Can large heavy people take a joke ?

[pat grimshaw]

^ who? ^ guilty of what?

 

[Telstra]

There is no humor in what he said. There is no cultural misunderstanding from other members on here about Telstra, there is no misunderstanding from him where he doesn't get what he is doing. This board has too many members that are way too to naive and fucking blind when shit is right in front them.

People even defended a member on here when it was clear he was guilty and it was proven from news articles as well. It will never cease to amaze me who and what people will defend on here.

Guilty of what?
I didn't know opinions about reality is a crime.

I have a theory, people he called me "troll" are ... ?

 

[mauveb]

Im sorry but he's using a hookup site/app, which boils down to sex, which can be further reduced to looks. People say plenty of mean stuff on those sites. If you're going to approach someone who's obviously not in the same ballpark in the looks department, then you need to grow a thicker skin or not use those sites. If you need your self-esteem boosted than go visit your mom or a shrink.

 

[BostonPirate]

well... It's clear the skinny bitches cant take a joke...HA!

Loving the drama... When is someone going to get the dynasty slap? balls to the wall Alexis

 

[mauveb]

I mean god forbid someone just say "sorry not my type".

Which is usually followed by:
"why?" then "is it because im fat?" and finally "superficial bitch"

Both methods end the same way. He simply took the shortest route.

@Bostonpirate if they can dish it out, they can take it.

 

[BostonPirate]

 

[Telstra]

Or people don't have to be rude or insulting when turning someone down. I mean god forbid someone just say "sorry not my type". Instead of someone needing to grow a thicker skin, maybe people should stop being rude cowards who think they can get away with it because it is the internet and the kind of site it is.

If "you might crushed me" in a friendly way with the guy is rude and insulting.
You must be a queen rose.

 

[Telstra]

I didn't find the video funny at all. Don't know why.

 

[mauveb]

Yes. I am sure your example is what will happen every time. People aren't going to leave it at that all the time but you can keep making excuses for people who want to be rude and insulting.

I dont consider his comments that rude or insulting. Hyper-sensitivity is a major turn off, it means you cant take them anywhere without them making a drama scene, you also have to write-off 3/4's of the comedy available on film or television. Thanks but no thanks, i prefer people not projects.

To be blunt, they didn't get fat over night. If they still have a self esteem problem, then it's theirs not mine, and i certainly wouldn't want to be responsible for maintaining their fragile self-image.

 

[Telstra]

Yes because a guy that doesn't know you over the internet through text is going to know that you meant that in a "friendly way". Your naivety doesn't fool me, so please stop the act.

LOL, you think i want to fool you? Fool you about what?
I did say "just joking". If this is not friendly, what is?

I think "NO thanks" is actually insulting because you cut off someone immediately.
I actually kept the communication open until he ran(blocked).

 

[mauveb]

And I prefer Adults, not people in grade school.

You got it the wrong way around.

Adults are responsible for their own issues, they either learn to live with it (and get a sense of humour) or deal with it.
Kids on the other hand, would prefer to be lied to until it becomes a serious thing, and even then they're told its not their fault.

 

[pat grimshaw]

....Adults are responsible for their own issues...

I agree. We are breeding passive, incapable weaklings who rely on others.

 

[Just_Believe18]

I would have said Yes, but since he is so childish i just have to ignore.

By the way, since when did i attack any JUB member? zero.
Some of them just the dramma queens ...

You couldn't even finish this post without attacking JUB members. Twice.

 

[mauveb]

My dear child, you have an empathy problem.

(Hint; two wrongs don't make a right.)

empathy... as in pity fucks? i find that more insulting.

No, I don't. You're making excuses why it is ok to make comments such as these, that is what a child would do, not an adult.

Being vague about why you're rejecting someone is just another form of deceit, and you're not doing yourself any favors by asking everyone to BS you.

The OP is being honest. I'm being honest. You're the one asking for different excuses.

 

[Telstra]

You couldn't even finish this post without attacking JUB members. Twice.

But you didn't read about their comments?
much worst LOL and dramma queens = very accurate and an honest opinion.

 

[pat grimshaw]

…If you end up a lonely old man…

People can avoid ending up a lonely old queens by going around and picking up young weaklings to feed their ego.

 

[mauveb]

Who said you have to sleep with them?

Im a computer geek, i have to take things to their logical end. I cant emphathize halfway, be all nice and then say sorry i wont sleep with you.

Listen, Mauveb. Someone with an empathy problem brings that disability into relationships. Most often, people with that disability have unstable relationships, if they can keep them at all.

If you end up a lonely old man, I hope you will remember our words.

Other way round as well. Im always the one to break things off, and i usually put up with 4-6 weeks of them trying to win me back, because I have too much empathy and they know it and abuse it. Most of them are still in the same hole they dug themselves when i broke it off, i was too empathetic when what they needed was the truth.

 

[mauveb]

^Patticakes, most of us in this room are partnered.

Having a long-term relationship requires a certain element of empathy.

Just because i don't fill out my profile doesn't mean i haven't been engaged for two years. This is grasping at straws.

 

[Telstra]

Honesty, when being cruel, is no virtue. In instances such as the one purported to have happened, it is a feeble excuse to be a cad.

Plenty of people may be deemed unattractive by others, both for things they had no control over, and for things within their choices. Is it going to be an imperative to announce to someone, "when those zits on your face clear up, come back and try me then"?

Or maybe "you appear to be older than your age, and it is repulsive to me"?

Or, "you drive a STATION WAGON? Seriously?"

Or "ewwww, you're a ginger"?

Using the anonymity of online foils does afford rude people the leeway to get away with what ugliness they would often be ashamed to commit in person.

It is telling that the champions of rudeness here are very deeply hidden persons indeed.

Just exactly which of those

Making big accusations without proof?

 

[mauveb]

You were too empathic?

ROFLMFAO!

Listen,man, it's your life. I'll stop preaching now.

Young men know how to pull people's heart strings, and continuously playing on sympathy is a heckuvalot easier than actually doing something about it. The formula is pretty simple: <my problem> because <fault:elsewhere>. Empathy is nice but it doesn't solve problems, it prolongs them. The minute you start accepting excuses for why someone can't stop doing drugs, find a job, keep a job, gain weight, lose weight, that becomes the new normal.

As for my supposed lack of empathy... my fiance two years ago was arrested on bullshit accusations from his crazy bitch roommate who had a crush on him and was upset he got with me. When he was released he became homeless. So i packed up what little shit i had, found a place, and spent my severance on paint and furnishings. How many jubbers would live with a guy that had a record? I reserve my empathy for people who really are in situations beyond their control.