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Could you be friends with someone who opposed gay marriage?

Would you be friends with someone who opposed gay marriage?

  • Yes

    Votes: 106 54.9%

  • No

    Votes: 87 45.1%
  • Total voters
    193
Why wouldn't I be? It would depend on their reason for it (religion or geys=AIDS)

Ideally, even I'm for (full right) civil marriage but not church one for gay people. Though this would require separation of church and state which is not quite here yet.
 
my late partner did't beleive in gay marriage but then he was still a littlebit in the closet. i thought that in time i would wear him down and we would get married. oh well
 
bankside said:
This is one of the smartest responses so far.
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Thank you! !oops!:D!oops!:D

JasunStrikesBack said:
Yeah, I fucking hate it when he's that much more eloquent than me.
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Sorry! I shall try to be more mealy-mouthed and tongue-tied in the future! Oh wait...no I won't. (*8*)

undisclosed1234 said:
Ideally, even I'm for (full right) civil marriage but not church one for gay people. Though this would require separation of church and state which is not quite here yet.
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See, the civil marriage is the only thing under discussion in the US. The government controls who may marry; the churches control who may marry in church. If a church won't marry me and my (as yet hypothetical) husband-to-be, they're not the only game in town, and I can easily find one that will--or if not I can have a civil ceremony at City Hall with no clergy representation at all.

In the US the only people who talk about churches being "forced to marry" same-sex couples are the homophobes who actually oppose gays having any rights at all. Well, and the people they've lied to and duped. In this country it is SOLELY a lying tactic of the right; no pro-marriage-equality group advocates any law forcing any church to perform a marriage the church doesn't think should be performed.

If someone did propose such a law, I would oppose it with every fiber of my being. I'm a Constitutional patriot, and freedom of religion (even stupid religion, even offensive religion) is fundamental to the American way at its best.
 
I don't think I could. Although being gay isn't the only part of me, it is a very important one in my mind. I can't understand why someone would choose to oppose gay marriage, especially someone my age.

Although I think their opinion on one issue shouldn't be the pivotal part of their character, I feel like I let it hang over my head. From my experience, people I have known that oppose gay marriage (actively) tend to have other strong opinions on other ideas where I would take a completely different stance.
 
Friends respect eachother's opinions
 
LatinoSTAR said:
Yes, Marriage period Sucks, Im Opposed to gay marriage, straight marriage, any type of marriage! Im never getting married and im glad, people are making a mockery of marriage these days
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He's right!
If I was asked to get married to someone, I'd be honored but I'd just be like' okay I'm engaged, no big deal'. My attitude comes from growing up in a society that likes to create drama out of anything that doesn't concern themselves!
 
Ffunzo said:
So long as they aren't out campagning against it, I'd be willing to agree to disagree.
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The word "opposed" in the original post could be deciphered in many ways but, yeah, as long as my friends aren't actively suppressing my rights, I couldn't care less. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, even if those opinions differ from ours. I would not be as pleasant and understanding if said person voted in favor of Prop 8.
 
It would depend on their reasons for opposition as well as how good of a friend they are.
 
Wow... I can't believe "Yes" is winning! This is pathetic! This is our rights, people! You should be ashamed of yourselves. Oh wait. You probably already are.
 
If you can't support me and my right to marry then you really aren't my friend. I can get friends who would support me so why would I waste my time with someone doesn't support my financial and emotional well-being?
 
I voted "Yes" to this little survey.

Someone's opinion on a single topic is only a small part of who they are. I have some extraordinarily beautiful friends whom I know love me dearly but they would not support gay marriage.

But my friendship with them is based on more than my sexuality, their opinions of gays or their thoughts on marriage.

We love each other as friends based on the people we are, not the small parts that we're not.
 
Although I wish every single person that I know accepted same-sex marriage, they don't. I know this is a very touchy subject for a lot of people. Some don't get that one of my best friends does not agree with same-sex marriage. In fact my parents who love me and accept me as a gay person does not really accept same-sex marriage, at least not for now. But if it were legal and I did get married, they would still love me. My friend would be friends with my husband. If the whole gay thing was that big of a deal and he had that much hatred, he wouldn't be friends with me. I think there is a big difference. And I know that if I were in real trouble both my parents and my friend would be there to help me. With all that we have been through together, our friendship is stronger than that.

Yes I do get upset that my friend would not come to my wedding should I ever have one. But I didn't go to his and it's all fine. I think the difference is that we were friends long before I came out. So we already had a bond. It would definitely be harder to be friends with someone if they opposed same-sex marriage and you knew that from the very beginning. But even that depends on how vocal they are and if it really interferes with the friendship. And maybe the reason I feel the way I do is because I agree with same-sex marriage but I am not very vocal about it. If it was on a ballot, I would vote for it. But honestly I am not out there campaigning everyday for it. Call be a bad gay if you want.
 
Icarus512 said:
I can barely sit next to someone who opposes gay marriage, let alone be friends with them.
I cannot keep my mouth shut if I find things like that out about people.

I met a Canadian family a while ago and we talked about how liberal Holland was in their eyes and all that is alllowed over here and the subject got to gay marriage. The husband then told me the "it's okay as long as it's not called marriage" line, and how he was upset Canada allowed gay marriage and I would not let go after that. I asked him why he saw it this way, he said that it diminished the value of his own marriage. I then asked him how someone else's marriage had any effect on how he and his wife loved each other... He gave me no sufficient answer on that either. We kept going for a while, but I think I drove him mad with my "but why?" questions, but seriously, he was not making any sense...

I was very polite and respectful, but very persistent in getting an explaination. And this was with someone I had met two days earlier.
Imagine what I'd be like if I find out something like this about a friend :)
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On behalf of all of Canada, please accept our apologies. Did you happen to find out what part of Canada he was from? Alberta perhaps? We grow them a little simple here.

BTW our hope is that when you find them in Europe, you will keep them, and maybe send them to Austria. Maybe they can get their international licenses at the Jorg Heider Driving School or something.
 
Hardly, and it wouldn't be just about gay marriage either. Anyone who has those views would obviously have other views that would differ from mine. All of my close straight friends have been my friends for over 30 yrs. They all support gay marriage. My Steve never wanted to do the marriage thing and I really didn't either but they would try to talk us into it. I could and would not sit across a table from a "friend" who believes me and my loved one does not deserve the same rights that they have. I would never be able to accept the fact that they believe that what they have is better in some way than what I had. They may say they don't think that it is better, but thats exactly what it is. Granted, my friends have different views than I do, but nothing as fundamental as equal rights.
 
Good thread. Personally, no I couldn't be friends, good friends anyway, with someone who didn't respect me for who I am. I'd be civil to him but I wouldn't consider him a friend, just a person I know.
 
More than half say yes.

God help us.

We're fucked beyond means.

How the heck are we supposed to get equal rights when our own community is okay with intolerance.

It's like the blacks saying:

"It's okay, John. I don't like using that water fountain anyway. Wanna go bowling this Friday?"
 
I should have added that while I won't be discourteous to them I'd keep them at a respectful distance. I do admit though that I'm surprised at the number of posters who say they'd still be friends with such people. But heck what do I know.
 
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