Your age, does it "bother" you?

[KennyD]

I'm 18 and yes it bothers me

Hey TheYoungMan ... In what way , if you don't mind explaining a little .. Thanks ..

 

[gewhite3]

I'm 42, soon to be 43 and I'm loving life!! I'm stable, in a good relationship with a nice career and have pretty much everything I want out of life. Still want a new home eventually but I'm working on it.

I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life and young guys are always trying to pick me up at the bar. My partner and I go out every Saturday night to hang out with friends and maybe have a little fun on the side if the opportunity arises.

Life is good........yeah!!

 

[MadeUpName27]

I'm 47.
It doesn't bother me at all.
Being "Mature" is better than being dead.

If my age bothers "Other" people -
I don't give a shit!

 

[cocktales]

You bet you sweet patootie it does!

Yes, I am OLD.........there, I said it; but dammit, I don't "think" old; but when I look in the mirror, I see an .......older man staring back at me!!!

I have survived all the hype of the ages.....30's, 40s, etc; but dag nab it, I just canNOT say I am happy about this nice BIG round number that I just reached!!! sigh

NO, I'm NOT a happy-camper so-to-speak; but since I have NO choice in the matter, I will/must accept this and just move on....

I guess so long as the man I sleep with every night is happy.........then, I guess I can swallow my pride and accept it..........



NO! I'm lieing ! lol

Oh well, perhaps I might learn to live with being old one of these days!!

 

[NickCole]

Something happens, for many between 26 and 30 or so, and for almost everyone between our late 40s and early 60s, to set us off about aging.

It's natural.

Although physical attractiveness can't help but be an issue given our youth-obsessed society, and the more good looking you were in your youth the harsher aging is going to feel, I think the larger issue is time passing, physical deterioration (muscles, bones, joints, etc) and opportunities lost. It's a transition thing and sends some into real depression. And no amount of anti-depressants (or for that matter surgery or injections, or hot cars or affairs with guys 25 years younger) will bring back youth. You just have to deal with it.

It hits at different times because of life circumstances, but eventually each of us notices that youth has left and we can't ever have it back again -- and if you think you went through it in your 20s so you won't go through it again, you have a big surprise ahead of you.

Does aging bother me? Of course it does. But the alternative is less appealing so I make the best of it. And in twenty years I'll look back to today and think I was young -- so I live today from that perspective.

 

[crlcxll]

Being 40 and in the gay community is only a "death sentence" if you make it that way. I am over 40 and love it and have never had a problem with age in the gay community. One makes his own problems with age not others.

 

[jamie_01930]

when I think about being 60 I just don't feel 60. more like 40 ish maybe .

as far as being gay and 60. well I sure do wish I was much younger but to add to the years I have left breathing..

to answer the question

no

 

[belamy]

Now that I come to think about it I found it rather annoying not being taken seriously for being (too) young.
Then, when you stop looking like a college boy everybody seems to suddenly respect you like you had never been ever before. Being an apparently well-trimmed and college-educated guy in the 25-35 range seems to gain you every nice warm smile and/or obsequiousness in the world.
However, I´m afraid that I may be entering an age in which people may expect of me not looking older, but having more money and a very "respectable" position (take that as you like).

 

[belamy]

To be honest I'd say that I might be afraid of the future (and getting older).
My age bothers me in the way that I feel I've wasted all my teenage years.

I used to feel the same way but, trust me, as long as you to do what you really want to do, without even "deciding" it, without thinking of what you "ought" or "ought not" have done, you will have wasted no time.
Like I said, I used to feel that way, until I became aware that I simply was living my life my own way, and if that meant skipping some usual teenage/young "fun" it was the "fun"´s loss, not mine

Furthermore, I have to agree (somehow) with Soil: the only reason why being under 30 is so idolized is because the official discourse is not as hard with skinny teenie/college rats as with 40-odd farts.

 

[NickCole]

Being 40 and in the gay community is only a "death sentence" if you make it that way. I am over 40 and love it and have never had a problem with age in the gay community. One makes his own problems with age not others.

40 is a breeze compared with 50's or 60s (or whenever it hits -- depends on genetics and life choices, etc).

Also I think attitudes about aging are healthier in Europe than in the States.

Gay or straight, being older in the States is generally looked at as uncool, unsexy, icky. Otherwise, why all the hair dye, the surgery and injections and cremes and oils and vitamins to look younger? Why are older people with more life experience passed over while younger people are hired? Why do even the older people in commercials LOOK not old thanks to airbrushing or computer manipulation?

 

[belamy]

Oh, by the way, about the 40s and all that thing: the "teens" go biologically from 15 to 25 (it´s silly, not to say insane or sick, to put fuckable 16-18 year olds and middle schoolers in the same category: Hollywood can choose 20 year-olds to play 15 year-olds not so much for legal issues as for what looks those ages are expected to -ideally- convey: compare the child-like looks of a 15 yo Reese Witherspoon in Wildflower and the same actress playing a 15 year-old at 20 in Freeway); the twenties go from 25 to 35 and the thirties from 35 to 45. So you are not actually "40" until you are around 45

 

[NickCole]

To be honest I'd say that I might be afraid of the future (and getting older).
My age bothers me in the way that I feel I've wasted all my teenage years.

That's not altogether a bad way to think.

I thought that way and still do. It keeps me taking chances and making opportunities happen. Nine times out of ten people told me I was going to regret doing what I did. They still tell me that. But I don't regret anything I've done. The only thing you regret when you live your life on your terms is that it went too fast.

 

[greaves]

I feel like a young man...

 

[Riverrick]

Oh, by the way, about the 40s and all that thing: the "teens" go biologically from 15 to 25 (it´s silly, not to say insane or sick, to put fuckable 16-18 year olds and middle schoolers in the same category: Hollywood can choose 20 year-olds to play 15 year-olds not so much for legal issues as for what looks those ages are expected to -ideally- convey: compare the child-like looks of a 15 yo Reese Witherspoon in Wildflower and the same actress playing a 15 year-old at 20 in Freeway); the twenties go from 25 to 35 and the thirties from 35 to 45. So you are not actually "40" until you are around 45

I am totally confused!

 

[belamy]

I am totally confused!

Of course you are, you had no idea you had been taught the wrong way until you read my post

 

[Croynan]

An Antiquity, , and they are ageless. Just check the Sotheby's catelogue.



eM.

 

[Riverrick]

Of course you are, you had no idea you had been taught the wrong way until you read my post

Well, it seems your math makes me younger, not older, so I'm not gonna fight it.

 

[irish1]

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[NightDancer]

Age is only what you make of it...... So you may not be able to do somersault dismounts off your latest fuck, but hey i haven't heard any complaints lately....

Some younger guys seem to think they own the clubs but that's about my only peeve. Maybe the over-30's should reclaim the night!

~ Starts planning the reclaim.....~

 

[hermanding]

no, 65 in septiembre and it's just a number. i have worked on myself over the years and like me and do my best to be a decent, moral, kind guy - failing often enough for sure.
not perfect, but i am happy more than not, and it took a while to get THERE. i never believe the number anyway
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