18 year old Prom King wears skirt and crop top to prom

[fabulouslyghetto]

Your shame for this kid and his school is all about you, not about him or his classmates.

Sidebar how good do I look in my blue dress?

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I mean, or the school and his peers are actually accepting and don’t give a shit that he dresses like a woman because it doesn’t matter? That couldn’t possibly be it though.

 

[Dominus]

Hopefully you will do more than that. Hopefully you will be provoked to rethink your retrograde and judgmental stance about this......I always find it fascinating that homos who crow about their own right to marry and ability to be out in society keep forgetting that it was the fearless gender bending trailblazers and faggots who made a huge noise who made this all possible.

Your shame for this kid and his school is all about you, not about him or his classmates.

I don't think you heard me right. I love guys in dresses. I dated one. My problem is the dress he chose to wear. Had a girl worn that dress to prom, I would have said the same thing.

Equality is about... equality. It is not about how provocative you can get away with. There is a place for everything. If he really wanted to wear that dress, he could have worn it at any other occasion. But he chose to do it at prom, a formal occasion that's for all the seniors there, not just himself.

Equality is never about who can get away with the most ridiculous thing. That's not the spirit of prom.

When my husband and I got married, we both wore our nicest suits to court. Had either he or I wanted to wear a dress, we would have worn the best formal dress we had. We didn't go in with a red suit or whatever else that could have been seen as ridiculing the occasion. We showed our respect to the institution.

Edit.

I also love guys with makeup. I dated a guy who wore makeup. He was beautiful. When we went out to the bars or clubs, sometimes he wore provocative things. When we went to more formal occasions, he wore more respectable things. With very tasteful makeup. I loved it.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Why do you have a problem with what he wore when he was within the dress code?

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Why do you have a problem with what he wore when he was within the dress code?

My best guess is he comes from a time when a woman was covered neck to ankles.

 

[peeonme]

If a girl had worn that dress the style wouldn't matter. I am amazed at his class mates. In my day you wouldn't make it home in one peice if you showed up like that.

 

[rareboy]

Why do you have a problem with what he wore when he was within the dress code?

Pretty much this. I think the problem that Aristomaniac is having is that he actually wore a dress to prom.

 

[luckynumbah7]

I don't think you heard me right. I love guys in dresses. I dated one. My problem is the dress he chose to wear. Had a girl worn that dress to prom, I would have said the same thing.

Equality is about... equality. It is not about how provocative you can get away with. There is a place for everything. If he really wanted to wear that dress, he could have worn it at any other occasion. But he chose to do it at prom, a formal occasion that's for all the seniors there, not just himself.

Equality is never about who can get away with the most ridiculous thing. That's not the spirit of prom.

When my husband and I got married, we both wore our nicest suits to court. Had either he or I wanted to wear a dress, we would have worn the best formal dress we had. We didn't go in with a red suit or whatever else that could have been seen as ridiculing the occasion. We showed our respect to the institution.

Edit.

I also love guys with makeup. I dated a guy who wore makeup. He was beautiful. When we went out to the bars or clubs, sometimes he wore provocative things. When we went to more formal occasions, he wore more respectable things. With very tasteful makeup. I loved it.

Some people like snappy red suits and some people don't find them risqué for formal wear. You can tell this because there's dresses like the one he wore to prom, minus the lack of attachment between skirt and top. But the more complicated dresses are pricey and everyone has a budget.

 

[luckynumbah7]

If a girl had worn that dress the style wouldn't matter. I am amazed at his class mates. In my day you wouldn't make it home in one peice if you showed up like that.

No, actually. If a woman had worn that dress the style would matter, but in a slightly different way. I believe I already explained the tits issue and that larger people don't get their pick of sexy outfits because larger people don't get to be 'sexy' without it being shoved off to the side in a 'plus size' category during Halloween or fetishwear items, and the fetish wear isn't even sold on the same site as everyone else's fetishwear. If people who didn't fit the slim, one size fits all bra shelf had tried to wear that they wouldn't find clothing in their size.

And you'd definitely hear that a big titled woman or a fat woman was showing too much skin. So.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

If a girl had worn that dress the style wouldn't matter. I am amazed at his class mates. In my day you wouldn't make it home in one peice if you showed up like that.

exactly as I said, some people are jealous they didn't have this much courage at that age

 

[luckynumbah7]

... I mean, did you see the non-modelesque women in those pictures and their dress selections? You think the news wouldn't choose specific dress inclusion pictures of other participants in the same shot to up the shock value? Please

 

[luckynumbah7]

. If people who didn't fit the slim, one size fits all bra shelf had tried to wear that they wouldn't find clothing in their size.

And neither did he, I notice, as prom dresses in particular come with a bra shelf and the fabric used depends on the cut. What he's wearing in a prom dress like top with that material would have included an obvious shelf because of the material involved, which would've ruined the line when he wore it. Since, again, no tits. He did a pretty good job on choice, though I would've changed the skirt color. Reminds me of business casual.

 

[Dominus]

Why do you have a problem with what he wore when he was within the dress code?

As I explained earlier that somehow you managed to ignore, there are 2 sides to every law, code of conduct, etc. The letter and the spirit.

Take you, for example. The jub code of conduct gives us a specific set of rules to abide by. The letter of the code is very clear. But what about the spirit? The spirit of the code of conduct is there to attempt to have some sort of civil conversation between people here. You casually call me a liar every chance you get and then try to pass off that you have proven me to be a liar in the past and therefore I must be a liar now. Does what you do pass the letter of the CoD? Absolutely. But does it pass the spirit of the CoD? I would say no.

As I have also said earlier, I've found that people who only focus on the letter of any code or law while conveniently ignoring the spirit are morally questionable. Always looking for ways to cheat "legally".

Anyway, I've already said what I have to say regarding this issue. You're not going to change my mind and I'm not going to change yours. I will simply agree to disagree.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I did ignore it because it doesn’t mean anything and if the school allowed it then clearly it is in spirit. Why are you making up what is spirit for a school you don’t go to? Also, I’m not trying to change anyone’s mind, it’s that your point is moot when it comes to “spirit.” It sounds like some thing you came up with to seem like you could have a legitimate issue with a teen going to prom in drag.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Peer acceptance is and has never been the standard for attire with youth. They can and do celebrate the upset of rules and mores.

As for the administrators, they have every right to be the guardians of whatever standard, or lack or standard, their community expects. That doesn't change one iota the defense of other standards by other people. There are communities that allow dirty dancing, and those that don't.

Schools with teenagers do have a problem with dress codes both in class and at events becoming a distraction to the point of disruption.

The truth is, for many who have neither had children nor charge of them in a school, it's easy to cheer from the sidelines "be free!" or creating a false dichotomy of "don't focus on the little shit -- it's not what you're there to teach." But, it is. And society and parents do indeed expect it, and not just Mayberry parents.

As for the "earning" issue with backlash, you simply cannot have it both ways. LGBT are indeed ostracized and rejected unfairly, but it is a folly to rally around some in-your-face icon from the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Whereas the world should be able to deal with Tim Curry's character as a person, it's lunacy to pretend that the extreme can or will be accepted by the great majority in run-of-the-mill settings.

It's all very satisfying to sit back and cluck cluck at the prudes out here, but it's the real world, and anything goes really doesn't most places. Should it be less uptight in general? Fair enough, but this attire isn't that moderate.

It's hypersexualized. It doesn't belong in high school

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

It's hypersexualized. It doesn't belong in high school

would this have been more appropriate or is that showing too much neck?

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

It is very prudish x20 if you think this clothing is “in your face” or “hyper sexualised.”

Comments on here are reminding me when I was on a local music board and the mere mention of my homosexuality, even if brought up naturally in coversation was “Throwing in their face.”

The only problem here is that you are choosing the have a problem with it one way or the other. The teenager didnt do anything wrong, he was allowed to wear womans clothes, he was within the dress code by doing so. Again, with this info, what exactly is anyones issue? Outside of ones own arbitrary standards.

In the real world people dont actually give a shit that a man wears womens clothing because there are actual real life problems to deal with, not faux ones.

If anyone is still harping about this in two weeks, then honest to god you need to find a better way to kill some time and get your priorities in check.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

It is very prudish x20 if you think this clothing is “in your face” or “hyper sexualised.”

Comments on here are reminding me when I was on a local music board and the mere mention of my homosexuality, even if brought up naturally in coversation was “Throwing in their face.”

The only problem here is that you are choosing the have a problem with it one way or the other. The teenager didnt do anything wrong, he was allowed to wear womans clothes, he was within the dress code by doing so. Again, with this info, what exactly is anyones issue? Outside of ones own arbitrary standards.

In the real world people dont actually give a shit that a man wears womens clothing because there are actual real life problems to deal with, not faux ones.

If anyone is still harping about this in two weeks, then honest to god you need to find a better way to kill some time and get your priorities in check.

Pure Facts.

 

[TickTockMan]

It is very prudish x20 if you think this clothing is “in your face” or “hyper sexualised.”

Comments on here are reminding me when I was on a local music board and the mere mention of my homosexuality, even if brought up naturally in coversation was “Throwing in their face.”

The only problem here is that you are choosing the have a problem with it one way or the other. The teenager didnt do anything wrong, he was allowed to wear womans clothes, he was within the dress code by doing so. Again, with this info, what exactly is anyones issue? Outside of ones own arbitrary standards.

In the real world people dont actually give a shit that a man wears womens clothing because there are actual real life problems to deal with, not faux ones.

If anyone is still harping about this in two weeks, then honest to god you need to find a better way to kill some time and get your priorities in check.

This thread reminds me of when I was serving on a PRIDE board and a lesbian on the board wanted to ban same sex couples from holding hands or showing affection at PRIDE because it might offend straight people.


You can never make everyone happy. The kid looked good. It just goes to show even those that say they are liberal can be closed minded at times.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

This thread reminds me of when I was serving on a PRIDE board and a lesbian on the board wanted to ban same sex couples from holding hands or showing affection at PRIDE because it might offend straight people.


You can never make everyone happy. The kid looked good. It just goes to show even those that say they are liberal can be closed minded at times.

A gentle reminder that we still have tolerance issues inside the gate just as well as outside. My final answer is it's a generational thing, all the guys bitching about the dress grew up when showing ankles was risque. They're just stuffy and set in their ways.