I have had a couple of new experiences and wanted to share.
I recently met a young man online, he is 25, and he has told me how much he wants to be with me. He has seen my current pictures and I have explained what I desire in a relationship, so he is well-informed. The problem for him now is being torn between his current life, which is what he has always known (family, friends, etc...), and coming to live with me. Interestingly, he knew from the outset that he desires being with someone like me, yet faced with the reality of actually GETTING what he wants, there is trepidation. I have expressed an understanding of what he is feeling, but it is ultimately his future and his decision.
I met another young man online, he is 20, and still in college. As with the other young man, he knows all about me and is well-aware of what I want and need in a relationship. He, like the other lad, tells me I am exactly the kind of man he wants to be with in a relationship. However, he does not want to live together at this point...he wants to wait 2 or 3 years to live together. He also is very busy all the time (understandably), so it's difficult to find time when we can communicate directly.
With both young men I describe above, we are at a distance...typical of what I have found on the internet. This means one or the other must make a move or be willing to move. It also means long-distance relations at least for the time being.
There is a line from the song, "Perceive It" by Melanie: "...learn to play the changes to the beat of time, satisfaction never was a friend of mine...". I am living this more and more each day.
I would love to hear any and all thoughts on changes one must make in life and the way in which you make decisions.
Namaste'