Do you think it's weird for a 22 year old man to date a 53 year old man?

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I think what sloppy is saying is that love is blind and you have to follow your heart, also something about a dildo and a teddy bear. There you go.

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is no answer cause is no question

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ans for say numbers is of no point
ans if so call cultures world ova no figa wen say ya got free will but good luck if ya use it
there go

so back ta has nice life ans kind ta da planet cause

thankyou

 

[Scealle]

I don't think its weird at all. Love happens in all ages.

 

[ronboy]

No, it's not weird...

Different strokes for different folks....

Variety is the spice of life.....

Love really can happen at any age.....

Good luck in whatever you decide.....

 

[diamondstar]

NOPE! You're both adults.

 

[skinIsIn]

I am 22. I've been going out with a 53 year old for about three weeks now. I AM interested in him, and have no hesitations or reservations about having sex with him (we haven't done so yet), but my friends and family don't like the idea of me dating him long term.

At 22, it shows how immature you truly may be at dating men;three weeks? who the hell talks about potential relationships with family this early in the game?! First off, family should only be clued in after you've had sex and have been together for at least a three month trial. Friends are different (or a trusted sibling,) you can discuss it with 'em as long as they don't spill the beans to the parents. The other drama from granny and your aunt June discussing your "bedpole-notching" will just distract and derail any future potential reasonable relationships! But the cat's out of the bag and so clear the air...let them know you will continue to "go steady" with him, to give this corked wine a chance to breathe.

My father is only just coming around to me being gay after about 3 years, and is threatening to completely cut me off if I do, and he thinks that I would be setting even more of a bad example (already bad because I date men) to my 3 year old son, who I had before I "discovered" I was gay.

This above, is mighty telling...are you at home with parents? When you say, "cut you off," do you mean financially or completely? He'd be in his right to monetarily cut you off, tomorrow, being 22. As for "completely cutting you off" the man must be then as immature as you! If he wants to cut all communication with you, so what? We do not choose our family, but we do choose our lovers and good friends.

But hey, you're young, dumb, and full of cum...if a 53 year old sugar daddy turns your crank...in this economy, you might as well go for it!

As for your kid, at ages 3-7 all adults are "old," and if this does become a stable, LTR it'll be his "normal" so it will be a non-issue. Besides, most likely the child is being raised by your "baby-mama," so it really would not matter much, seeing him on weekends.

My future advice, if this does not work out, tell family only on a "need to know" basis!

 

[kombatwombat]

Yeah, it seems a bit weird, but when I'm 53 I'll probably think differently.

Anyway, who cares what anyone thinks? You're the only one who gets to live your life.

 

[ravenstar]

Frankly I don't see it as weird in the slightest. Do I see problems along the road, sure I do. Are they insurmountable, most likely not if you're both willing to work on them. But then all relationships have problems, regardless of age differences.

I don't see how who you date is anyone's business but your own. There are too many people worried about what goes on in other people's bedrooms. My theory is, if you don't pay my rent, you're entitled to your opinion but I don't care a dot what it is.

Life is too short to be borrowing worry. So long as you're both of legal age, and you're not hurting anyone, then the only opinion that should count is yours.

What do you think of the age difference? Do you think it's odd? Are you really worried about what other people think, because frankly, most people don't think at all. They're too caught up in their own lives and worrying about what those outside their world are thinking about them.

 

[hungkee]

I just think its humorous how this story is just one big pile of daddies and sons.

We still have as yet to hear from the OP what it is he even finds attractive about this 53 year-old other than he'd have sex with him (and had to then run and tell his real daddy that).

And one just found out one is gay and is into daddies? Of course, there is a toddler SON mentioned. What responsible daddy to such a child is so hung up on what his own daddy thinks? And what about the 3 year-old's mother? I would think she would have some input into who is around her child.

Or like in all such stories...is she dead or in jail for drugs? Or did she have the baby but then ran off with some dude abandoning the boy baby to his daddy. lol

Many guys date older or younger guys. I don't know if there is a cut-off in age range particularly.

But all of the dynamics described in this post, combined with some of the previous posts in other threads by the OP (about incest, etc) seem to indicate that this is less about intergen dating and everything to do with directing people to think about incest issues.

Heck, the guy doesn't even care what his own MOTHER thinks of him dating a man old enough to be his father/her husband. And again, he doesn't care what his own toddler son's MOTHER thinks either.

Its only all about him, his daddy, his other daddy and his being a daddy...to a son.

Not quite a "dating an older guy" story.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Yes I think it is weird

 

[hotatlboi]

Like someone said, I wouldn't have told anyone in my family after 3 weeks, that seems way too fast to even be having a serious discussion with anyone about seeing you with this person long term, which tells me I'm not sure you really have a complete understanding of where your "relationship" (if you can even call it that after 3 weeks) is with this person.

 

[skinIsIn]

And, to make matters worse, while professing not to be ageist, you then immediately parrot back skinIsIn's highly offensive inference that the only attraction between the two generations is monetary.

I said no such thing. Obviously, you wouldn't know sarcasm if it slapped you across the face! The OP stated he may be "cut off." Therefore, I merely insinuated the father's possible homophobic, narrow-minded viewpoint of this relationship, especially since he may be supporting this immature, lacking common-sense, 22 year old! Re-read my orig. post without becoming apoplectic!

Calling the older man a "sugar daddy" with no reference made to any such thing by the O.P. is the very definition of prejudiced.

No, it isn't, not within the context of my original post. I guess I also sensed BS in the OP's opening statement, so I decided to "unfairly" pigeon-hole this coupling as a "sugar-daddy/kept-boy," call me a cynic.

Bottom line: one should date whomever they choose, regardless of age, as long as you're both happy.
Family opinion should never factor in matters of the heart, but the reality is, unless you're financially independent, they will feel they have the "right" to meddle, however they want.

 

[lolalola70]

not weird, just not the norm. i believe back in the day the rule of thumb for age appropriate was your age divided by 2 plus 7
i'm sure no one follows that anymore though.

 

[jmadaf]

No, age shouldn't matter as long as your both adults, and you satisfy eachother.

 

[bankside]

My experience has been that the younger person often feels they are mature for their age and thus a good match for the older person. My experience has also been more often than not that it's actually the older person who is immature for his age. Stuck in a rut. Or in a certain time zone in his life.

OF course, if that doesn't apply then it doesn't apply. Only you can decide that, and you'll know it whether we give you good advice or not. But my experience has been.....

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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anyway

da weather a gonna be da weather

thankyou

 

[rareboy]

Date whoever you want.

 

[chrisw87]

it's a little weird, but whatever makes people happy *shrug* you're both consensual adults.

personally, I'd question what a 53 year-old can intellectually see in a 22 year-old, and based on where you both are in life, I'd wonder how long it can really last.

QFT (oh my first time I've used that acronym, makes me feel hip hah).

I am only 24, yet I have a hard enough time talking to 18-19 year old chitlins. Usually there is nothing wrong with them, but the lack of life experience and sometimes common sense leaves little to chat about that isn't a shallow bumblefuck of mid-paper news stories or what they have on their iPod.

 

[Beachguyj]

I think it's creepy when someone wants to date someone 20 years younger or more than them. It seems like they are not looking for an equal and want someone that they can control and mold into what they want. If an older guy just so happens to meet a younger guy and just clicks with them that's okay.

 

[cgymike]

Well, it's unusual but not necessarily weird. Your dad's attitude is weird IMO. How dare him say that about the guy you are dating. Stupid and judgemental of him I would say. I say go for it as long as you have lots in common apart from sex it may work. That you haven't had sex yet may be a good thing. It's hard enough finding someone compatible at ANY age so it's important that you pursue to fully regardless of OP0 (Other People's Opinions). Keep us posted on progress and best to you!

 

[bulge]

I was 18. I was all hot about a guy in his 60ties. So, for me this is the most normal thing ever.