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Yup, another one of those crush on straight guy thing

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Hi guys,

First of all, Happy New Year 2008 to you guys. May the new year be the time that we can fulfill our dreams.

Well, now i know this is another one of those crush or whatever you want to call it on a straight friend but i just need a place to rant it on as it has been bugging my mind for weeks now. I know it's not a good idea to think about it but i can't help it even though i've tried my best. It's because 1) he's straight and 2) he's my colleague.

Now it's hard to get him off my mind and i've tried not to get interested in him but it's just that he keeps on doing things to me that what i think can be interpreted as flirting.

As a background information, we are both working in audit field, thus this required us to have different team mate on different job. It all started when we are in the same team for a job which require us to work at the client's office. There's quite a few places that we can seat and he choose to sit beside me. He would occasionally bump my knee or play footsie with me. He would also sometimes muttered my name for no reason.
Also whenever we are around, he would wink at me even when he's talking with my other colleagues.

Now, few weeks back, we are on the same team again and this one require us (and 2 more female colleagues) to fly to another city for the job. He choose to sit next to me in the plane. And while over there, in the hotel room we stayed in, both of us have to share a king size bed. While in bed at night, he would sometime tickle my feet or touch my leg with his one. There's one night i'm planning to use my laptop to watch some movie before sleep but he keep on asking me not to use it. So i joke and said "Fine, since i got nothing to do, i'll watch you then." He just replied "Good". Another good yet frustrating thing is that every morning when i woke up, i would see his face upclose. Hehe. So nice. Too bad the trip has to end so soon.

Yesterday, another thing just happened which left me speechless and my mind blank. We were talking in the office and i asked him out for dinner (which too bad he can't make it in the end). He told me his parents are here for a visit and i said never mind and i said to ask him to invite his parents along. He said "Good, can meet my parents. I can introduce them my husband". I was like "huh? what did you just said? Sorry i was not paying attention." Then he repeat the same sentence. I asked "Husband, who's your husband?" He replied "You, of cos". Then we just laugh it off.

Now one thing that makes me confused is that from my other colleagues, i heard that he got a girlfriend who is pretty. Some of them have met her before. But whenever i asked him about her, he denies it. At first he said no, he don't have any. The next time i asked again, he said nah... he got a lot of girlfriends. Hmm... now why would he deny the fact that he has a girlfriend?

Well, that's all i have to express what's on my mind. Sorry for the long rant. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Again, Happy New Year to you guys.
 
An all-around flirt. Most likely not serious about anything -- keep it as a private fantasy and enjoy the friendship.
 
Uh okay.................

Just hope you get to travel with one another a lot more this year. Weird though, that you'd have to share a bed????????????
 
hm... i too am falling for a straight guy... but mine doesn't flirt with me NEARLY that much... seems like there might be something there... does he know you're gay?
 
Some straight guys play like that, don't take it too seriously. The "watching him" and the "husband" things are just a way of him having fun with his friend (you).

If he knows you're gay, he's just teasing you and trying to show you he's ok with that.

And about his girlfriend, he just might not like to talk about his personal love life, that's all...

Sorry, but from what you've said, I think he's a perfectly normal straight guy. Just enjoy your friendship with him and move on! ..|
 
Yup. Some straight guys flirt with men too. Some guys, regardless of their sexual orientation, simply enjoy attention from others and like being wanted. If he's straight and you get along well then congratulations, you got yourself a new friend. And you can never have too many friends.
 
yea dude it sounds like a simple straight guy dude, basically like everyone already said. I would keep your mind to a possiblity but more than likely move on.
 
Hey guys,

Thanks for the replies and advice. Its good to know what other people's view on this as this has been very confusing for me because basically all of my straight friends never did try to flirt with me. He's the first one to do so.

I'm really grateful that the both of us are getting along great with the current situation. Yeah, like LateNite85 said, I may have gain someone that i can truly call friend.

Thanks again for the clarification.
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Oh by the way rareboy, the reason why we have to share a bed is that the place we stayed in has two rooms. One is with the king size bed and another with two single beds. At first i chose the single bed but my two female colleagues want that room so i have to share with him.

Oh and also nobody in my office knows i'm gay except one of my female colleagues who i'm very close with. It's because i'm living in an Asian country so it's still not tolerable.
 
Because I'm not from your culture I don't know how straight male to male relationships work there, but the husband remark sounds like a strong hint to me. Also that he talks to others about a girlfriend but not to you, like he's covering up in front of others but doesn't want to give you the wrong impression.

I don't know, but what I would do in your place is to repeat the invitation to dinner or find another way (sports, movies, museum, shopping... ) to spend time with him outside of the workplace.
 
Yeah, the love of my life used to "flirt" with me as well, but he had no idea I was gay and was as straight as an arrow.

I'm a sucker for blue eyes...
 
Argh!!!!! Been trying my best to push away the feelings for him these past few days. But this early morning, i woke up at 6am after having a nightmare involving him. In my dream, we are chatting and hanging out at some place that doesn't look like my house but i got my laptop with me. Then he switched on my laptop without asking me and he saw his photo being set as my wallpaper. (He still doesn't know i'm gay, btw). I was so freaked out after he discovered about the photo. Then, i just woke up covered in sweat. Luckily i did wake up in time. If not, the worst scenarios will keep on playing in my head. That's the worst dream i've ever had so far.
 
The dream is your subconscious telling you to be careful. Having a colleague at work as a lover is always a risk, probably more so in your culture.

What would happen to your career if/when others at work start to realize that the two of you are lovers? How would it be if the two of you become lovers and then had a falling out?
 
One thing I have learned is that most work relationships are a horrible idea; gay or straight. Management considers it counterproductive and then there's the whole gossip/water cooler crap to deal with. The other problem is what 3nipples said; if there is a falling out, it could become very awkward at work when you work with him.
 
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