You tortured me in high school..

[LeicsDom]

I had a similar situation. Guy bullied me in high school because he had a crush on me and he didn't know how to deal with those feelings.

I had that, too. At school he was an asshole but away from school he was always trying to get in my pants.
The thing was, if he had just been straight about what he wanted I would have said yes. But the dichotomy of his behaviour in and out of school made me distrust him.

 

[Rex]

I have become facebook friends with people I once disliked; especially from basic training and other military people. Most of them I've patched things up with and just kinda looked past our differences. I've never actually gotten a request from anyone who was a bully to me. I don't keep in contact with anyone like that from my past but I do have a lot of people on facebook friend list who are very small aquantences and I briefly knew, either from work or school. I could count the number of people I consider true friends on one hand. I don't add anyone on facebook that I haven't actually met in person but I have approved friend requests sent by other people to me, who I've never met.

I have had people who were friendly to me in person but have deleted me off their friends list for reasons unknown. With certain women, I've noticed if they're married, they don't really add any male friends unless they're family or something but others have just mysteriously deleted me ....

 

[innocentbychoice]

I had a similar situation. Guy bullied me in high school because he had a crush on me and he didn't know how to deal with those feelings. He told me such at the 5-year reunion. I accepted his apology which was extremely tough to do. I kept mum about how what it emotionally and psychologically did to me because I prefer to keep those memories repressed.

Wow you let him go very easily. I would've taken the opportunity to tell him EXACTLY how I felt the whole time he did it and make him feel like shit. Ugh I hate bullies.

 

[maxpowr9]

^It was a high school reunion. It's one of those situations you don't make an ass out of yourself. If I ran into him anywhere else, I probably would have been less forgiving.

 

[sixthson]

Or start it all over again.

This is what I was thinking, too. Maybe the schoolyard bully is now a cyber bully?

 

[Telstra]

I have become facebook friends with people I once disliked; especially from basic training and other military people. Most of them I've patched things up with and just kinda looked past our differences. I've never actually gotten a request from anyone who was a bully to me. I don't keep in contact with anyone like that from my past but I do have a lot of people on facebook friend list who are very small aquantences and I briefly knew, either from work or school. I could count the number of people I consider true friends on one hand. I don't add anyone on facebook that I haven't actually met in person but I have approved friend requests sent by other people to me, who I've never met.

I have had people who were friendly to me in person but have deleted me off their friends list for reasons unknown. With certain women, I've noticed if they're married, they don't really add any male friends unless they're family or something but others have just mysteriously deleted me .... :(

Maybe some people just use facebook for sex hookups.
If no sex, no contact LOL And they won't add their friends or family either.

 

[BFizzle]

I was the tormentor in high school, so.

 

[weinerslav]

Well, I have a facebook account just to... I don't know, I never go there anyway, and when I go I always have a bunch of red numbers everywhere, people spend too much time facebooking!

Fortunately never had real bullies but I had a few pet hates, of course I wouldn't add them, I only show the essential to non friends so they can damn their lives because I'm actually awesome ahah. I wouldn't add them because of any hidden agenda they may have, I really don't want to show too much to that people.


EDIT: I must confess that I like to visit their profiles when I get together with my friends, we all point and laugh about their sad little lives lol (that's why I don't add them LOL)

 

[Telstra]

Well, I have a facebook account just to... I don't know, I never go there anyway, and when I go I always have a bunch of red numbers everywhere, people spend too much time facebooking!

Fortunately never had real bullies but I had a few pet hates, of course I wouldn't add them, I only show the essential to non friends so they can damn their lives because I'm actually awesome ahah. I wouldn't add them because of any hidden agenda they may have, I really don't want to show too much to that people.


EDIT: I must confess that I like to visit their profiles when I get together with my friends, we all point and laugh about their sad little lives lol (that's why I don't add them LOL)

ummm thats not cool.
That is similar to bully.

 

[MissAnne]

Its kind of weird how people that you went to HS with like to request you on Facebook, even though they never bothered to talk to you all four years that you went to school together.

Ive never had a bully contact me.

Thats one of the reasons that I want to go to my HS reunion. I just want to show everyone how much Ive grown and that Im not that timid, shy girl anymore.

 

[weinerslav]

ummm thats not cool.
That is similar to bully.

Well, not exactly, since they never know... hence the pet hate... It was all about being fake and badmouthing you on your back, even if you know eventually it happens, some people always take it too far so, it's a little vendetta, not the most mature thing to do, I know, but eventually it makes me feel good that who's on top now is me.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I was somewhat bullied in middle school. Nothing physical luckily. The person kind of grew up in high school. Never got a facebook request.

 

[diamondstar]

No one from my past has even looked me up. Thank you Jehovah.

 

[wilbur33]

I don't want to make light of childhood bullying - I think it's absolutely abhorrent - but the thread topic made me think of this song that I absolutely LOVE:

 

[diamondstar]

A lovely song indeed. "Are you fucking kidding me?" is the question I ask myself everyday with the folks I deal with.

 

[gamestarp]

People only remember the good times, I think.

Like for instance, the only guy in my small high school who ever beat me up, still keeps trying to friend me. Not just on Facebook. When I see him back in my hometown, he buys drinks, acts like we're friends. He was such an ass in high school, I don't think he knows what a friend is. I think he remembers having a good time rubbing my face in the dirt, and so he likes seeing me now. Who knows.

Also, why do the acquaintances of my younger brother want to be facebook friends with me? He's been dead, god rest his soul, for ten years. I don't know who they are at all! Is there some kind of prize for having the most facebook friends?

 

[BreakTheIce]

Facebook is stupid. I quit it over a year ago and don't miss anything. I love how everyone has on average like 100+ friends, most of which they have never even met in person or ever will.

 

[gamestarp]

Facebook is stupid. I quit it over a year ago and don't miss anything. I love how everyone has on average like 100+ friends, most of which they have never even met in person or ever will.

You shouldn't quit facebook, I don't think. Just do like me, and never post anything. Several times I have learned about events, like marriages and deaths, of which I would never have known otherwise.

 

[goldenmoth]

Nope, Mine's in jail

 

[Callum]

I don't really remember high school. I wasn't out so I wasn't bullied for my sexuality. I know names, can place faces, I remember random teachers. It was only five years ago and I don't remember events. They sporadically return to me but it's largely a collection of fragmented memories. Isn't that awful? Ha.

I started out with Facebook in 2006 when I was still in high school. Most of my 'friends' on there are from high school...unlike some people, when they transition to university and add their 'new' friends, I didn't. As a result my Facebook is probably around 90% people I no longer talk to or have no desire to... and it has about 92 friends on it as every few months I'll log on and delete even more people.