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)--as well as moral issues (I'm not saying it's wrong, but I think I'd feel guilty if I were in that kind of relationship as there's no way I can offer as much that the older partner can offer to me, as well as the feeling that I'm being judged by some higher power). ), so it really is a unique position to be in. ). I think they are physically delectable and such a pleasure to talk to--it's always great getting insight from an older person--and being able to relate to them is THAT much cooler!
I've always been attracted to older men and I feel bad about it for many reasons, for reasons behind what has already been mentioned--not being able to spend "all" of life together (assuming we all live to our maximum "natural" age
The problem is, I'm attracted ONLY to older men. I've never been in a relationship with one (or anyone for that matter since I'm not interested in anyone else really
I don't know why exactly I am attracted to older men; I can tell you though it's definitely not because of money or social status (unless I'm lying to myself
This topic used to make me really depressed, but luckily I'm so busy with college and focusing on starting up a career that I've had little to no time to think--or even care--about it much anymore. I think it's almost petty of me to be attracted to just older men. I guess my way of coping with this was just to rearrange my priorities in life. Life can be beautiful without a partner too ya know
I have a question...have any of you who are only attracted to older guys tried to imagine how your attractions to men would be when you're older?
For instance, I'm usually attracted to only men between 45-70. I've tried to imagine if I'd be attracted to that age range if I'm say--80? I really don't know..
years of contemplating I finally made a move and was successful at once. now I've been with my daddy for almost 7 yrs.Hi, I'm 23 (soon to be 24) and just started dating this amazing older man for just over a month so far. The fun thing is that we've known each other for a year and a half now but I was dating someone up until recently. He's 53, and while there is a 30 year age difference, after a week being with him I forget how different we are in age. While in the past i've always dated guys around my own age, I have always had an attraction to older men but have been too afraid to act on my feelings and desires. Now that I have, I feel complete. He's just so different than other guys i know or have tried to date who are around my age.
As i've said, I have know him for over a year before we started dating. The funny thing is that we have both been attracted to each other from the first moment. My ex and I would occasionally come out to his lake house to party and hangout, and apparently one night I had a little too much to drink ( i say a little, but i don't even remember this story as he was telling me last week), but I was standing in his kitchen, it was only dimly lit since everyone was out on the porch drinking, and before i knew it he was across the way talking with me and we chatted for a while. Then my boyfriend came in (drunk as well) and told him that i looked cold there with my shirt off and if he wouldn't mind keeping me warm [insert big smile here]. But as he got closer he felt my chest, my abs, and just stopped short of my pants. My boyfriend had stumbled off and then it was just the 2 of us. Regardless if i remember this all happening or not, i know that at that moment in time i had really wanted him to hold me. And as he told me this story the other day he said how much he wanted to kiss me but that i was with my ex at the time. But now we get to hold each other all day and all night long. It's just fun to think of all of the affection and desire that was only shared in intense eye contact before this last month or two.
Like many previous posts, the maturity level is definitely a factor in my attraction. The fact that he doesn't get steamed and angry, but rather remains calm, collected and talks things out with other people is a quality that i can't help but love. I have been in some pretty violent past relationships, but now i find myself at a point where life is too short to spend any part of it angry.
He's sweet, generous, ADORABLE, loves to cuddle, kiss, sexy, gray hair, semi-hairy chest...i just melt... And the best thing is that half the time we would rather lay on the couch intertwined and talk about life, philosophy, psychology, politics, the future, our feelings, anything and everything instead of having sex. To the both of us, it's the connection with another person that is the erotic experience. (Not going to lie, it's some of the hottest sex i've had in my life)
He's highly supportive of my education (i'm still in graduate school) and he always wants to make sure that i have enough time in the days that we are together to get my papers done or reading so that i don't get behind. I love to workout throughout the week and he's very supportive of my time that i need to be at the gym. Past boyfriends have dealt with my gym time as "choosing the gym over them." When in actuality, the gym was just there before you were in the picture and i have my routine in the week.
He's one person that i can just sit and do nothing with and not feel restless or bored and he's 30 years my senior...It's hard to explain and I know a lot of people won't understand in life, but we love who we love and can't help it.
I do have concerns about hiding this from my parents however. I have been out to them for 5 years and they finally came to a point that they are accepting, and now i'm dating someone who is...the same age as them...i think right now in my life, and my BF and i have discussed this at length, and perhaps this is a moment in my life where leaving out some details will allow for less drama in my life. After all at 24, it's my life and not theirs.
But yeah, older, to me equals better. At least in my current experience.
Don't think like that. I always tell my bf that I feel like he does a lot for me that I can't return and he thinks it's nonsense. Just because you don't do the exact same thing back to them does not mean you're not reciprocating in the relationship. You bring your own half to the relationship.
Why would that be petty? What the hell is petty about an attraction to a kind of person? It should be pretty obvious to a gay man that you don't choose who you're attracted to. A lot of young gay guys are extremely unattractive, just in the way they live their lives; their demeanor; their attitudes. A lot of older guys are more down to earth and act like real people with real people problems.
I often thought about it when I first realized I only liked older guys. That was probably 4 or 5 years ago, and during this time I have learned to extend my range of who I can and can't find attractive. I can now respect that someone closer to my age IS attractive, in a 'oh you're kinda nice to look at mr pretty face' but it's never an attraction from me, you know? I think that I will always primarily be attracted to men in the 30-50ish ranges, although as I grow up and mature more I find that my standards are not quite so detailed. At heart though, I think your type is your type. Nothing to fret about.
Stop right there, you're making the right choice. Parents who take five years to accept their child really have no business in the details of your love life. Oh well. I have accepting parents and I doubt they will meet my partner now or any time soon (even though it's been several years). It's only slightly awkward to me, but I don't want to make him feel awkward. I wouldn't object to meeting his parents but at the same time I would be a-okay avoiding the scenario.
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I'm an older guy who appreciates all you young guys who appreciate me.
