Would your life be easier if you were str8?

[NameTaken]

My life would definitely be much easier.

 

[Lukeee]

Hell yeah.

If I were a str8 boi life would be easier. I wouldn't be called horrible names and get evil stares every day of my life.

 

[Alpha1851]

Of course, they'll be obstacles for each side.

I think the possibles for finding dates will be easier if you were straight.

No need to second guess yourself. Boy sees girl. Boy asks girl.

No, that depends on how attractive you are and how much money you make . Just look in the straight/bi forum. Bi guys go on and on about how much easier it is to find a bf than a gf. Like most things in life, maybe this is one of those, "the grass is always greener...," situations.

If you have an outgoing, confident personality, I believe it's easier to land a date. Guy or gal. Gay or straight.

 

[Alpha1851]

Okay, I see what you mean by that. The playing field is a bit more open and convenient for straight people to find a mate than it is for a gay person.

Yeah, but according to you fellas, it's much easier to find quick and easy sex when you feel like it. I guess it's a trade off.

 

[Rimmer]

No, I welcome the challenge. Being a minority has given me faith!

 

[slowandsteady]

Boy: i like u
Girl: whatever.
Now repeat til you find the girl who will respond back.

I liked some of my guy friends or guys in their family but would never break the friendship line.

 

[Telstra]

str8 would be "mentally" easier but physically harder because you would have to produce babies and take care of babies until they becomes adults ...

So, it balances out.

 

[Alpha1851]

But being gay, I don't even go that far.

For straights, there is no guessing. It's all clear. Boy finds girl. Girl finds boy.

For a straight boy, it's easier for him to see a girl he likes to ask her for a date. There is no guessing if she is a female or male.

For a gay boy, it's more difficult. He'll need to decide if the guy is straight or gay. Most of the time, it's hard to tell.

It's always difficult to approach someone you like for the first time. I have plenty of guy friends who get all nervous and sick at their stomachs when it comes to the ladies. Even though the odds are in their favor that she's straight, that doesn't mean that she'll like them. That doesn't mean that she won't laugh in their face. That doesn't mean that she won't tell all her friends that he's a total loser. And what if she does turn out to be a lesbian? What if the girl is hitting on a gay guy? It happens.

Besides, typically a gay couple earns more money than their hetero or lesbian counterparts, since men usually make more money than women and get promoted quicker for the same jobs.

Trust me. If you were no longer gay, there would be something else that would make you a little insecure. No one leads a perfect, bubble gum life. I mean, do you believe life is easier for the ugliest, poorest straight fella as compared to the best looking, wealthiest, gay fella? Surely not.

Do you have a crush on someone Pigster?

 

[Alpha1851]

Who says straights HAVE to produce babies. I know a few straight couples who don't WANT kids.

AMEN! Why do gay folks forget that? We aren't together in order to breed. No thanks.

 

[Lawnmowerman]

Sure it would be; but then that would have broken my streak of stupid, shitty crap I have to deal with .

 

[Alpha1851]

dammit, I want a bf.

Go out and get one Piggy! You found the gay bar near your house. Go on in and snag a fella. I don't have any scientific proof, but if he's in said bar, he's probably gay.

Gosh, I'm always amazed at the quality guys who are single on JUB. Some gay men must sort of be like some straight girls--they go for the assholes.

 

[Telstra]

Who says straights HAVE to produce babies. I know a few straight couples who don't WANT kids.

if you can produce babies, you must, otherwise people would say how selfish they are.


*btw, not me, people can do what ever they want.

 

[Alpha1851]

Hey, you read my thread.

Nope, they're too confusing. I can't keep up w/ your dating life.

Piggy, maybe if you were more "out," the men would come to you and you wouldn't have to worry about making the first move.

 

[Telstra]

AMEN! Why do gay folks forget that? We aren't together in order to breed. No thanks.

biological clock ticking ..........

 

[Alpha1851]

biological clock ticking ..........

See, that's a huge plus to being gay, no one pressures you to set up a picture perfect family w/ 2.5 kids, a family dog, and a white picket fence. And, you can form open relationships w/o it causing a heart attack. Straights have misters/mistresses and sweep it all under the rug.

Guys, I'm being idealistic here. Clearly there are some downsides to be gay, just as there are to being straight. I know that.

 

[Críostóir]

Hmm. In the sense that had the baby that turned into me turned into a straight guy instead, that person's life would likely have been easier than mine has been, yes.

But he wouldn't have been ME.

I think the question is meaningless as phrased, because "I" wouldn't have an easier life if I were straight, because being gay and the consequent ordeals and tribulations that has entailed have shaped the person I have become to such and extent that no straight version of "me" would be me in any real sense.

That said, straight guys generally have an easier time of it than gay guys.

 

[Telstra]

See, that's a huge plus to being gay, no one pressures you to set up a picture perfect family w/ 2.5 kids, a family dog, and a white picket fence. And, you can form open relationships. Straights have misters/mistresses and sweep it all under the rug.

but in non western countries (eg muslim countries), the mental turtore would be ... ?

 

[Joshua_me]

Ahh.... That question.

I've been through it countless times in my head. On the one hand, the answer is 'Yes'. I mean, obviously it's a struggle in our society to be gay. People talk behind your back, think of you as 'different'. And 'different' is what the kinder people think. Others call us faggots and fudge packers and are quite convinced we're all going straight to hell. Many would like to see us swinging from the nearest tree.

So, even though I'm at a point in my life where their ignorence doesn't bother me nearly as much as it used to, I'd being lying if I said that it still hurts at times, and it's just human nature to do what even you can to stop the hurt.

Would I like to have a wife, 2.5 kids, an SUV parked in driveway just past the white picket fence ? Enjoy sensible, heterosexual missionary position sex every 10 days or so while the wife is watching Leno over my shoulder ? I dunno, sometimes I suppose I would.

But, on the other hand, (I knew I'd get to that 'other hand' eventually ) I am as God made me. I am a gay man. And I have to dig my feet in and stand up for myself and my community. In the end, it's pointless to wonder if my life would be better off straight, because that is just not reality.

 

[Alpha1851]

Isn't the real question, "Would life be easier if I became a member of the majority?"

 

[Swellegant]

My childhood would certainly have been easier; finding a mate would probably be easier; but would LIFE be easier?

HELL NO! I'd just have a different set of problems.

I mean, yeah, if I was straight, I'd probably be in a relationship by now... all sorts of women find me completely irresistable (of course, it's probably because I'm gay); women are more easily impressed by kindness and generosity paired with a plain face on a schlubby body than guys are.

HOWEVER, having a relationship wouldn't be any guarantee that I'd be happy. You can be just as lonely married as you can be single... and in my experience, the only thing worse than loneliness is to be lonely with someone else in the room taking up space and making noise.

And for a straight guy, being single is never a choice... unless you're a dashing international playboy, straight guys staying single for a long time are considered losers. Not lonely, not in unfortunate circumstances, not choosing a different lifestyle: LOSERS. You want to be a slut and bounce from bed to bed, or you want to spend a certain amount of quality time alone? Too bad.

As far as the relative ease of knowing if the object of your affections is even correctly oriented towards you, much less attracted to you... bullshit. I've never had to wonder if someone I was interested in was gay or not. If he was gay, in the world I live in, he'd say so. Or, if I wasn't sure, I'd just ask him out anyway. If he chose to punch me in the face for it, I'd kick him in the balls and that would be that.

Sure, I live in a major metropolitan city in a large and progressive state. Sure, I was lucky that I was born here and grew up here and have family here... but a million people move from one place to another every month. There's no law keeping anybody in whatever backwater bump-in-the-road they might live in. If there ain't no 'mos in your neck of the woods, change woods. It's really that simple.

I'm a manic-depressive, I've been without a partner of any kind for my entire life, and I live with a ninety-year-old woman. But I'm a hell of a lot happier than a lot of my neighbors, with their houses and mortgages and kids, the stifling blanket of Heteronormative Society tying them inexorably into place, truncating their choices as surely as my sexuality can have truncated mine.

Being straight isn't easier. Put that out of your head right now. If your life isn't the way you want it, change it; but nobody has it easier than anyone else... just different.