Do you think gay culture is oversexed?

[Sam Blum]

Actually, it is people who don't even belong to the queer community who sexualised non-heterosexually behaving people to the exclusion of almost all other aspects of humanity. And as can be seen in any marginalised, often demonised, even criminalised group of persons of all manners, as belonging and participating in an inclusive and broad community becomes more difficult, we turn to those whom we recognise as having similar 'qualities' (and who are therefore less likely to reject or harm us) for acceptance and society. It's 01:00 & I'm tired, so I hope this doesn't read really poorly. When a group or community/society of people is formed based on only one or two aspects of their being, then it is easier for them to include more peoople in their group, forming more readily a stronger, new community, than say, if there were several qualifying factors. This allows us to feel a part of a social order that accepts us as being of that type or kind more rapidly and more securely (with greater numbers of members available to seek inclusion amongst). The consequence of us identifying ourselves as a community using the criterium that has been assigned us by a reducing, stereotyping, despising broader social order is that we increasingly become only what that domineering group want us to be limited to. In our case, we become sexual creatures in the main, or at least can be readily identified as such. Other groups may be only black, or only fat, or only a particular religious or politcal persuasion.

As for myself, I cannot say that I am over-sexed, now or ever. I've had a good number of lovers, but that doesn't mean I have a sexual aspect that dominates all my other parts. And when I consider those whom I've known, I'd say that only a couple of guys I've known would agree that they have a sexual side more developed than any other part, and they were both sex-workers; not a peculiarly queer occupation.

The irony of this sort of question is, that there is a constant schism within the 'queer community' (and it goes without saying - in the straight community too) regarding the men and women who refuse to participate openly in the queer community; those who operate in a subversive fashion in the 'straight' community are seen as treacherous by many straight and many queer folk. This, at the same time as people who demand that we who be queer are entitled to be seen and recognised as queer/gay/whatever, say that either we should act straight, or act non-sexually or be anything other than men and women who enjoy a full life that includes non-homogenised sexuality. God, I feel so pissed off sometimes at the immaturity and stupidity of so many people who want the cake and stuff it in their mouths at the same time!Honestly, if one thinks that a sexually based culture is overly sexually orientated, then one seems to miss the whole fucking point.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

suburban created pap is internet what explain da crap real world folk swim in dailys Yet they go sling it on internet so what theys is off net? Blind? Deaf? Nos eyes? Lock in bubble with rattle ans playpen?

ans unpaid folk deal with these folk what spin off loads da labels no idea what is or is not ans they jump in ta labels like another pairs da shoes ans then ya got da 1001 ways straight world no can deal with theirs own historys what create ans recreate same shit

certain countrys real got job on hands wash da shit out thiers populations heads ans leave labels in their stoopid books

lot countrys no evens got culture< just a fuckin mess so until it sorts out

no cultures in lot these stoooopid countrys but millions folk alls desperate fa Male species get diapers sorted out

Internet wanna stop dumpin everythin on word GAY< or they just go invent new one HAAAAAA but keep it secret so all da males no find it ans save B&Co Folk lot da crap Male folk stills in diapres talk do ans foreva

Internet amazin stuff folk type on ( so call Gay sites )<what not really>ans they educated what is da amaizins more it

Word ( gay ) lot countrys like lot things really wanna teach history as it really ( IS ) ans was ans save ( Other Folk what live it ) lot shit fa noise

 

[bankside]

Gay Culture equals sex - JUB makes that clear

The nice thing is the forums make it clear that gay men are looking for so much more - affection, love, togetherness, permanence, friendship, brotherhood & community.

The really nice thing is we can have all that and sex too woohoo!

(having our cake and eating it)

 

[mariners2451]

we fags define ourselves (as a group) by who we are sexually attracted to, and we spend a lot of time dealing with our own sexuality, so its completely understandable that sexuality takes a central role in our culture. i think gay culture is "very sexed", bot not "oversexed", since "over" implies that its a negative thing.

and i think the way gay culture deals with sex is generally more healthy than how mainstream culture or religious culture deals with it (denying it, surpressing it, huge imbalance between the sexualisation of men and women, hypocritical attitudes, fetishizing monogamy, confusing love and sex with each-other...)

Pretty much agree with all of this. As a sexual, horny creature, how is it possible for me to be oversexed? It's just part of who I am. Horniness and sex are positive, not negative, in my mind. It'd be nice if mainstream and religious culture didn't suppress it or act like it's so horrible.