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Femmephobia in the gay community

If I wanted something feminine, I'd be with a woman. Duh. Joking!

xbuzzerx has it right on the money, I think. I don't want to be portrayed as a stereotype on television (Ugly Betty, Glee, anyone?). I prefer deeper characterization (Oz, Brothers and Sisters, Six Feet Under). It annoys the fucking shit out of me when I claim such and gays berate me for being internally homophobic (AfterElton, anyone?). I read AfterElton quite regularly, it's nice...but can be irritating as fuck and way too PC. I don't pass as a walking stereotype. I would also like a man that is, well, similar in that regard.

I don't know how to react to 'femmephobia'. Sometimes I roll my eyes at how moronic people are with it...yet sadly, sometimes I am in agreement (such as the gays that wear pink bow-ties, talk with an unusual-borderline/totally-fake-lisp, and Lady Gaga outfits, spouting 'fabulous'). I think it's absurd to act as such -- I'm not 'hating on them' or 'phobic' of them, just annoyed to Hell and back.

This isn't to say I don't have 'feminine qualities' myself. I am very frugal but I will go on a shopping binge for clothing every few years, dropping about $2-3k, which turns into a lot of clothing as I don't buy a lot of high-end labels. I like water polo, which here in Canada is notoriously 'gay' of me.

An overwhelming amount of my interests are atypical masculine things. It is not 'phobic' of me to want a man with similar interests and traits. I can both accept and tolerate someone feminine, however...and I will protect them/come to their defence if necessary in a disagreement/argument about their perceived femininity.
 
I'm not sure what fem phobia is. However, it seems to be a topic here quite often.

What about "masculine" guys who are ridiculed and ostracized by gays? Wearing jeans and a Tshirt, baggy clothes, or growing a beard out are a few ways to become unacceptable to many gay circles. I've been made fun of, teased, etc.
Don't really see many posts about those though. Just a thought.
 
I am only against men who purposely shave/wax their body hair excessively. If it is only a little patch, I would look the other way but if you are a furry guy [NOT sexual furry] and shave/wax your chest, arms and legs, I see someone with low self-esteem who doesn't like the way their body looks.
 
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