, and hence cutting off all contact with the other (only to find another person to share an encounter with later on...). This becomes a habit of insecurity, not of affirmation (of actually being hetero that is..)

Cut the Internalized Homophobic Boloni!

 

[firstella]

Also, if a guy is truly into women (only) why would being "very very horny" tempt him into being with men? For a true straight guy (who has never considered men even in the secret confines of his own mind), Lack of women should only influence him to enjoy himself, BY HIMSELF, like we've been doing since puberty....Again, Ignorance may be Bliss but Cut the BOLONI!!!

 

[HunterM]

Blow him...regardless if he's straight, gay or bi. Men are men. I would fuck him if only he agrees to give it a go. It's not a big deal if he does not want to.

 

[mark08]

First off its totally delusional to think that because you call yourself "straight" that what you choose to do with other men---called homosexuality--- is different and less "gay" (such as the theory that as long as you aren't the bottom or feel comfortable with it, you are in fact straight).

This doesn't make you straight, this makes you CONFUSED, and non-accepting of your true sexuality (whatever that may be). And most of us BI and Gay alike have already been through this stage ourselves. But its unfortunate that such a theory even exists.

"Straight Men" are uncomfortable after homo-sex because they are scared of what everyone would think of them, and hence cutting off all contact with the other (only to find another person to share an encounter with later on...). This becomes a habit of insecurity, not of affirmation (of actually being hetero that is..)

Cut the Internalized Homophobic Boloni!

Your sexual orientation is not based on what you do, it's based on what you feel and your attraction towards the same or opposite sex. Some men are attracted to women, some to men. Some men have sex with women, others with men, or both. One is feelings, the other is actions. Two totally different planes.

This is anything but homophobic, if anything it's heterophobic since the general vibe I've been getting here is that as soon as a certain curiosity sparks in the head of a straight man, he suddenly turns bi. I'm straight, I have zero attraction towards a man physically or emotionally, but if a lesbian woman asked me to give it a go with her, simply because she was curious, I wouldn't jump off my seat and scream ''WELL YOU'RE A CLOSET STRAIGHT!'' simply because I'm not insecure enough to impose labels on others like some of you are doing.

The reason some of you think that every straight men are closet cases or bi is because we don't go around parading about how straight we are, like gay men do. It's two different cultures. I also don't like to generalise and I won't do it, because some people here are clearly open minded and can carry on intelligent discussions, but others just keep pushing those ''closet'' or ''bi'' cards in every straight man's face. If tomorrow you feel like banging a chick just to see what it's like and afterwards you realise it's not your thing, you're still gay. You didn't become bi or straight because you stuck your dick in a vagina. On the other hand, if you develop romantic feelings for the said woman and engage in intercourse with different women on several occasions, THEN you might have a case for you being bi or possibly straight. It's the exact same logic with straight men, I'm not sure why it's so hard for you to grasp it.

 

[RRUGER]

I realize that, in fact I never said anything along those lines...

Sometimes I get my hopes up and expect people to at least be literate if they're on the internet *shrug*

i mean i dont get you guys, this guy is asking a question but you come in here with your bitchy attitude and start being so rude.

stick to topic or get the fuck out.

theres st8 bi and gay and trisexuals a lot of them trust me there are tons of closeted freaky people but with society now most will identify str8 so they are str8 who are wqe to judge just fucking do you and shut the fuck up

now to answer the authors question

i rather fuck a str8 guy in the ass or get fucked

 

[firstella]

1.) Your sexual orientation is not based on what you do, it's based on what you feel and your attraction towards the same or opposite sex. Some men are attracted to women, some to men. Some men have sex with women, others with men, or both. One is feelings, the other is actions. Two totally different planes.

This is anything but homophobic, if anything it's heterophobic since the general vibe I've been getting here is that as soon as 2.) a certain curiosity sparks in the head of a straight man, he suddenly turns bi. I'm straight, I have zero attraction towards a man physically or emotionally, but if a lesbian woman asked me to give it a go with her, simply because she was curious, I wouldn't jump off my seat and scream ''WELL YOU'RE A CLOSET STRAIGHT!'' simply because 3.) I'm not insecure enough to impose labels on others like some of you are doing.

The reason some of you think that every straight men are closet cases or bi is because 4.) we don't go around parading about how straight we are, like gay men do. It's two different cultures. I also don't like to generalise and I won't do it, because some people here are clearly open minded and can carry on intelligent discussions, but others just keep pushing those ''closet'' or ''bi'' cards in every straight man's face. 5.) If tomorrow you feel like banging a chick just to see what it's like and afterwards you realise it's not your thing, you're still gay. You didn't become bi or straight because you stuck your dick in a vagina. On the other hand, if you develop romantic feelings for the said woman and engage in intercourse with different women on several occasions, THEN you might have a case for you being bi or possibly straight. It's the exact same logic with straight men, I'm not sure why it's so hard for you to grasp it.

Adressing all the remarks in bold..

1.) Really??? ...Answer me this, since when did YOU write the dictionary (about sexuality)? Last time I checked it, "homosexual" was someone who HAD SEX with the same sex, regardless of admitted attraction or not, doesn't matter if it happened once, they were "homosexual" at that time) and since when did u have sex with someone (or something) you weren't attracted to?? LOL! CUM-ON!

2.) NO, Correction: A certain idea that sparks in a straight man's head that he is compelled to act on (and DOES IT) turns him BI (or homosexual at the time)..pick which you rather be called, but please, dont label it heterosexual just for the sake of avoiding what you believe is a negative (homosexual or gay)...CUM-ON

3.) Nope, Im not a labeler. I am FIRSTELLA, just as you are MARK08...but dont come on here to insult us all by affirming yourself as something "straight" or "better" than what many of us will ever be because you maintain a female screw club........honey, if you're having sex with both females and males, YOUR BISEXUAL by definition---sexually active with BOTH sexes!

4.) Straight men don't go around parading their "straightness" because they dont have to, its the norm, the ACCEPTED. Anything we are that is perceived negatively by society is Hard to accept about ourselves...My grandparents suffered because they couldn't hide how black they were decades ago...You can hide how "gay" you are by silly ideas that you are still "straight" but continue to sleep with men.

5.) No, if tommorow a gay man decided to bang a chick he would by definition terms be considered BISEXUAL or if once, Curious....but of course being that you insist that what you do allows you to maintain the dignity of your truly heterosexual counterparts, vice versa doesn't hold true, I guess.

 

[firstella]

Truly [shaking my head] at the persistent Delusion...

 

[easyroad]

Your sexual orientation is not based on what you do, it's based on what you feel and your attraction towards the same or opposite sex. Some men are attracted to women, some to men. Some men have sex with women, others with men, or both. One is feelings, the other is actions. Two totally different planes.

This is anything but homophobic, if anything it's heterophobic since the general vibe I've been getting here is that as soon as a certain curiosity sparks in the head of a straight man, he suddenly turns bi. I'm straight, I have zero attraction towards a man physically or emotionally, but if a lesbian woman asked me to give it a go with her, simply because she was curious, I wouldn't jump off my seat and scream ''WELL YOU'RE A CLOSET STRAIGHT!'' simply because I'm not insecure enough to impose labels on others like some of you are doing.

The reason some of you think that every straight men are closet cases or bi is because we don't go around parading about how straight we are, like gay men do. It's two different cultures. I also don't like to generalise and I won't do it, because some people here are clearly open minded and can carry on intelligent discussions, but others just keep pushing those ''closet'' or ''bi'' cards in every straight man's face. If tomorrow you feel like banging a chick just to see what it's like and afterwards you realise it's not your thing, you're still gay. You didn't become bi or straight because you stuck your dick in a vagina. On the other hand, if you develop romantic feelings for the said woman and engage in intercourse with different women on several occasions, THEN you might have a case for you being bi or possibly straight. It's the exact same logic with straight men, I'm not sure why it's so hard for you to grasp it.

Outside of the bolded piece of stupidity, this is actually a very good post.

But I need to go back to the bolded, and all I can say is: are you kidding me?

 

[Telstra]

This is a very keen observation lol...

This is what many "straight" men are after actually. I have had a few straight guys try to "seduce" me and in none of the instances did i picture them as the "top" or "dominate", even tho all these guys are pretty much on top of the social ladder, could have any woman they wanted, extremely attractive and intelligent, etc.

However, another dynamic presents itself - that assuming a submissive role may be in-line with other alpha male traits.

Or maybe some guys have a basic instinct that necessitate different roles, like being submissive to another guy, especially among alpha males.

Alpha males require the MOST amount of support, because they rely entirely on others for their social status. One of these support methods is being fucked by another guy. I think this is to "balance" his high social stature with a "down-low bitching out" and being totally submissive sexually.

This behavior has probably evolved for a reason, in that a social hierarchy with a well-supported and often submissive alpha male is good for race preservation.

As you can tell i have put too much thought into this lol...

sounds like in the animal kingdom of a Lions pride ...

 

[Telstra]

If I was on a deserted island with a straight man i'd be stoked if he wanted me to suck his cock and impale my ass hole on his cock, that would really be making the best of a bad situation , i'd even promise not to tell anyone if we got rescued .
If we were there long enough i might get him to fist me for a Christmas present .

mmm too busy to find food for survival. No time for sex.

 

[Críostóir]

A couple of thoughts about this:

1. Believing that no straight guy ever has gay sex is like believing no gay guy ever has straight sex--OR it's buying into society's "purity" rule, the one that says you can only be truly straight if you never, ever have even one gay experience, because straightness is the "pure" thing, not unlike being white.

I'm a Gold Star Gay: I've never had sex with a female and I predict that I never will. But I was a nerd; if I had been a star athlete from grade school on I might well have had a couple of hetero experiences before finding my true self.

2. That said, most straight guys won't have sex with other males.

3. THAT said, some will. There really is such a thing as curiosity; some guys really have to know "what it's like." And one of the things they wonder about most is getting fucked.

EDIT: I forgot to say that I'd top him. But probably I'd just leave him alone; at my age I have no time for tourists!

 

[Telstra]

Your sexual orientation is not based on what you do, it's based on what you feel and your attraction towards the same or opposite sex. Some men are attracted to women, some to men. Some men have sex with women, others with men, or both. One is feelings, the other is actions. Two totally different planes.

This is anything but homophobic, if anything it's heterophobic since the general vibe I've been getting here is that as soon as a certain curiosity sparks in the head of a straight man, he suddenly turns bi. I'm straight, I have zero attraction towards a man physically or emotionally, but if a lesbian woman asked me to give it a go with her, simply because she was curious, I wouldn't jump off my seat and scream ''WELL YOU'RE A CLOSET STRAIGHT!'' simply because I'm not insecure enough to impose labels on others like some of you are doing.

The reason some of you think that every straight men are closet cases or bi is because we don't go around parading about how straight we are, like gay men do. It's two different cultures. I also don't like to generalise and I won't do it, because some people here are clearly open minded and can carry on intelligent discussions, but others just keep pushing those ''closet'' or ''bi'' cards in every straight man's face. If tomorrow you feel like banging a chick just to see what it's like and afterwards you realise it's not your thing, you're still gay. You didn't become bi or straight because you stuck your dick in a vagina. On the other hand, if you develop romantic feelings for the said woman and engage in intercourse with different women on several occasions, THEN you might have a case for you being bi or possibly straight. It's the exact same logic with straight men, I'm not sure why it's so hard for you to grasp it.

On this topic experience counts.
And i think you got the experience to prove that you are right.