For both older (particularly married) men and those who have been with them: I'm curious about where I stand with one of my managers from work. I'll give a short description of the situation...
I have been working for this man as part of his team for a couple years. He's a married man (his 2nd marriage) with a few kids (some are step-children), and he is in his late 40s, about twice my age. I've been attracted to him for a while (he doesn't know I'm bisexual), and over time I feel like at may be mutual. He has said I am good-looking on a few occasions. And when we are conversing, if there is a brief lull in the conversation, sometimes our eyes will meet, and he'll get a warm and tender look in his eyes and smile. In more public situations, say, for example, a meeting, I'll steal looks at him and sometimes find he is looking at me, smiling. It's a lot of subtle things...or maybe I'm just a victim of wishful thinking.
The thing is, we look somewhat similar. We have the same height, same coloring...I don't know about build because he's a little overweight, but he could definitely pass as my father. Some people joke about it at the office, actually. That said, I'm wondering if he likes me because I remind him of himself (we even share some hobbies), or if it's something more physical. Or perhaps, in a weird way, if it's the latter because of the former. How common is it for a married man to have homosexual tendencies, particularly involving a younger man?
I have seen him pretty drunk, and he gets rather horny, but it's straight horny. However, I did have a peculiar conversation with him once: we were talking about the clubs and groups available at our company, and--I wish I could remember the exact exchanges that led up to it--but he began talking about how he attended an LGBT meeting, although he worded it as if it was just out of sheer intellectual curiosity. I was pretty surprised, but I didn't want to sound too excited so I facetiously asked if he was just there to preach the Bible (he's Christian, although a rather casual, and surprisingly bawdy, one). He just laughed with an unconvincing "yeah...I guess."
What are your guys' take on the situation? I don't intend to be a home-wrecker, and would never make a move in the workplace, but he's still nice to fantasize about.
I have been working for this man as part of his team for a couple years. He's a married man (his 2nd marriage) with a few kids (some are step-children), and he is in his late 40s, about twice my age. I've been attracted to him for a while (he doesn't know I'm bisexual), and over time I feel like at may be mutual. He has said I am good-looking on a few occasions. And when we are conversing, if there is a brief lull in the conversation, sometimes our eyes will meet, and he'll get a warm and tender look in his eyes and smile. In more public situations, say, for example, a meeting, I'll steal looks at him and sometimes find he is looking at me, smiling. It's a lot of subtle things...or maybe I'm just a victim of wishful thinking.
The thing is, we look somewhat similar. We have the same height, same coloring...I don't know about build because he's a little overweight, but he could definitely pass as my father. Some people joke about it at the office, actually. That said, I'm wondering if he likes me because I remind him of himself (we even share some hobbies), or if it's something more physical. Or perhaps, in a weird way, if it's the latter because of the former. How common is it for a married man to have homosexual tendencies, particularly involving a younger man?
I have seen him pretty drunk, and he gets rather horny, but it's straight horny. However, I did have a peculiar conversation with him once: we were talking about the clubs and groups available at our company, and--I wish I could remember the exact exchanges that led up to it--but he began talking about how he attended an LGBT meeting, although he worded it as if it was just out of sheer intellectual curiosity. I was pretty surprised, but I didn't want to sound too excited so I facetiously asked if he was just there to preach the Bible (he's Christian, although a rather casual, and surprisingly bawdy, one). He just laughed with an unconvincing "yeah...I guess."
What are your guys' take on the situation? I don't intend to be a home-wrecker, and would never make a move in the workplace, but he's still nice to fantasize about.
