Being out and proud shouldn't be about what you expect from others.
What makes anyone think being out and proud gets you what amounts to a life of acceptance? Pffffft. I'm out and proud and guess what, trans people still aren't being accepted. Doesn't mean you whine, stamp your foot and go "Where's the red carpet?!"
I'll have to pencil you in an appointment, Kane, in thirty years if I'm really, really lucky, to tell you when I've gotten to where you currently are with gay rights and I won't bother touching the acceptance-by-other-gay-people issue with a barge pole. And I'd need a barge pole because while the attractive, young white gay men may be on shore, you're floating out on a boat with the eldergays and everyone else that gets 2 star treatment while the trans people are at the bottom of the lake because you shoved the last letter overboard going "We have nothing in common....". Literally at the bottom of the lake in many cases as most of us don't have a choice about being noticeable during transition (as opposed to after) and for some reason you lot (yes, your black gay demographic included) like to use us as a point on the barometer for going "At least I'm not them".
While I agree with you on close to every post you make regarding racist attitudes
minus everything related to you tarring others as snowqueens because they disagree with you, even I find you to be dull, repetitive and, well, a broken record.
You need more than being out and loud - you need self respect which is what people really mean when they say 'proud'. Now, you might have self respect but you sure as hell don't act like it when you resort to stereotypes as insults when talking to your fellow brown people. What that sounds like to me is you don't have respect for yourself, you have respect for a very, very narrow concept of what's acceptable in a black gay man and
no one is allowed to deviate for any reason whatsoever. There's trans people like that as well, we used to call them HBS'rs although now I'm currently down to a much less polite word and there's at least one more branch-off that turned out to be their niece-in-a-metaphorical-way and either way the intricacies of that isn't explainable without a very long tomb of several thousand pages. But as an example it holds up well. You're not going to be happy without self respect and from what I can tell you're a miserable little bugger. So am I, or rather I'm more cynical, so that doesn't bother me much. What's actually worse is you don't even have a sense of humor about it. Dude, you need something to fall back on because consistent complaints wither your soul.
If you want companionship with other people (and your first post wondering where that red carpet rolled off to says you do) you need to be pleasant to others at least a fifth of the time (which is roughly my own breakdown, minus my partner and a few friends who're well-aware of my idiosyncra-whatever, what a wonderful catch-all - Anyway you need more than self respect to find people. You also need to not be a dick at least 1/5th of the time. Hell, go bank and aim for a quarter, you can come back in a month and claim to be more pleasant than I am, I'll even tip my hat to you.
For reiteration, just so it sinks in- you actually need to mitigate your complaining in the 'real-world' if it's the same as how you sound online because no one, and I mean nobody, wants to hear every single instance of "These people were racist/classist/ablist/misogynist/-ist and here's why" that one experiences in an hour. They don't
want to hear it because there's not enough time in the day to list it all and did I mention that
even if they share your minority status,
they most likely have their own plus one and will probably
not want to constantly dwell on all the bad shit. Me, I just keep a running commentary in my head and write scathing critiques and/or humor when the mood takes me. What I don't do is spew it out to whomever seems like they're listening with half an ear.
This from a man who pays his rent through exploiting men via porn. I'd sooner take advice from you than I'd take financial advance from a bankrupted convicted felon. And as for your "non sexual" friends, you exist in a sub culture. Your world isn't like a average gay male. You are surrounded by all things GAY. In fact, I doubt you'd survive living in the real world like the rest of us! Just stay in your little gay bubble and avoid threads that concern real people and real issues. 
