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Would you wait for the one you loved?

I concur with Swerve.

If you disappear, I'll move on, and not pine about what might have been. We're not getting any younger afterall. You or I might have died in the intervening years, and regret is a cold dish to swallow, or some such wierd.
 
that's a test. reminds me of what dmx used to say. if you let something go and it doesn't come back to you, it was never yours to begin with. :lol: if you and him like each other that much, then you'll still be together after those 5 to 6 years even if you break up and move on. both of you could hook up with whoever you want to, date or whatever BUT if you can't find anything better than what you have with that person and they feel mutually, then you might as well.

me, personally, i don't think i'd care to tell you the truth. i could break up, wait it out or whatever. i've been single for 26 years and i don't think being in a relationship is going to rewire my mind where i'm going to be clingy or be on some "i can't live without" shit. i still have my hand and my porn so it doesn't matter to me.
 
I think that asking you to wait for him would be unbelievably selfish. In 5-6 years, anything can happen. You could also move away, either one of you could fall out of love or in love will someone else, or completely change your priorities and goals. Death or illness are also a possibility, as Star-warrior said. Taking someone for granted enough to expect them to throw away such a long period of their lives based on a promise of future happiness, is rather illogical and ungenerous. What do you offer the other person? Hope for the future? News of your unraveling new life and new experiences away from them? That's definitely not good enough.

i would definitely say no.
 
In the current arrangement, within in 5-6 years, your love will fuck about 60 guys in NY and you will be long forgotten. Couples do manage long distance relationships because some careers require that, but 5-6 year complete separation is not realistic at all. Either you both move together, or you arrange it that every few months, you will fly to see each-other if your relationship is that serious.
 
What's there to wait for? You'd be wasting your time by waiting years for someone to come back into your life. Have you heard of the saying "out of sight, out of mind"? Do you think he would be thinking of you during all the years he'd be gone? Please, he's gonna do whatever he wants (sexually speaking). Why would you want some guy to come back to you after he's done having all his fun?
 
This is not the 1800s where a man needs to go off to make his fortune so he can come home and marry his childhood sweetheart.
 
wait for six years? probably not, but I've been in a similar situation right now and have been waiting 6 months so far
 
I'd tell him I'd wait and then sleep with whomever struck my fancy. If I were single when the five years was up, I'd take him back. F I wasn't, I'd break up with him.

...why not? He obviously didn't involve me in HIS decision process. :)

Lex
 
Not for the career reason, but if there was a reason I would consider acceptable and his love for we was guaranteed, then yes I guess (but that would be an open-relationship style waiting... I'm totally confident in my ability to reserve my heart ... other organs of my body however ... )
 
I know it says the one you love, but are you boyfriends or husbands. If you are husbands then yes, you are in this mess together and whatever is best for you guys as a couple is the way to go. I don't understand why you couldn't go with him unless your career is also a good one. There are planes now, you could see each other often. If you are just boyfriends then try it but when it appears it is not going to work, well then, later dude.
 
CottonBolus said:
Say the one you loved said to you: "I'm off to establish a career in New York, I won't be seeing you in another 5-6 years, I wouldn't blame you if you decided to find another guy and move on without me."

Would you wait for him?

I personally would really have to think about it. Waiting could be considered a very sick form of torture, but if I loved him enough then yes I would wait 6 years for him.

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I watched this film once of this woman who waited for the guy she loved to return, she woke up one day, and found that she had aged. She went insane towards end of the film. Her lover never did return.
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That's a very very long time. I would say to him "Good luck but I am moving on"
 
I wouldn't. Perhaps it would be nice if we were together. Perhaps we will be together in the future. But I can't wait for someone especially if it's that long.
 
My life is sadly not a musical.
 
Just last night we met a girl from Africa who came here 4 years ago to attend college. She knew she would not be able to afford to go home at all during that time. Her bf stayed in Africa and they agreed to be faithful to each other and remain together. She just graduated and is heading home to Africa to marry him. So it can happen.
 
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