I'm not kidding myself.
Some would consider me masculine, some not. I'm definitely cis-gendered. Bring gay is amazing.
I have many problems in life but being gay isn't one of them.
It's amazing because you have nothing to complain about. You don't know what I've been through and the trouble I've been through to find happiness in this life I have. I know I sound troubled, but I'm not. I'm again being realistic. Ugh. Never mind, I appreciate your advice.
I need a cigarette, some weed and liquor. Ugh.
To say one might have it easier because of x reason is silly. Just because one might be "masculine" doesn't mean that in the very least. That person is still gay and being open about that leaves that same person up for just the same amount of bullshit that another might experience.
Yes, but masculine guys are usually the kinds of gays straight guys can tolerate and like. They are also the kind of gays, gay men tolerate and like. So it's a double bonus. They can circulate into society in a more normal fashion. Fem guys are constantly made fun of, called tranny, queer, poof, etc. Straights always say, "I like gay guys, but not the feminine ones." Gay men are embarrassed around feminine guys and try to stay away and avoid them. They are the ones you can tell are gay, and they can't masquerade that.
Fem guys can't help they are fem, and masculine guys can't help they are masculine yes. But fem guys have it worse.
Despite all of your insane reasons to support Trump, how can any gay or black man (or especially a gay black man) support a party that despises them?
Is it because you are miserable, so you feel justified in making all other blacks and gays miserable too?
Why do Fox News and the Republican party, in general, seem to hate black people and gay people?
https://www.quora.com/Why-do-Fox-News-and-the-Republican-party-in-general-seem-to-hate-black-people-and-gay-people
It could be. Maybe it is some type of rebellious butterfly effect.
But I am not Republican, and there are other gay and black guys voting for Trump that are not Republican so.
People intrigue me no end. I have to go to St. Paul on a regular basis and I drive down a street in a rather old neighborhood that is highly ethnic. Often I will see this tall, very skinny black guy who has every feminine gay affectation a guy could have. He swings his hips so much, I'm surprised he doesn't spin around when he walks. One hand will be on his hip, the other is up and bent at the elbow. He looks like a teapot that way. Sometimes his attire is flamboyant and colorful, sometimes just typical male clothes. One day as I was stopping at a coffee shop, he walked right passed me. I smiled and said hello. He glared at me in what seemed a menacing way and said something that sounded like "whitey". Considering the neighborhood, he must get lots of grief from others, you would think he would welcome a a friendly smile from someone. Obviously he is determined to be his own person but he sure does not seem happy. I hope he has close friendships and support.
I'm not one of them, but I've noticed a good majority of fem gay black guys (especially in inner city areas) do not date white guys, and only date black guys. So maybe you coming onto him, he wasn't feeling it and reacted that way.
He didn't have to be a bitch and a diva about it, but that's just my assumption and guess as to why he did it.
Again, I'm not one of them. I find all types of guys attractive.
Another possibility, is that so many people give him shit and turmoil, that he just gets used to it, and has a chain reaction towards it, thus his shady and disrespectful attitude came out.
Don't base all fem guys on him though.
The point about discussing or bringing up possible social intersections isn't to play that rock-paper-scissors 'analysis' bullshit. It's not to sit on one's bottom and go 'Woe is Meeeeee" (tho it's healthy to pencil in a good cry once or twice a year). What learning and discussion is supposed to do is give you the necessary tools to work some of the internalized crap out for yourself so as to try'n not perpetuate it. You're gay and effeminate. I'd also say you've got quite the internalized amount of homophobia going on and that it's your job to deal with that. When you've got multiple people from many walks o'life saying something y'might want to try taking heed. You'll get farther, certainly.
Saying that someone else might have it easier in certain situations by not getting read as effeminate is true, but it also has not much, shall we say, to do on dealing with ones own shit. Which should be the second thing people start doing when they realize that other people have unrealized biases. Logically speaking, once you notice multiple others' asses hanging out in a such repetitive manner it should've occurred to you that you're just as vulnerable to the same social messages.
This is what half-assed learning gets people. No one wants to read the "You're Still Responsible For You" epilogue because they can't get past the "x group tend to have it statistically easier in y situation(s)"
Internalized homophobia? No I just need a man, that's what the issue is. Going to go kick it with some straight guys after work and get drunk and high with them, to deal with the pain. They aren't attracted to me, like most gay guys, but at least they are more honest and won't mess with my emotions and I can be more laid back with them.
