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does once make me gay?

questionman said:
I am a straight man and have never been interested in men, i've always had a lot of luck with beautiful women, and the thought of a man never crossed my mind.
i have a friend, also straight and married, and, with my girlfriend at the time, the 4 of us sometimes would play some erotic games, but NEVER with any interaction between the two men. Clearly this is somebody i was comfortable with given the games with the wife and gf.
He got divorced, and later i broke up with my gf.
one night this guy and i were at my house by ourselves, and got really drunk and fucked up, and he suggested we should fool around, which took me completely by surprise, but i was really wasted, and went along with it. we took our clothes off, and next thing i know, i am sucking his cock! and though it wasn't my idea, i must say i didn't dislike it at the time, being drunk played a big part, and i even told him since i was experimenting, that he could come in my mouth, but he did not want to.
i guess i was excited by the fact that his cock was huge, and i had never held another cock in my hand, let alone my mouth! so i sucked him off for a while, and he loved it, but didn't come in my mouth, he played with my dick, and that was about it.
when we sobered up we were both so embarassed by what had happened that we told each other we had crossed a line, and we were never able to see each other again because we were i guess both embarassed. i know we shouldn't have, but that's the way it was.
the following days i felt really ashamed about what had happened, then the thing kinda faded away.
years after, i have not seen my friend again, and have never been attracted to any other men (infact, i wasn't really attracted to him either, except for his big dick), i would never do this again cause i am not interested, except maybe if it were to happen with him, which it won't. i guess the fact that we are both completely straight is a factor.
however, when i think about that night now, i find it kind of exciting, and occasionally i watch some gay porn and am reminded.
i have no interest in men, i don't think that one experience makes gay or bi, but wanted to know your opinion!
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Firstly, your story game me a boner.

Secondly, no it doesn't make you gay, it makes you alive and open for experimenting like that. I also don't think you should have broken things off with your friend. If anything, sexual experimentation with my guy friends made us closer.
 
well, unfortunately he never wanted to hear from me even after a long time had passed since that night. oh well. his loss more than mine maybe.
 
And by the way, the person who said earlier they don't believe this really happened might want to explain to me why they think I would tell this story if it wasn't true? What would be the point??
 
Sexual orientation does not need a sexual act to determine its orientation. It is how a person is wired from birth and the impact that one's environment has on the individual too. Virgins can be gay, straight, bi or any other label.

I suggest you take the flex test. It was created by a medical doctor who specializes in human sexuality. Here is a link. Also, read the information it provides. Education is very important when one is questioning one's sexuality.

Since you asked for our opinions, here is mine. I think you are in denial. You are not as straight as you present yourself. The cliche' "Thou doest protest too much," comes to mine. Your environment or fear of rejection from your family and/or friends is forcing you to suppress your true sexuality.

I know a great deal about denial. I spent a lifetime in denial myself. I am what is called a late bloomer. I did not face my true sexuality until later in life.

I graduated from college, got married to a woman, had a kid, then got divorced. I was taught that being gay was a choice and I was determined to be straight. However, there was this big question deep down inside me.

The idea of sucking a guy's cock was sickening to me. I never thought about kissing a guy. However, I was intrigued about anal sex and preferred to look at gay porn.

To make a long story short, I decided I would hook up with a guy to prove this was just a fad or a phase I was going through. I would have a terrible experience, then this gay thing would be behind me. Well, it was the best sex of my life! WOW!

I mentioned all this because I don't want you to spend your whole life, as I did, in denial. I regret that I did not face my reality sooner. Please don't make the same mistake that I did. Good luck to you. Don't forget to take the test.
 
mbamike said:
Sexual orientation does not need a sexual act to determine its orientation. It is how a person is wired from birth and the impact that one's environment has on the individual too. Virgins can be gay, straight, bi or any other label.

I suggest you take the flex test. It was created by a medical doctor who specializes in human sexuality. Here is a link. Also, read the information it provides. Education is very important when one is questioning one's sexuality.

Since you asked for our opinions, here is mine. I think you are in denial. You are not as straight as you present yourself. The cliche' "Thou doest protest too much," comes to mine. Your environment or fear of rejection from your family and/or friends is forcing you to suppress your true sexuality.

I know a great deal about denial. I spent a lifetime in denial myself. I am what is called a late bloomer. I did not face my true sexuality until later in life.

I graduated from college, got married to a woman, had a kid, then got divorced. I was taught that being gay was a choice and I was determined to be straight. However, there was this big question deep down inside me.

The idea of sucking a guy's cock was sickening to me. I never thought about kissing a guy. However, I was intrigued about anal sex and preferred to look at gay porn.

To make a long story short, I decided I would hook up with a guy to prove this was just a fad or a phase I was going through. I would have a terrible experience, then this gay thing would be behind me. Well, it was the best sex of my life! WOW!

I mentioned all this because I don't want you to spend your whole life, as I did, in denial. I regret that I did not face my reality sooner. Please don't make the same mistake that I did. Good luck to you. Don't forget to take the test.
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thanks. Doing it now.
 
I am a firm believer that you can fall in love with a personality and not necessarily the sex.

Most of the time when you are going on traditional dates, one has to decide which sex they would like to go on said date with, but with friends, I feel it is a lot more complicated, and I can see where people would possibly fall for their friends. In many cases the parties are not interseted in a straight relationship if they are gay or a gay relationship if they are straight but there is just something that attracted them to the personality of the other. It is just one of those things that makes sexuality so complicated.
 
but actually it wasn't like that at all, it was merely a sexual thing, the personality or friendship, i think, had nothing at all to do with it. i never even thought my friend was attractive, either...
 
I just think the question is funny - does one time make me gay? Yes, yes it does, for eternity. You are doomed to have sex with guys for the rest of your life and there's nothing you can do about it!

You did something different! If you enjoyed it, great. If not, great - move on and forget about it.
 
ajal said:
I just think the question is funny - does one time make me gay? Yes, yes it does, for eternity. You are doomed to have sex with guys for the rest of your life and there's nothing you can do about it!

You did something different! If you enjoyed it, great. If not, great - move on and forget about it.
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you are right, the question is ridicolous put like that.
 
questionman said:
but actually it wasn't like that at all, it was merely a sexual thing, the personality or friendship, i think, had nothing at all to do with it. i never even thought my friend was attractive, either...
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If it was purly sexual it could have been that you found your friends subconsciously attractive. If not the case, you might just be bisexual, and it might be a matter of conveinence? Like I said before, sexuality is just confusing.
 
Addressing the thread title:

No........it makes you more experienced....... ;)
 
There are no Guarantees. There is no strictly defined Black and White. We are ALL presented with LIFE as we're 'meant' to experience it, in our own ways. \:/ #-o (!) ](*,)

None of us can be easily described by set labels, nor confined to limited boundaries. :eek: [-X

Each of us ARE what we ARE! And, we really don't have as much control over that as most of us would wish! :help:

The 'trick' is to understand/accept/work with That, and Honestly play the hand that we may be dealt. ..|

SO ... How did your Flexibility Test go? Did you agree with it's results? :confused:

In my case, and several others that I'm aware of, it seemed to be a pretty good indication of what we might not be fully aware of. I think it's fairly indicative of what we might be hiding, or not willing to accept, about ourselves. :cool:

The main thing is to Trust your Heart, and follow what it might be trying to tell you. (group)

And, of course ... most Sincerely ... and no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz :luv:
 
Gay, only if you loved it, and want more, bi, if you still want pussy. I love sucking cock, but I fuck women in the ass too.
 
jmadaf said:
Gay, only if you loved it, and want more, bi, if you still want pussy. I love sucking cock, but I fuck women in the ass too.
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Sounds rather BI to me - you can love it with either gender without having to be either heterosexual or homosexual.

Why just limit yourself to fucking woman in the ass? Vaginal sex is just as good if not better?
 
I messed around with several straight friends in high school and a couple out of college. It's not all that unusual, especially when alcohol was involved. I think for all of them it was a one time thing. Without exception, there was an embarrassment afterwards, they felt guilty, it's never brought up again. Still, we were good enough friends that no one has cut ties with me. I think your friend might be less secure than you.
 
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