Your age, does it "bother" you?

[Andross]

Nope, age doesn't bother me. My first relationship (sorta) was with a man 30 years older than me. It's not that horrible, but over time, you notice the difference of generation... I hope that I'll be happier when I am in my 50s than this friend is...

 

[januaryguy]

I wil be 43 in nine days. Im comfortable with my age and actually enjoying life.

 

[eddielee]

The only thing that bothers me about my age is the fact that I now know what I'd wished I knew 20 years ago.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Nope. There is nothing I can do about it and there is nothing I would wish to do about it.

I ain't a twink no more and, if a dude is exclusively into twinks, he'd better stop wasting his time with me. That's where the 'move on' phrase hits the target.

I guess, no one is really genuinely bothered by his age. People are really bothered by the fact that rejection happens more often to 'older guys' than to the younger hotties.

So, you want to do everything conceivable and always be and look your very best.

You also have to keep in mind that the world is full of hot 20 somethin' guys. Certainly, there is no shortage of guys in their 40's, 50's or whatever. But there is always a shortage of people, who are a genuine mix of good and genuine looks coupled with a very good attitude.

I used to have a friend (not a BF or a partner) who was quite a few years older than myself. He also did not look his best, by any stretch of imagination as he was very seriously overweight. But, he was very successful; dressed up to the nines and certainly a most generous dude. He was more than willing to help and network for his friends. And he was very successful, when it came to showing the powers of his attraction. No doubt.

He put it down simply: There are all these guys out there in search of sex, friendship, possibly even partnership. But few are really capable of delivering anything but a quick ONS, due to a host of various reasons: starting from inexperience all the way to their marital status, downright poverty or whatever. I come with my age and my looks and with all the other advantages in the world. So, for the dudes, who see beyond the very obvious, I am their goal.

He wasn't that wrong.

SC

 

[_AJ_]

The only thing that bothers me about my age is the fact that I now know what I'd wished I knew 20 years ago.

and there it is if you were younger you wouldn't know what you do now i wish i had of known i was gay properly and accepted it in high school or while i was at uni but i didn't it takes time to figure these thing out
iam just glad i did figure it out

 

[Elwood]

Sometimes yes but most of the time no. I do wish I had accepted being gay at an earlier age but what are you going to do?

 

[1st love ron]

It's just a number.

 

[Kyanimal]

My "inner guy" thinks he's still 25! And, unless I do something stupid, like look in a mirror, or try to run somewhere, I generally relate/react to others as though I were still 25! But ... truth is ... I'm 56! And it's turning out to be both more, and less, than I thought mid-50's would be!

Many of my co-workers are quite younger than me. I'm older than most of their Dad's! But that reality seems to bother them less than it does me, whenever I pause to think about it!

Age really is just a number! It's your attitude that matters. One of my friends will be 99 in April! And I guarantee that most of you would consider her a "Total Blast"!!

Just one more reason to ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Lostlover]

Not bothered by my age. Happy with where I'm at.

I wouldn't want to be 18 again (I'm 23) as I wouldn't want to be in high school/starting college. If I had to go back and relive the 4 years of being an undergraduate, I don't know what I'd do.

But I have to admit, being 40 and in the gay community is like a death sentence. Hopefully I find that special person before my "final hours."

 

[Soilwork]

Oh for fuck's sake.

40 is not a death sentence.

I know plenty of gay men who are over 40, still totally hot, sought after by men half their age and loving every minute of it.

I'm so glad that I pitched that ageist baggage at about 26. I got to live and enjoy my life without that spectre of 40 (or even 30) hanging over my head. I got to look forward to getting older and not being all hung up on youth and beauty but instead being hung up on being manly and hot. (which, in case you missed it, is better as you get older)

 

[Swellegant]

It sometimes bothers me: not because I feel my attractiveness slipping away (though I do feel it slipping downward), but because I feel opportunities slipping away. Here I am at what is probably the middle of my life (I expect I'll live into my 80s), and I haven't accomplished a hell of a lot, and sometimes that bothers me.

Especially when I see people younger than me already established. A lot of my neighbors are young married professionals in high-paying jobs (they have to be, to live here), and they are by and large younger than I am... oh, the horrors of comparison! But then I remember that I wouldn't really want their lives, I much prefer my own even though I can't afford Gucci shoes or million-dollar homes.

There are also a lot of regrets for things I didn't do when I was young that you can only do while you're young. But hey, there are a lot of things I didn't do that I'm glad I didn't do... you make your choices, you put down your coins and throw your balls, and you get what you get.

 

[Soilwork]

Robert, that really nails it.

My mother always used to negatively compare me to everyone...

My sister was smarter, my triplet brothers were better athletes and had more friends..

...and then there was Robbie Whitlaw.


Robbie Whitlaw was just like Rod and Todd Flanders from the Simpsons. Annoyingly perfect and sweet and ALWAYS did what his church teacher would think was the best to do.

Robbie had the highest marks in school, was in Drama, Track, played the piano beautifully and worked as nice respectable summer job of Life Guard.

A few years ago, my mother actaully bragged to me about meeting him again... he was married with two kids.. "and Jasun.. he's a CONSULTANT and she's a DOCTOR."

She went on and on about how they live together in Ottawa in a big huge house with their two kids. "oh they're so sweet, you should see the picture" and "Jasun.. he makes more than all of us combined."

"Don't be so sure, old woman, you don't have the slightest clue what I make," is what I snapped back. (truth be known, I do just fine thanks, but that's not the point)


Of course he's now divorced. Living in Ottawa where it's cold and boring and working as a "consultant" whatever the fuck that is.

Even if he does make more than me (quite possible, I don't care), I'm happier than he'll ever be. I don't need a Jag to prove I'm a success and I dont' need to have any material things to prove I did well.

I'm sure that Robbie Whitlaw's mother isn't going on and on to him about how I'm a pornographer living in LA and riding in a gay motorcycle club in my spare time, but I don't give a shit wether he likes it or not. I'd never have his life and I bet he'd trade it in to have it turn out better.

So there.

 

[antdak]

I don't feel 46. I agree with most of the guys here!

 

[winterknight]

I already feel past it at 27.

But that probably has more to do with being hideously unfit and suffering from severe chronic insomnia than my actual age.

 

[Paladin]

I'm 44 and doing just fine thanks very much. I look good for my age and feel great.

Some younger guys seem to think they own the clubs but that's about my only peeve. Maybe the over-30's should reclaim the night!

 

[Theyoungman]

I'm 18 and yes it bothers me...

 

[irish1]

I am fifty and fabulous. So there. (thanks, Jasun!)

 

[ronboy]

Oh for fuck's sake.

40 is not a death sentence.

I know plenty of gay men who are over 40, still totally hot, sought after by men half their age and loving every minute of it.

I'm so glad that I pitched that ageist baggage at about 26. I got to live and enjoy my life without that spectre of 40 (or even 30) hanging over my head. I got to look forward to getting older and not being all hung up on youth and beauty but instead being hung up on being manly and hot. (which, in case you missed it, is better as you get older)

Jasun...THAT is why I love and admire you so! At age 43, I am on top of the world. I love my guy, (who will be turning 38 this year and is sexier now than when I met him), I am paid to do the job I love, and I enjoy life now, more than I did in my early 20's.

 

[Lube]

Life is good.

It's not worth second-guessing yourself to death.

A happy person attracts other people, regardless of age. Find happiness in your life; make happiness in your life.

 

[dolphwasser]

My age doesn't bother me nearly as much as it bothers other people.

After passing the half century mark a couple years ago (GOD that sounds ANCIENT), my age doesn't seem to bother other people nearly as much as it bothers me. I'm my own worst enemy. I guess it originates from events in my younger days that made mush out of my self esteem and still makes me feel like crap.