deal breakers

[Georgiadude]

smoking is a HUGE turn off. I did date a guy that smoked and I have to tell ya, I hated it. He was an A/F model so I overlooked a lot. Wouldn't make the same mistake. Decided after him I wouldn't date anyone else that smoked.

Drug/alcohol abuse. I will try and get them help but if they continue to use, I'm gone.

Poor hygiene would be a big one. I understand an occasional deodorant failure or something like that but constant bad breath or b.o. Def. not going to work.

Bad manners in general. Talking with your mouth full. Excessive cursing, being rude to people, arrogance.

Being clingy or insecure. If you constantly have to know where I am and who I'm talking to, we probably aren't going to get along very well. You have to be able to trust and be trusted.

Lying. goes back to trusting and being trusted. I've forgiven guys for lying but if it becomes a habit I won't be around.

Steven.

 

[Audio Tech]

But, a less serious answer...he has to like pools! And swimming!

Hello.... I like pools, and swimming... and anything else you can think of to do in the water.

 

[KTheLibra]

Strong religious beliefs are a deal-breaker for me...I do not want to be with someone whose moral code is dictated by doctrine. Independent thought is something I strongly value.

I was trying to think of an intelligent, non-offensive, non-confusing way to say exactly this and you've done it for me. Thanks. I so agree.

 

[Críostóir]

Strong religious beliefs are a deal-breaker for me...I do not want to be with someone whose moral code is dictated by doctrine. Independent thought is something I strongly value.

But not all religions have that characteristic. Wicca, for example, is one that values independent thought and personal autonomy.

 

[Audio Tech]

But not all religions have that characteristic. Wicca, for example, is one that values independent thought and personal autonomy.

I'd think that when asked that question, most people (myself included) think of the "traditional" religions. Like my personal favorite: Catholicism, which didn't exactly have a positive, nurturing effect on my life.

For example.



But Wicca is something entirely different.

 

[braex27]

Can't hold a conversation
Only talks about himself (or an ex!)
Texting or answering phone at dinner
Being rude
One word answers
B.O.

(...there's more, I'm sure)

 

[braex27]

WoW there are sooo many

Fem men, no manners, bad hygiene, if he thinks farting and burping in front of people is funny, cheaters, liars, someone shorter than me, real skinny dudes, men who shave all the hair off there body, men who don't take care of their feet, chews with his mouth open, is too close with his friends, an atheist, a club/bar goer, smoker, drug user, popper user, weed user (which would fall under drug user, as far as i'm concerned), a drunk, and someone who doesn't have their life together, a man trying to dress/walk/talk younger than he is....so much more.

Being too close to his friends is a deal breaker? Interesting.

 

[evanrick]

i really cant say, but, i dont think i have the luxury to be that choosy!

i dont think i could handle a smoker or someone who is overly trendy/fashionable.

if your obsessed with owning an ipad or seeing the next "big movie" i think thats admitting your a slave to trends.

 

[Red Storm]

Talking with your mouth full
Excessive texting
Always talking about himself or an ex
Poor hygiene
Bad Breath

 

[boxerdudeuk]

being introverted and having limited social skills

being overtly feminine

 

[AllMan]

-Femininity
-Being a queen
-Talking with a lisp
-Owning only sandals (it's already bad enough you are femininie, but you have nothing masculine and manly in your shoe wardrobe????)
-Wanting to introduce me to all your friends on our first date/meeting/encounter
-Expecting me to pay just because I am financially secure
-Bad breath
-Dirty House
-Roaches/bugs in your house
-Dirty white shoes (or any dirty shoes, for that matter)
-Demands
-Excessive talking/texting while we are togther
-Talking over me every other word---I mean, can I just get a complete damn thought out ONCE without you interrupting me????
-Guys who wear make-up
-Switching while walking
-High pitched voice to the point where it's just annoying
-Doing excessively "gay" and female-inspired stuff just because you feel the "urge" to do it for attentention, because you think that that's what being gay is all about
-Wearing knock-off Louis Vuitton or Gucci (or any Italian, French, or British label) and confidently flashing it like you are "doing something grand"
-A dirty car
-Tagging your friend(s) along for the ride/date/etc
-Being late to our agreed meeting time and place
-Talking to other people in the background while you are supposed to be talking to me on the phone
-Being a "typical" Latino (selfish, childish, arrogant, selfish, immature, picky, oh did I mention selfish??)
-Not being able to speak proper English
-Not having at least finished high school and you are in your late 20's
-Not having attended college (ok, so yea everyone has not been to college, but they at least have a well-paying career). I hate people who have not been to college AND they still work at McDonalds or Wal-Mart on an hourly wage, but then they have the nerve to complain about work or not having money AND they still live with their parents, etc etc
-People who judge me as snobby or rich, or are overly concerned and fascinated by, my material possessions
-Not having a car AND not living alone---I can deal with one or the other, but both??????

 

[Purplebic]

Pointy shoes, arrogance, conceit, bad hygiene, loud, extremely masculine/feminine, bitchy, negative, elitist, class-orientated, being a perfect little shit, political ignorance, stupidity, can only talk about gaga/madonna, etc...

 

[Callum]

But not all religions have that characteristic. Wicca, for example, is one that values independent thought and personal autonomy.

Still a deal-breaker, although I was leaning more toward large, popular religions that have become institutions in themselves.

(And I think Wicca is absurd.)

 

[LilBit]

I'm starting to see why so many people on these boards are single. :~/

 

[Críostóir]

(And I think Wicca is absurd.)

That's because you don't know much about it. But never mind. I wouldn't date someone who thinks my religion is absurd, either.

 

[Callum]

That's because you don't know much about it. But never mind. I wouldn't date someone who thinks my religion is absurd, either.

I know enough to not care for it.

 

[USEDCAR]

Tattoos- One or two small tattoos is fine but if you have them all over the place or your body is covered with tattoos and you look like a comic book that's a huge turn off. I don't know why would anyone want to look like that
Drug/alcohol abuse that's a automatic turn off i don't care if you do it occasionally or every weekend I'm not nursing your hang over.
Smoking if your trying to quit then i can make an exception. Cigs smell bad and i hate when people try to hide the smell with cologne.
Potheads
Can't hold a conversation- Don't look at me all the time to start the conversation
Bad Hygiene Body odor bad breath etc at least take one shower every day
No Job
Femininity
Being a queen
Talking with a lisp
Cellaholics- People who are always on the cell phone texting etc.
No car or form of transportation I don't care if you have a old run down beat up car as long it gets you to places.
Not wanting to do better in life

 

[Under-taken]

"Drug/alcohol abuse that's a automatic turn off i don't care if you do it occasionally or every weekend I'm not nursing your hang over."

Agree! Known quite a few guy who seemingly are only in a relationship so after they get trashed on the weekend they get nursed up

 

[Purplebic]

People who whine about body modifications that don't effect them.

I get that alot which is mind-boggling. I mean, they are already dating a guy who has six tattoos and three piercings, and they whine about me getting anything else done.

 

[TickTockMan]

I really don’t have any. It would pretty much come down to the individual.


There are a few things I would prefer not to deal with though.