deal breakers

[cinnamontea]

big dealbreaker - rude to service staff.

totally unacceptable and speaks volume about how he views other people that he deemed "beneath him"

 

[Beachguyj]

what are your dating deal breakers? no matter how silly!

a friend of mine just had a third date with a guy last night. he said it was going well right until the guy took off his jacket and tied it around his waist. i don't see the big deal, but it was a huge turn off for him. says his dick crawled into his body and refused to come out after that happened.

so what won't you put up with?

Sounds like he wasn't into the guy. Seems stupid to make it a deal breaker. I bet if it was a nice guy who was a 10 it wouldn't have been a deal breaker.

When I lived in a colder climate I used to sometimes take off my hoody and wrap it around my waist.

Deal breaker for me is a guy who is a jerk.

 

[Críostóir]

I forgot one: Guys who have stupid, arbitrary deal-breakers, even ones that don't affect me. If you reject someone because he tied his jacket around his waist, you're too much of a priss-ass queen for me, even though I never do that (I carry it over my shoulder or stuff it in a backpack).

No, two: Guys who don't respect my choices, especially if they expect me to respect theirs. To pick a harmless example, I don't have any tattoos. OK with me if you do,* but not if you tell me I should get some.
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*If you're really covered with them, that's a turn-off, but I won't tell you you shouldn't have them.

 

[Yooper]

I'm starting to see why so many people on these boards are single. :~/

You're kidding, right?



Wow.

*Must...refrain...from making further comment ...**

 

[Críostóir]

You're kidding, right?



Wow.

*Must...refrain...from making further comment ...**

Go on, let it out. You know you want to.

 

[LilBit]

You're kidding, right?



Wow.

*Must...refrain...from making further comment ...**

If people have as many hang-ups as some of the people posting in this thread, then they're never going to find someone that meets their standards.

 

[AllMan]

^no, I think it helps narrow down the people you would want to be with....I know for me, personally, my "hang-ups" as you call them stem from bad past experiences---so why would I put myself in the same situation all over again if I know how it ended the last time? That would just be stupid!!

And the jacket tied around the waste thing was a valid deal breaker---I mean, come on....it's 2010, who does that still? A person who ties anything around his waist has one or two issues:
1) he has NOOOOO fashion sense whatsoever and is complete oblivious to what looks good and what looks STUPID.
2) he is a flaming queen who just "puts himself out there"---I mean, what guy ties stuff around his waist anyway? Isn't that what women do???

I see all you people posting that it is crazy to have deal breakers, and you see why people are single, and a person has too many "hang-ups" etc....but I think its ludicrous that you would even make those commets. Either way, I think someone has a right to break a deal based on those conditions, because God knows what else the person has in their bag of bad tricks....so why wouldn't someone nip it in the bud while it's early in the game, and avoid all the drama, surprises, and disappointments later on?

 

[Críostóir]

And the jacket tied around the waste thing was a valid deal breaker---I mean, come on....it's 2010, who does that still? A person who ties anything around his waist has one or two issues:
1) he has NOOOOO fashion sense whatsoever and is complete oblivious to what looks good and what looks STUPID.
2) he is a flaming queen who just "puts himself out there"---I mean, what guy ties stuff around his waist anyway? Isn't that what women do???

1) If someone having no fashion sense is a deal-breaker for you, you're a pissy queen. Of course, I have no fashion sense and hate pissy fashionista queens, so I guess it's OK if it's a deal-breaker for you, because it sure is mutual!

2) If you think anything women do is automatically inappropriate for men, you're a misogynist. I don't particularly think it's all THAT fem to tie a jacket around your waist. I think if anything it looks more "gay" to tie it around your neck.

 

[Yooper]

1) he has NOOOOO fashion sense whatsoever and is complete oblivious to what looks good and what looks STUPID.
2) he is a flaming queen who just "puts himself out there"---I mean, what guy ties stuff around his waist anyway? Isn't that what women do???

Or, consider option #3.

It was cold, now it is hot. And he has something better to do with his hands than hold his jacket.

 

[The Reviewer]

"stank" breath, arms, ass, whatever....
smoking
drunken or high (yeah, it happened)
still living in momma's basement
driving around on spares
messy living conditions
emotional wrecks (they tend to take more from you than they're able to give back)

 

[Críostóir]

Or, consider option #3.

It was cold, now it is hot. And he has something better to do with his hands than hold his jacket.

But you see, if you're a pissy fashionista queen, such practicalities mean nothing. You should struggle with too many things in too few hands rather than not look perfectly chic.

 

[Yooper]

I can ALWAYS find something better to do with my hands than to hold a jacket.



I may not be a fashion queen but at least I'm happy.

 

[Críostóir]

Real musky cologne. Sorry, this one is TOTALLY prissy, but it's for good reason - it reminds me of a pity fuck that should have never gone down(i know certain person, an ugly guy had a pity fuck?! LOLOMGWTFBBQ!!!!), and now that smell elicits such a strong response that it becomes "you gotta shower that off please man, or i gotta go" for me.

Cologne, period turns me right off. If you don't smell good, WASH, don't cover it up.

I can ALWAYS find something better to do with my hands than to hold a jacket.



I may not be a fashion queen but at least I'm happy.

Good for you! Man after my own heart.

 

[saymyname]

- people that can't talk fast or hold an interesting, lively conversation
- people that have hangups about sex (guilt, etc.)
- people that have hangups about gender (trying to be macho, being uncomfortable with people different than themselves, etc.)
- LAZY motherfuckers
- manipulative boys
- people that are complacent/unmotivated
- people that believe in god... i don't think i've ever been with someone who isn't also some kind of atheist
- people that are a little too consumerist
- genuinely boring people or people that get bored often (if you're bored then you're boring)

 

[giftart]

Smoking. If im out on the date and its been going fine, and he says he need a smoke, a little of me dies inside.

No No for me BIG no no!

 

[saymyname]

i forgot some things:

- people that are hung up on monogamy or are sexually prude or judge people that aren't sexually prude
- people that think all drugs are bad and are totally closeminded about safe drug use
- people that are "too alternative" or "too mainstream" - it's nice to have some balance

 

[AllMan]

1) If someone having no fashion sense is a deal-breaker for you, you're a pissy queen.

OK, call me what you like, so let's call names like little children, huh?? Are you feeling better about yourself now? ANYWAY, if someone has no BASIC sense of matching or knowing what to wear or not to wear & what looks good/doesn't look good on them, then---for crying out loud---they have some hidden organizational/rationale issues going on anyway. God know's what else they can't get together in their life....

I have no fashion sense and hate pissy fashionista queens

Yea, you would say that wouldn't you----you're not even close to being on my level anyway, so there wouldm't even be a deal to break in the first place; you would be well below my standards, regardless!!! I would probably see how much of a hot mess you were as you were walking up, and stop you in your tracks before you even speak.

2) If you think anything women do is automatically inappropriate for men, you're a misogynist. I don't particularly think it's all THAT fem to tie a jacket around your waist. I think if anything it looks more "gay" to tie it around your neck.

Um, ok---a misogynist? Come on dude, was the best insult you could think of? That's your heavily flawed opinion. That is just totally wrong---you are using that word completely out of context and ignorantly.

So you think it's ok to tie something around your waist that is MEANT to be worn on your chest/torso??? Well why don't you just let your true colors show, and put a damn dress on and save yourself the hassle of even tying the shirt around your waist!!!!!

 

[NineOfClubs]

It always used to be smoking.

Now, maybe not that important.

But anyone who does illegal drugs would be off the radar, for me.

 

[saymyname]

OK, call me what you like, so let's call names like little children, huh?? Are you feeling better about yourself now? ANYWAY, if someone has no BASIC sense of matching or knowing what to wear or not to wear & what looks good/doesn't look good on them, then---for crying out loud---they have some hidden organizational/rationale issues going on anyway. God know's what else they can't get together in their life....



Yea, you would say that wouldn't you----you're not even close to being on my level anyway, so there wouldm't even be a deal to break in the first place; you would be well below my standards, regardless!!! I would probably see how much of a hot mess you were as you were walking up, and stop you in your tracks before you even speak.



Um, ok---a misogynist? Come on dude, was the best insult you could think of? That's your heavily flawed opinion. That is just totally wrong---you are using that word completely out of context and ignorantly.

So you think it's ok to tie something around your waist that is MEANT to be worn on your chest/torso??? Well why don't you just let your true colors show, and put a damn dress on and save yourself the hassle of even tying the shirt around your waist!!!!!

For being so masculine, you sure do sound kind of bitchy... now bend over.

 

[AllMan]

For being so masculine, you sure do sound kind of bitchy... now bend over.

Why, thank you for being the nth one who jumped on the "I have nothing original to say" bandwagon and pointing that out---I will look into that and get back with you

P.S. too many riders on that fragile bandwagon, and the axles with break...just saying

^Remember people, sometimes a name is really just that; a name.

Calling yourself All"Man" and then going on and on and on and on about Gucci and Prada and the "correct" way to wear things and justifying the "jacket around your waist" as a concrete deal breaker because this person is OBVIOUSLY not a fashionista... ... ... well, i chuckled. Not even i'm that into Project Runway.

Excellent dissertation....you managed to get another jab at me under your belt; feel better about yourself now? It must be miserable being you----feeling so worthless, having such low self-esteem that you feel the need to berate others to feel better about yourself, having so much hate and jealousy towards another individual....wow....even though I think (well, i KNOW) you have serious issues, I will pray for you...my fellow human being. Did someone neglect or abuse you as a child? Did you suffer from an event that made you so bitter? You need a