Coping with penis size...

[BrandonSBCA]

Why do you have issues with penis size if you already have a partner?

Also, the penis "problem" is no different than problems others have. Like I said earlier, I'm shorter than my twin brother.

I know that, like penis size, height isn't really controllable. I also know that my height differential with my twin won't keep me from being happy.

With both of our "shortnesses", we must learn to accept who we are. It really is no different.

PS: There have been many studies about how greater height correlates to increased income, prospects of marriage and job promotions. I have never heard of a study like that with penis size.

Height isn't a performance issue, where having a small dick is. That affects the psychological aspects of a man.

When you're unable to fuck your partner it makes you feel like you can't do what other people CAN do to their man.

 

[Lostlover]

Height isn't a performance issue, where having a small dick is. That affects the psychological aspects of a man.

When you're unable to fuck your partner it makes you feel like you can't do what other people CAN do to their man.

I didn't know size had that much of an affect.

But what I said still rings true, you have to love yourself before you can expect others. In addition, you obviously found someone you love, I guess all hope isn't lost?

 

[oh-yeah]

HAHA! WOOH! Glad to be of help. That's what I'm here for brudda. Now you did bring up a good point about exercising the arm. Unfortunately, the penis cannot be made bigger by exercising it because it contains no true muscle mass. All of the muscle mass is behind the penis in the pelvic area, and actually can be strengthened. These muscles can be strengthened to help in sexual stamina, including (with the proper practice) postponing ejaculation and causing stronger orgasms.

Can't argue with that.

Isn't the penis a large blood vessel of some sort and blood vessels can be stretched, right?

... and Kegal exercises, for strengthening.

 

[silversmith1213]

Brandon-

Height can indeed be a performance issue when you're 5 foot and your 6'4'' boyfriend has to get on his knees to kiss you. Oh being able to 69 is a bit of a problem too. Oh and actually, height greatly effects psychological aspects of a man. Otherwise they wouldn't call it "short man syndrome". I'm not saying I will ever succeed in understanding the way you feel, but everyone has insecurities. I have plenty myself, but seeing how someone else's insecurity is pointless really helps you to re-evaluate your own. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better or shed light on the good side of your situation, but when all you're focusing on is the bad it's hard for anyone to persuade you. I can say one thing though, you are truly blessed to have a partner who loves you for who you are and tries to help you through difficulties.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

I didn't know size had that much of an affect.

But what I said still rings true, you have to love yourself before you can expect others. In addition, you obviously found someone you love, I guess all hope isn't lost?

I actually do love myself! It was the only way to show my partner that I do like my body.

I really do like my body, no matter what people think of me, I've learned to accept my weight problem, but when I was with my boyfriend I was hoping that I could do what everyone can do and that was to top, and when I tried it with my boyfriend I was unable to do it, everyone says that a guys with small dicks can do the same things that a guy with a 6 inch can do.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Brandon-

Height can indeed be a performance issue when you're 5 foot and your 6'4'' boyfriend has to get on his knees to kiss you. Oh being able to 69 is a bit of a problem too. Oh and actually, height greatly effects psychological aspects of a man. Otherwise they wouldn't call it "short man syndrome". I'm not saying I will ever succeed in understanding the way you feel, but everyone has insecurities. I have plenty myself, but seeing how someone else's insecurity is pointless really helps you to re-evaluate your own. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better or shed light on the good side of your situation, but when all you're focusing on is the bad it's hard for anyone to persuade you. I can say one thing though, you are truly blessed to have a partner who loves you for who you are and tries to help you through difficulties.

You've seen couples with that height comparison? I'm just saying because how many 5 foot and 6'4" couples do you see?

 

[Lostlover]

Can't argue with that.

Isn't the penis a large blood vessel of some sort and blood vessels can be stretched, right?

... and Kegal exercises, for strengthening.

I wish the best for you, truly.

In the end you just have two choices and two choices only. 1) Be happy with who you are or 2) be miserable with who you are.

You need to make that choice and figure out how you will see yourself and what you bring to the table for future relationships.

 

[oh-yeah]

I'm with Brandon on this one.

...seeing how someone else's insecurity is pointless...

This is a bit offensive I'd have to say, people's insecurities that just that -- insecurities, I would hardly say that they're pointless because they are issues that affect a person on an emotional level. Whether you see them as big deal or not isn't for you to decide but rather a way for you to help that person to better deal or overcome come such insecurities.

...it's hard for anyone to persuade you.

No one wants to be persuaded otherwise, just to be listened to and understood.

 

[silversmith1213]

Can't argue with that.

Isn't the penis a large blood vessel of some sort and blood vessels can be stretched, right?

... and Kegal exercises, for strengthening.

The penis is actually made up of three columns of spongy erectile tissue. Basically, this tissue is able to expand because it is filled with tons and tons of tiny little blood vessels, which are told by the brain to expand when sexually aroused to increase blood flow. You are correct in that blood vessels do have some elasticity, but unfortunately they go back to normal shape afterwards. Because it's such a huge field, tons of tests are being done on how to expand this spongy tissue without surgery. Not much has really come up positive. Some penis stretchers (kinda like bone-spreaders you might have seen on the health channel), actually can increase length of the penis, but usually with bad side effects. By stretching the penis you are in essence tearing all of that tissue. This tissue isn't muscle, so it doesn't grow back stronger. Instead, the tissue scars, leaving possibly some nasty results. I wouldn't say penis enlargement without surgery isn't possible, but I think the VAST majority of the things out there are either fake or unhealthy.

Also, we've already established that pills can't change anything because the penis requires no different nutrition than the rest of the body, but many new pills cause vasodilation. In all of the blood vessels in your body, enzymes maintain vessel shape. If this weren't the case, the pressure would cause all of your blood vessels to become huge, meaning a massive drop in blood pressure, leading to death. So, what these pills do is basically inactivate these enzymes, allowing your vessels to become larger for a short period of time. Viagra actually does this as well, but more profoundly and for a shorter period of time. Your brain uses the exact same mechanism to trigger erections. Problem is, its not permanent (at least you probably hope not), and companies are fooling men into thinking their penises are actually getting bigger when in fact they are just getting slight hard-ons. Also, the brain has much greater control over the process, which is why pills like Viagra can be dangerous. Viagra can indeed cause a loss in blood pressure (because every single blood vessel in the entire body gets larger!), and can cause heart attacks or other problems in those with weak cardiovascular systems (usually the older one is the more susceptible to problems he or she becomes).

Ok, I don't know how much of that actually made sense considering its 1 in the morning and I'm tired, but there ya go.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

I'm with Brandon on this one.

This is a bit offensive I'd have to say, people's insecurities that just that -- insecurities, I would hardly say that they're pointless because they are issues that affect a person on an emotional level. Whether you see them as big deal or not isn't for you to decide but rather a way for you to help that person to better deal or overcome come such insecurities.

Yeah I'm not saying that height is not a insecurity, because it is, a lot of people on the boards who are insecure about their height, even their weight. Insecurities are not pointless because if you ignore those in a person then you'll never know what bothers them, it's good to understand and know how they feel, put yourself in their position, then see what they go through instead of telling them "Don't worry, your penis size is fine"

 

[oh-yeah]

In the end you just have two choices and two choices only. 1) Be happy with who you are or 2) be miserable with who you are.

Can't argue with that either.

The key words here are "Be happy with who YOU are. "

We can be happy with who we are as a person... there are things we all want to improve about ourselves, if we could, but that doesn't mean we're miserable with who we are.

 

[silversmith1213]

I'm with Brandon on this one.

This is a bit offensive I'd have to say, people's insecurities that just that -- insecurities, I would hardly say that they're pointless because they are issues that affect a person on an emotional level. Whether you see them as big deal or not isn't for you to decide but rather a way for you to help that person to better deal or overcome come such insecurities.

You got me there. Pointless was indeed a bad word to use on my part. However, you're right when you say "people's insecurities are just that-insecurities". Most of the time, there is no real solution. Yes, they can take a huge toll on an emotional level, and that is anything from pointless. It's not at all that I take anyone's insecurities lightly, its more that I see the absolute necessity to somehow live on, and incorporate it into one's happiness. As human beings we have to accept who we are as an individual, quite literally to survive.

 

[oh-yeah]

Yeah I'm not saying that height is not a insecurity, because it is, a lot of people on the boards who are insecure about their height, even their weight. Insecurities are not pointless because if you ignore those in a person then you'll never know what bothers them, it's good to understand and know how they feel, put yourself in their position, then see what they go through instead of telling them "Don't worry, your penis size is fine"

Agreed.

The "...a security that is pointless...", I was just replying to what silversmith1213 said.

 

[silversmith1213]

Yeah I'm not saying that height is not a insecurity, because it is, a lot of people on the boards who are insecure about their height, even their weight. Insecurities are not pointless because if you ignore those in a person then you'll never know what bothers them, it's good to understand and know how they feel, put yourself in their position, then see what they go through instead of telling them "Don't worry, your penis size is fine"

Brandon I think I understand what you're getting at, but I really don't know what else could be said. We know what bothers you but we can't seem to help in any way. Saying "You're penis is small, get over it" number one is not comforting, and number two is not true. It may be small in your eyes, but repeating what you think isn't constructive in this conversation . Putting yourself in another's position is always a good thing to do, but unless I lived every moment of my life exactly the same as you and had the exact same body, I couldn't say with any confidence that I knew exactly what you are feeling. I can guess, I can attempt to console, but sometimes there just aren't any words that exist that can change that feeling.

 

[oh-yeah]

You got me there. Pointless was indeed a bad word to use on my part. However, you're right when you say "people's insecurities are just that-insecurities". Most of the time, there is no real solution. Yes, they can take a huge toll on an emotional level, and that is anything from pointless. It's not at all that I take anyone's insecurities lightly, its more that I see the absolute necessity to somehow live on, and incorporate it into one's happiness. As human beings we have to accept who we are as an individual, quite literally to survive.

Well, put.

In order for others to accept who we are, you yourself have to accept who you are and just keep moving forward. No need to dwell on negativity. But you'd have to aggree that it does get us at times.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Brandon I think I understand what you're getting at, but I really don't know what else could be said. We know what bothers you but we can't seem to help in any way. Saying "You're penis is small, get over it" number one is not comforting, and number two is not true. It may be small in your eyes, but repeating what you think isn't constructive in this conversation . Putting yourself in another's position is always a good thing to do, but unless I lived every moment of my life exactly the same as you and had the exact same body, I couldn't say with any confidence that I knew exactly what you are feeling. I can guess, I can attempt to console, but sometimes there just aren't any words that exist that can change that feeling.

I understand, but yeah of course there will be people who would love a small dick but sometimes people will never understand that most guys with small dicks can't seem to do the things a guy with an average size dick can do.

 

[radioian]

Dicks come in all shapes and sizes, as we ALL know....................mine is tiny when soft--I was always embarrassed about it when at the school showers after games
My partners is 6" when soft, looks great when he comes out of the shower, but when hard doesnt change at all-just hard.
Ive slept with a couple of guys who had cocks about 3-4" when hard................so what? They work, dont they? and they are LOVELY to suck on!!

 

[luminum]

No one wants to be persuaded otherwise, just to be listened to and understood.

Understood about what? That you have insecurities? When insecurities are voiced, people seek the means to overcome them. If they don't, then it means that they just enjoy voicing their insecurities, which is to what gains? Nothing but self pity. It seems to me that people would rather be inconsolable, which is different from being persuade otherwise.

But if someone is voicing their insecurities because they'd rather find a way to overcome them, then that goes beyond being listened to and understood. They in turn have to listen and understand.

If your penis is small, do you want to spend the rest of your life just sighing away that you can't do the same things that some others can? I have a hard time penetrating a partner, but I'm not going to sit around and always wish that I could. I'm happy with how I am. If my dick was a few inches longer, I wouldn't mind, but I'm not about to wallow in self pity or let my self-esteem be haunted by this wherever I go or no matter what I do.

What point is there to saying "My penis is small....Nothing anyone can say will make me feel okay with it. You all don't understand,"? All it is is self-pity, and I've been there and I'm over it.

Three-legged dogs can't run as fast as other dogs, but they're still happy to get around. They don't miss their fourth, so don't miss those inches you don't have or the topping you can't do. Be thankful for the two you do have and the lover who wants to be with you no matter what.

The fact that people will never understand that small-dicked guys can't do all the things that 6 inch guys can do is absurd. It's like one fish in the sea turning to another and saying, "My you have pretty scales and a lovely tail," and the other one sighing and responding, "Yes...but I'll never play the piano..."

Even if all average-sized guys suddenly had the epiphany that smaller guys can't always penetrate and top their partners, what then? Now everyone acknowledges and understands that smaller guys can't top their partners. Does that change anything? What is the issue with the fact that others may or may not understand that? What would anyone get out of that? If we're talking about insensitivity and callousness, then we've got a point. But the fact is that this thread has been basically filled with the complete opposite: reassurance and understanding. Therefore, the only thing I can draw is that it's not that people don't want to be persuaded, it's that they don't want to be consoled.

Spleesh.

 

[ulenui]

It's only one part of your body. There's also your tongue, lips, nipples, ass, and don't forget your uvula. I gag easily, and CRAVE small cock. It's like your whole soul can fit comfortably on my tongue.

 

[bluedragon4]

(I didn't read everyones comments so if this was brought up sorry ) The guy who is 283lbs, won't you gain some length if you lose weight? I think you do? And a lot of the jubers are so size queens! They say Tommy Lee so not big or whoever celeb. Like they are 15 inches or something. I hate when guys on here try to make themselves seem like they are bigger and better than a celeb. So don't let those guys get you down! There is nothing you can do so you have to just deal with it. Not every guy cares about size. I am a total face person. Even if they are a little bigger(body wise) I don't mind. If a guy is what I find attractive than the dick don't matter. Besides fucking was never my fav thing so if I didn't ever do it again i could care less. But confidence is very important. Gain some and your world will change.