do u like certain types of races or nationlities??

[Puzuzzu]

Re: do u like certain types of races or nationliti

Mediterranean men!
Greeks can be so hot..it's not even funny!

 

[asian87]

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Why are Asian guys so obsessed with white guys? I never get it. The majority of gay Asian I meet fetishizes, obsesses over white guys, to the point where it's dehumanizing to both parties. Also I have noticed a lot of Latin obsess over blonds... I live in LA, a majority Latin and Asian city and blonds are practically hunted down. Weird.

As for me I prefer certain looks (like dark features but lighter skin, i.e. mediterranean middle eastern) but I have legitimately had major crushes on guys of all races.

I don't think asians obsess over white. I don't know for others but for me it's not true. I like white because in my eyes they physically fit my taste and that they are more open to races. I would also mention that white tend to be more open minded.

 

[youngnihilist]

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Yeah. Asian culture is great. Japan is the most modern country in the world and in the colonial era it easily competed with and was even greater than leading European nations (like Russia). China has an incredible history where it was a huge modern civilization when Europe was in the dark ages. India too. Be proud of who you are!

 

[MaxMouse]

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I love latinos...They know how to talk to me, and their facial structures are I think the sexiest of all. I love their skin tone and they are just so sexy. And I love the spanish language. Definitely my number 1, but I don't really count anyone out.

I will say I am almost never attracted to white boys because they can be semi-awkward and not extremely social, and I don't trust black guys all the time because they are almost too good at winning me over with their words!

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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add this topic to Religion & Politics , dont discuss in polite convo

IMO most peeps who play the race card have been jilted by someone of a different race and are looking for a scape goat.

That's a wildly unsubstantiated assumption, unless you claim to know "most people's" personal sexual histories as fact. Racial tension in the gay community is real, this is no game. People are relating their observations and expressing opinions, not "playing cards."

Blacks and other minorities have been denied entry and refused service in places of public accomodation because they are perceived as socially, economically, and cosmetically undesirable.

Race-related presumptions I've seen expressed in this thread lend fuel to that fire.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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how have black folks lost our minds? lol.

I really hoped the practice of some blacks judging the desirablity of other blacks based on "lightness" of skin tone, whilst lavishing praise and admiration on whites and (white-ish) latinos was dead and buried.

 

[kingkhan]

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I really hoped the practice of some blacks judging the desirablity of other blacks based on "lightness" of skin tone, whilst lavishing praise and admiration on whites and (white-ish) latinos was dead and buried.

I am very light skinned, becuase I am half white, so I like black women with skin tones similar to me and live around mostly white and latino ppl and don't actually see many black ppl to begin with. And the latin ppl I like are brown skinned and this is all preference and of course there are attractive ppl of all races I just like certain hair and skin tones more and it is mostly shaped by the ppl I see everyday more so then reflecting societies tendency to praise everything white in fact pale skin is probably one of the most unattractive quality a person could have imo.

 

[G-Lexington]

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I should point out that I'm much MUCH more attracted to personalities than looks. I'd much rather crawl into bed with an ugly fun guy than a hot zero. And that's not just me being politically correct and doing the "beauty's only skin deep" routine, either. I first grew interested in my partner based on our conversations online. By the time I had started thinking "Yeah, I'd probably do him", I still had absolutely no idea what he looked like. He could've been any race, any size, and anything from supermodel to gargoyle. As it ended up, he's white, average and attractive-to-me.

Lex

 

[chillyboi]

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englsh/brit lads
african american boys
puerto rican boys

 

[kayman23]

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"Preferences" do not exclude or limit your options. They, instead, ENHANCE your desires.

I "prefer" Strawberry ice cream, but that doesn't mean that I can't eat another flavor from time to time and enjoy it. Just means that at the Dairy Queen, I usually gravitate toward Strawberry items on the menu first. On the other hand, I don't like Butterscotch at all. That's not a preference; it's a wholly negative bias against that flavor.

Being turned off by people for no other reason than BECAUSE of their race is not a "preference." It's a bias-against what they fundamentally are. Trying to deem it as just a preference is a covert way of not facing that your non-attraction most likely IS rooted in racist sentiment...whether you're oblivious to it, or not. That's like saying, "I 'prefer' not to have any gay friends." You're 100% within your right to not have any that are, but that's not a preference. It's bigotry. At least be big enough to own your narrow-mindedness without making cutesy excuses to justify it.

It's fine to be one of those people who will date ANYONE who they click with (no matter the race/ethnic group), but if as a general rule you aren't attracted to members of certain group(s), again...that isn't a "preference."

Bad as that is, it's worse though when when someone from one racial/ethnic group has such an obsessive bias or longing towards another group that they seek out validation from them, and feel (like the OP said) "ugly" should they get rejected from them because they have a bias against your racial/ethnic group. That's more than just having an attraction. It sounds like you probably wish you yourself were part of THAT persuasion, so much so that when you aren't accepted by someone who is, it becomes a brutal reminder that you are what you are. Sad.

I would have to agree with your statement 110%. I've just grown to be aversive towards "simple-minded" people and men in general. When I encounter guys that seem to be drawn to just a specific ethnic group like bugs to light as sad and a true testament of the eurocentricity of Western society.

 

[kayman23]

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I am very light skinned, becuase I am half white, so I like black women with skin tones similar to me and live around mostly white and latino ppl and don't actually see many black ppl to begin with. And the latin ppl I like are brown skinned and this is all preference and of course there are attractive ppl of all races I just like certain hair and skin tones more and it is mostly shaped by the ppl I see everyday more so then reflecting societies tendency to praise everything white in fact pale skin is probably one of the most unattractive quality a person could have imo.

Well, my advice to you is you should get out more because your views of blacks is quite skewed. Also I wouldn't advise you get around your black relatives or black folks in general rambling on with that type of mindset because most will interpret it as self-loathing.

 

[kayman23]

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On myself, no real preference on ethnicity since every group has a screwed people and assholes. As long as the person is articulate, worldly, and adventurous with the ability to hold great conversation then so be it. However, I've had more than enough bad experiences with white guys to know that most aren't for me...

 

[Muscles4daze]

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On myself, no real preference on ethnicity since every group has a screwed people and assholes. As long as the person is articulate, worldly, and adventurous with the ability to hold great conversation then so be it. However, I've had more than enough bad experiences with white guys to know that most aren't for me...

Kay if you don't mind me asking what types of experiences have you went through?
Do you feel that some of those bad experiences happened because you were dating white men?

 

[youngnihilist]

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I piss on preferences, everyone should just fuck each other regardless of race. It should be a mandated law by the US gov't to force interracial sex. That may not be so far fetched.

 

[tommyj]

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Kay if you don't mind me asking what types of experiences have you went through?
Do you feel that some of those bad experiences happened because you were dating white men?

Yes please elaborate Kayman. I am interested.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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I am very light skinned, becuase I am half white, so I like black women with skin tones similar to me and live around mostly white and latino ppl and don't actually see many black ppl to begin with. And the latin ppl I like are brown skinned and this is all preference and of course there are attractive ppl of all races I just like certain hair and skin tones more and it is mostly shaped by the ppl I see everyday more so then reflecting societies tendency to praise everything white in fact pale skin is probably one of the most unattractive quality a person could have imo.

Light-skinned, "half-white" or not, I would relate to you as a black man and a brother. I would urge you to form a deeper connection with the blackness of your roots. Move beyond the "differentness" of skin tones and hair grades. See more "crispy black," beautiful faces and know what that's about.

 

[kayman23]

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Kay if you don't mind me asking what types of experiences have you went through?
Do you feel that some of those bad experiences happened because you were dating white men?

Most of my experience with white guys have been awkward to downright bad. Most of the guys white guys I've dealt with either wanted me to just be around their predominately white group of friends but wouldn't do the same around my mixed group of friends to just seeing me as just a sex object. The fact that former basically wanted me to be the token black guys amongst his group of friends just bothered me because he deliberately avoided any opportunity to hang out with me when I was with my friends. I've tried to be open-minded and say most white guys aren't like that when it comes to dealing with me, but I've basically given up on dating them. So to sum it up, yeah I do believe that many of my experience with white guys was because they were white and I am black. I just feel like many white guys where I live don't know how to interact with most non-white guys because it is a fear of offending or being around surroundings where there isn't a majority of the people that are white. I hate to say it like that but that is my interpretation of my experiences, and that black males within the GLBT fold are the most disliked, misundertood, and feared group of people...

 

[civiccentre]

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i'm asian, and sometimes i wish i were more open, but after what little i've experienced so far, i've found that..

.. asians make the cut for me.

yes, sounds completely out of character for asian ppl so far in this thread, but i just haven't been able to properly bond with a white guy in the same way i can with asians. they don't seem to respect me the way asians do. the typical abercrombie look is too played-out for me .. i crave hot asian guys. i've been dating a filipino guy for the past year and it's worked out perfectly well (funnily enough, it's more filipino guys who pay attention to me compared to other asians do)

i'm not sure where the other asians in this thread came from, but i feel like it's easier to find "sticky rice" boys here in the toronto area compared to other places, so perhaps it's a toronto thing? LOL

other races (latino, black, middle eastern, etc) - i have no dating experience with them. can't say if i'll ever date them, but can't say i'll reject them either.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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Most of my experience with white guys have been awkward to downright bad. Most of the guys white guys I've dealt with either wanted me to just be around their predominately white group of friends but wouldn't do the same around my mixed group of friends to just seeing me as just a sex object. The fact that former basically wanted me to be the token black guys amongst his group of friends just bothered me because he deliberately avoided any opportunity to hang out with me when I was with my friends. I've tried to be open-minded and say most white guys aren't like that when it comes to dealing with me, but I've basically given up on dating them. So to sum it up, yeah I do believe that many of my experience with white guys was because they were white and I am black. I just feel like many white guys where I live don't know how to interact with most non-white guys because it is a fear of offending or being around surroundings where there isn't a majority of the people that are white. I hate to say it like that but that is my interpretation of my experiences, and that black males within the GLBT fold are the most disliked, misundertood, and feared group of people...

I can understand what you're talking about. I often see singular minorities surrounded by a group of white friends, convinced they've finally made it in "the club," but don't realize they're just the mascot.

As for dating white men, yes there is a cultural disconnect that often goes unrecognized. The gap might narrow with practice and exposure. But that's not likely to occur.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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i'm asian, and sometimes i wish i were more open, but after what little i've experienced so far, i've found that..

.. asians make the cut for me.

i'm not sure where the other asians in this thread came from, but i feel like it's easier to find "sticky rice" boys here in the toronto area compared to other places, so perhaps it's a toronto thing? LOL

other races (latino, black, middle eastern, etc) - i have no dating experience with them. can't say if i'll ever date them, but can't say i'll reject them either.

I've also found Toronto asians are much more into men of color (all colors) than asian men in other cities. I don't know what it is about this town. The first four-way I participated in was with three Chinese university students.