Coping with penis size...

[Raincoat Massacre]

Alot of the penial shaft is inside of the body and there is a procedure where they can actually pull that length from inside and make it bigger...When I saw it I freaked out.

Besides, if you find someone who really loves you they won't care how big you are.
Just as long as you love em

 

[lapafrax]

I've been having to cope with penis size and its always been discouraging for me to being able to have a relationship.

I'm 28 in decent shape and not so bad on the eyes.

I haven't had any problem with meeting people and getting dates. But it's been difficult for me to be intimate with others.

The reason is I have a small penis. I mean it's really small compared to everyone else. It's about 2 inches when flaccid and 4 inches when erect.

I just don't know what to do. Actually there's nothing I can do about except to talk about it which haven't shared with anyone at all, until now.

So, I decided to post here and vent a little for the first time sharing this with others. At least there is some anonymity here which puts me at ease.

I really wish I had a bigger size penis like the average size at 6 inches. Shit, I'd probably be OK with 5 inches... but alas that can't happen.

This has really affected me in having relationships, I'm afraid... it's depressing for me to imagine what others will think when they find out I have a small penis.

I tend to cut things off with someone when they express interest in going further and want to have a relationship with me. And it also hurts when I like someone but I won't go and talk to them because what if they do like me to... a relationship would be a natural thing to eventually occur.

It's been difficult for many years now and it's only getting worse for me because I'm not getting any younger and would like to have someone in my life. It looks like I'll be alone for a long time.

I'll have people I know, friends, acquaintances and relatives -- but no one by my side to love and be loved.

I think about it a lot... about meeting someone, getting married and all. That's all I can do, though... is just think about it. Knowing that it'll never happen for me.

Really... how can it?
Who wants a guy with a samll penis anyways.

They say size doesn't matter but that's a bunch of bullshit. Everybody wants a big fat dick whether you're a guy or girl. Size DOES matter.

That's what they want... you hear it all the time. I'm mean how can I compete with that. Really I can't, I'm nowhere close to competing.

Well, anyways that's my venting for now, I just had to let it out and share my thoughts.

Your thoughts and feedback are welcome.

Thanks for listening... uh, I guess reading in this case.

Don't be too down.

I often find that knowing how to use it can compensate for size.

Like once I got fucked by a 3.5" dick (seriously!!) and it was probably one of the best shags I've ever had. Thing is even the smallest of dicks can work the guy's prostate and make it enjoyable.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Don't be too down.

I often find that knowing how to use it can compensate for size.

Like once I got fucked by a 3.5" dick (seriously!!) and it was probably one of the best shags I've ever had. Thing is even the smallest of dicks can work the guy's prostate and make it enjoyable.

Lucky guy, I can't even fuck with 3 inches.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

it also does matter on how big the guy bottoming is... if they're pretty big boys then it's a lot harder to push in a 3" penis than if it was someone with a "leaner" bottom... no big deal though... sex is all about who your with...

i'm a total bottom and i have a 7" dick... if i could switch with you... i would lol... hope that didn't sound creepy

on second look...it did sound a little creepy... but you know i meant the best :O

So I'm pretty much fucked since my partner is about 283lbs.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

i didn't wanna make it sound like you're "fucked"... but i'm not sure... i remember a friend of mine was (and still is) in the position you're in... and he said that he couldn't top for his bf because his bf was too big and HE wasn't big enough... so i was just saying that is probably a factor... and not something you should worry about... there's still a million other things to try in regards to a fun healthy sexual experience with your partner

Yeah you're right. But most guys who are usually three inches will be able to fuck someone if the person they're fucking is skinny or average. Which is why I say it's almost impossible to do, unless I lost like 100 pounds in the process to gain a few more inches with my dick.

 

[colemanshs]

I prefer a smaller penis. I like the bigger ones just fine but, to me, size doesn't matter. I just don't like the really big ones!

 

[The_Bennu_Bird]

Who wants a guy with a samll penis anyways.

.

I do I do I do!

I know im not the only one out here. There are many sites devoted Small dicks and the guys who like them. besides if you are serious about dating someone your not dating the penis your dating the person.

 

[Lostlover]

I've been having to cope with penis size and its always been discouraging for me to being able to have a relationship.

I'm 28 in decent shape and not so bad on the eyes.

I haven't had any problem with meeting people and getting dates. But it's been difficult for me to be intimate with others.

The reason is I have a small penis. I mean it's really small compared to everyone else. It's about 2 inches when flaccid and 4 inches when erect.

I'm not going to lie. I love a big penis, but it really can only be "preferred" when it comes to porn.

Unlike females and their breasts, gay men and women can't tell how big the male's anatomy is when clothes are on. So naturally, we can't be selective on penis size. Thus, penis size WILL NOT be a barrier for relationships with you or anyone else because of this.

My point is, that if you're with someone and he is going to see your penis anyways, I don't think size matters then and there. He's willing to have sex with you, I don't think he's going to put his clothes back on because you might be smaller all because you have a "small penis."

Not many red blooded gay males would stop sexual relations because of size. And if they are the type that would stop talking to you over this, are they worthy of your time and companionship (heck no!!!).

You should have no problem with relations. I think it's all mental with you (lol no insult), and not physical.

In addition (here's the honesty part from me, no sugar coating), I find it very backwards and primitive that you'd base your self worth on penis size. You can admit EVERYTHING is extremely wrong with that.

 

[silversmith1213]

Ok, so first of all, penis enlargement is a dumb way to lose money when you could be spending it on something great (like condoms for you to top hordes of hotties with). Here's the reason why: The penis is a fleshy tissue that is a part of your body. Its an appendage in a way, like an arm. What would you say if someone sold pills that made your arm bigger? How in the hell would pills make your arm bigger? Arms have no different nutritional requirements from the rest of your body. So someone comes up with the bright idea to stretch it, pull on it, stick it in a vacuum, and dangle barbells from it. Well thats cool, you now have a dislocated shoulder and a torn bicep, but your arm is probably about the same otherwise. Now do you really think there isn't someone out there who would love that penis solely because it gives YOU pleasure, and YOU are the person they love? Yes, I too grew up with the ruler in my hand, measuring my penis to make sure I wasn't "left behind", but guess what, there IS NO BEHIND. The only behind that exists is the incredibly grateful (and hot) behind that you are gonna be screwing someday. The only way to 100% increase the size of your penis is surgery, and trust me, its not that much bigger.

Here's another little fun fact for you: almost all of the feeling during anal sex occurs very near to the anus. So, in reality, girth is more important than length if you want to be topping someone who is really in a tizzy about it. Hell, even if you fucked someone with a pencil, its a whole whopping 1.5-2 inches to the prostate, which is the truly important part.

Oh-yeah, I'm sorry this post is coming off so bluntly, I'm not trying to strike the fear of God in you or anything, but although I like a lot of the posts here, and a lot of them make fantastic points, some of them have really disgusted me and even been offending to me. Anyone telling you "it's ok to be small" is full of $#IT! BECAUSE YOU AREN'T SMALL! You don't need someone to baby you and tell you it's ok, because nothings wrong. Everyone telling you all the great things you're missing out on for no reason is right! If I was in the same room with you I'd slap you in the face and tell you to cut the bullshit, and then ride that cock of yours and have the time of my life.

As far as others saying absolutely ridiculous things like "Oh man I bottomed like an 18 inch cock the other day and it was soooo amazing", thats like saying you ripped your sphincter and then pierced your intestines for a good time. I don't really know why men do it, but everyone thinks they have to live up to something. You'd think of all people in the world gays would be content to tell the truth and be who they really are, but unfortunately, even though size queens are NOT the majority, they are simply the loudest and most obnoxious and get the most attention. I bet you all those people saying how much huge cock they love have never seen anything above 7 inches in their life anyway.

Ok, I feel much better, as should you, and I hope that you realize no one needs to be comforting you. You need to go out there and find yourself a hot, studly man and screw him silly with every inch that you've got!

 

[oh-yeah]

In addition (here's the honesty part from me, no sugar coating), I find it very backwards and primitive that you'd base your self worth on penis size. You can admit EVERYTHING is extremely wrong with that.

I hear what you're saying Lostlover, and I understand that it may sound that I'm basing my self worth on penis size but really its not. Or maybe it is??

No Really... it's not that my entire self worth is all based on my penis size but rather my disappointment or.... well... mmmmm *thinking*... Ah, got it --- it's really an insecurity... I would say. I worry about how others would react or feel towards me when they find out that I do have a small penis.

It's something that I wanted to vent and just get off my shoulders... I'm sure others have been concerned about their penis size one time or more on occasions.

Let me put it this way, how does it sound to you when you hear that you're below average. Well, how does that sound? Let's say a test score, a time trial, or performance level. You didn't even come in at average but below average.

How does it make you feel, when you know that you didn't or in my case don't measure up... LITERALLY!

Doesn't feel so good does it.

After having that feeling for so long, it can eventually take a toll on you, about how you see and feel about yourself. And to make it even worse you keep hearing around you that a lot of folks (guys and girls say it) like and prefer big dicks.

There are jokes about having a small dick. Have you heard of any that sound encouraging?? They all make it sound like its a bad thing and if you don't measure up, well too bad because you're just out of luck. Poor sap.

Are there any jokes about having a big dick that deliberately degrades or makes fun of it? They all make it sound that if you got it, flaunt it, cuz you got something to be proud of, man. They pretty much put those guys on a pedastal to be revered.

Small dick: You hear, "I feel sorry for you about your unfortunate situation."
Big dick: You hear, "He's got it going on! When can we hang out."

So, is it all in my head and it's just a mental thing, well, yes - because it eventually becomes that. It is my fault that I feel that way?? Absolutely not!!

I'm not the one to fully blame here... look at what's out there, that's the noise you hear everyday.

See you got me riled up.
I'm not pointing fingers here so no offense, alright. Just venting that's all.

So, what do you guys have to say??
Do I have a point here or am I just paranoid about the whole penis size thing?

You're feedback and opinions are appreciated.

 

[silversmith1213]

Oh and I forgot to mention. I actually read an article (I think on a blog somewhere) that stated the "average" penis size is incredibly skewed. Most studies don't actually measure the penises in person, and instead just take the persons word for their size. Do I see a problem here? Besides, look at it this way: the truly vain people will be looking at your face and body, and it sounds like you're above average there!

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Let me put it this way, how does it sound to you when you hear that you're below average. Well, how does that sound? Let's say a test score, a time trial, or performance level. You didn't even come in at average but below average.

How does it make you feel, when you know that you didn't or in my case don't measure up... LITERALLY!

Doesn't feel so good does it.

After having that feeling for so long, it can eventually take a toll on you, about how you see and feel about yourself. And to make it even worse you keep hearing around you that a lot of folks (guys and girls say it) like and prefer big dicks.

There are jokes about having a small dick. Have you heard of any that sound encouraging?? They all make it sound like its a bad thing and if you don't measure up, well too bad because you're just out of luck. Poor sap.

Small dick: You hear, "I feel sorry for you about your unfortunate situation."
Big dick: You hear, "He's got it going on! When can we hang out."

So, is it all in my head and it's just a mental thing, well, yes - because it eventually becomes that. It is my fault that I feel that way?? Absolutely not!!


So, what do you guys have to say??
Do I have a point here or am I just paranoid about the whole penis size thing?

You're feedback and opinions are appreciated.

You have a very good point here. What you wrote in the quotes I post above are absolutely to what I feel about when it comes to dick size. You hear people say "Oh I love small dicks they're the greatest" But yet they don't have anything to worry about because they are either sporting some 6 inch cock or an average one at that.

Those people that tell you don't worry about your dick size have NO idea how it feels, they think it's a walk in the park for people who are below average. Most guys with average size cocks who have partners with small dicks usually never make a big deal about their partner's penis size. But then they'll look somewhere like on JUB and see nothing but average to bigger sized dicks here at JUB.

Having a small dick is a big insecurity that not everyone can forget about when they're constantly hearing people in the gay community and straight community that size is nice to look at.

 

[oh-yeah]

Dammit! -- silversmith1213

I find myself wanting to say "Amen Brother!"

Oh-yeah, I'm sorry this post is coming off so bluntly,...

None taken.

As far as others saying absolutely ridiculous things like "Oh man I bottomed like an 18 inch cock the other day and it was soooo amazing", thats like saying you ripped your sphincter and then pierced your intestines for a good time. I don't really know why men do it, but everyone thinks they have to live up to something. You'd think of all people in the world gays would be content to tell the truth and be who they really are, but unfortunately, even though size queens are NOT the majority, they are simply the loudest and most obnoxious and get the most attention. I bet you all those people saying how much huge cock they love have never seen anything above 7 inches in their life anyway.

Gotta say, you hit it on the head there. So, true, so true.

Ok, so first of all, penis enlargement is a dumb way to lose money when you could be spending it on something great (like condoms for you to top hordes of hotties with). Here's the reason why: The penis is a fleshy tissue that is a part of your body. Its an appendage in a way, like an arm. What would you say if someone sold pills that made your arm bigger? How in the hell would pills make your arm bigger? Arms have no different nutritional requirements from the rest of your body. So someone comes up with the bright idea to stretch it, pull on it, stick it in a vacuum, and dangle barbells from it. Well thats cool, you now have a dislocated shoulder and a torn bicep, but your arm is probably about the same otherwise.

Alright, but isn't it if you stretch and work your arm out with weights, does it not change by way of increasing size?? I hear what you're saying but you can't say that it's a total waste unless you've got the facts to prove otherwise. Just saying it couldn't hurt to at least give it try, right? To the individual's discreation, of course.

Anyone telling you "it's ok to be small" is full of $#IT! BECAUSE YOU AREN'T SMALL! You don't need someone to baby you and tell you it's ok, because nothings wrong. Everyone telling you all the great things you're missing out on for no reason is right! If I was in the same room with you I'd slap you in the face and tell you to cut the bullshit, and then ride that cock of yours and have the time of my life.

Wow, put me in my place!
So, uhh... what was your name again, I didn't did quite catch it
You know just a suggestion, we could , or -- before I and you have the time of your life.

Ok, I feel much better, as should you, and I hope that you realize no one needs to be comforting you. You need to go out there and find yourself a hot, studly man and screw him silly with every inch that you've got!

You're Absolutely Right, Man!
Thanks for your comments.

 

[silversmith1213]

HAHA! WOOH! Glad to be of help. That's what I'm here for brudda. Now you did bring up a good point about exercising the arm. Unfortunately, the penis cannot be made bigger by exercising it because it contains no true muscle mass. All of the muscle mass is behind the penis in the pelvic area, and actually can be strengthened. These muscles can be strengthened to help in sexual stamina, including (with the proper practice) postponing ejaculation and causing stronger orgasms.

 

[luminum]

You have a very good point here. What you wrote in the quotes I post above are absolutely to what I feel about when it comes to dick size. You hear people say "Oh I love small dicks they're the greatest" But yet they don't have anything to worry about because they are either sporting some 6 inch cock or an average one at that.

Those people that tell you don't worry about your dick size have NO idea how it feels, they think it's a walk in the park for people who are below average. Most guys with average size cocks who have partners with small dicks usually never make a big deal about their partner's penis size. But then they'll look somewhere like on JUB and see nothing but average to bigger sized dicks here at JUB.

Having a small dick is a big insecurity that not everyone can forget about when they're constantly hearing people in the gay community and straight community that size is nice to look at.

So basically you're saying that nothing anyone can say or do can help anyone feel better about themselves.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

So basically you're saying that nothing anyone can say or do can help anyone feel better about themselves.

Give me a person who has a 2 inch cock who is happy with what they have?

 

[Lostlover]

Let me put it this way, how does it sound to you when you hear that you're below average. Well, how does that sound? Let's say a test score, a time trial, or performance level. You didn't even come in at average but below average.



How does it make you feel, when you know that you didn't or in my case don't measure up... LITERALLY!

Doesn't feel so good does it.

I don't like the shape of my nose. Or the fact that I'm shorter than my twin. Or this or that... but I won't let it hinder me from being happy and enjoying life. Or depreciating myself.

After having that feeling for so long, it can eventually take a toll on you, about how you see and feel about yourself. And to make it even worse you keep hearing around you that a lot of folks (guys and girls say it) like and prefer big dicks.

There are jokes about having a small dick. Have you heard of any that sound encouraging?? They all make it sound like its a bad thing and if you don't measure up, well too bad because you're just out of luck. Poor sap.

There are jokes about big dicks too. Just to reiterate what I said earlier, men can't be selective on penis size because 99% of the time we have no idea how big the other guy is! Men can see women's breasts. But they can't see our packages! That's one plus to being a male.

And truly, it sounds so corny, but it is true I firmly believe. If someone doesn't want to commit with you because you are undersized, why would you want to spend your time with that person anyways? Truly...

Are there any jokes about having a big dick that deliberately degrades or makes fun of it? They all make it sound that if you got it, flaunt it, cuz you got something to be proud of, man. They pretty much put those guys on a pedastal to be revered.

Small dick: You hear, "I feel sorry for you about your unfortunate situation."
Big dick: You hear, "He's got it going on! When can we hang out."

So, is it all in my head and it's just a mental thing, well, yes - because it eventually becomes that. It is my fault that I feel that way?? Absolutely not!!

I'm not the one to fully blame here... look at what's out there, that's the noise you hear everyday.

See you got me riled up.
I'm not pointing fingers here so no offense, alright. Just venting that's all.

So, what do you guys have to say??
Do I have a point here or am I just paranoid about the whole penis size thing?

I wouldn't say paranoid. Just extra sensitive. I think once you become intimate and find that special person, size isn't a factor.

You're feedback and opinions are appreciated.

Just my opinion...

 

[antdak]

So basically you're saying that nothing anyone can say or do can help anyone feel better about themselves.

I don't want to start a feud here, but unless a person has a small dick, those of us who have average size, will never understand what they go through, the disapointments, the anxiety, and even depression. I may never understand completely what Brandon, my partner, has had to go through his whole life! but I do try to encourage him, tell him I don't care that he can't fuck me. . . but I feel it is just words! That is all I can do at this point!

 

[Lostlover]

Give me a person who has a 2 inch cock who is happy with what they have?

Why do you have issues with penis size if you already have a partner?

Also, the penis "problem" is no different than problems others have. Like I said earlier, I'm shorter than my twin brother.

I know that, like penis size, height isn't really controllable. I also know that my height differential with my twin won't keep me from being happy.

With both of our "shortnesses", we must learn to accept who we are. It really is no different.

PS: There have been many studies about how greater height correlates to increased income, prospects of marriage and job promotions. I have never heard of a study like that with penis size.

 

[oh-yeah]

You have a very good point here. What you wrote in the quotes I post above are absolutely to what I feel about when it comes to dick size. You hear people say "Oh I love small dicks they're the greatest" But yet they don't have anything to worry about because they are either sporting some 6 inch cock or an average one at that.

Those people that tell you don't worry about your dick size have NO idea how it feels, they think it's a walk in the park for people who are below average. Most guys with average size cocks who have partners with small dicks usually never make a big deal about their partner's penis size. But then they'll look somewhere like on JUB and see nothing but average to bigger sized dicks here at JUB.

Having a small dick is a big insecurity that not everyone can forget about when they're constantly hearing people in the gay community and straight community that size is nice to look at.

Yup, That's what I'm saying!!
There's just no way for them to truly understand. How it feels and the issues we face. It's easy to say it's no big deal, just don't worry about. But they're not in the situation we're in and therefore can't possibly understand what we have to go through.

This isn't something that you just pick up and get rid of that easily. It's something we have to deal with day in and day out every single day.