The same way I make myself feel that way about everything, I guess.
Back in high school, I was Genera-Kid. Shy, awkward, wanting to fit in. And that meant following along with the crowd a lot of the time. Going to the same movies, and wearing many of the same clothes, and listening to the same music.
In college, I ended up in what you might call the Dorm of Misfit Toys. We had the guy who only listened to doo-wop, the guy who only watched film noir, and the guy who wore a shirt and tie every day for no reason. It was like fuckin' heaven. It made me realize I could just be whoever the fuck I wanted to be. I started wearing T-shirts with cartoon characters on them, and if I couldn't find shirts with the characters I wanted, I just drew them on myself. I started listening to more jazz and alternative rock. I started reading weirder books. I could just be me, y'know?
And no, not everybody "got it". Not everybody saw my cartoon T-shirts and said "That's an amazing look!" But they "got it" on another level.
They saw me being me. And they saw me enjoying the hell out of life because of it. So even if they didn't understand or appreciate any of the individual pieces - even if they didn't like jazz or cartoons or anything else - they could appreciate the whole picture. "Really? You watch silent films? That's kinda weird." "Yeah, but I really love them." "Well, that's cool, I guess."
And that eventually moved outward to embrace my looks, too. As I said, I was never a "looker" by any stretch. But it wasn't long before I realized that some people DID like the way I look. Some people DID find me desirable on that level. And that's about all it took.

Even most of the ones who don't find me attractive don't give me shit about the way I look. They don't say "the only attractive people are those who are trim and muscular and who keep their bodyhair shaved". They just prefer that type, which I'm not in. And I'm cool with that - the same way there are people who don't care about jazz or my hand-drawn T-shirts.
Lex