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From walked all over to well respected and feared. [merged]

Re: Suicidal thoughts ....help?

Have you pursued getting any professional counselling at all?

Your name NeedingHelp ASAP doesn't resonate if you haven't made any attempt on your own by this date to get emergency and long term mental health assistance.

Same advice.

Contact your doctor asap.

Contact your therapist asap.

Contact a help line asap.

Go to an emergency clinic or to the hospital. If you are having reactions to meds that you may be taking or are having metabolic issues, these need to be dealt with as well as the underlying psychiatric problems.
 
From walked all over to well respected and feared.

I've been treated badly my whole life and have been treated as meek and frail. I've been bullied and undermined due to my age and possibly my race as well as physical appearance. How can someone like myself who has been treated as less than nothing for so manny years. Rise up to be a leader (i plan to possible start a business and need to be able to have people respect and fear me (ie my workers) but have never been respected in my everyday life....and have no idea of how to gain back control of my receivied treatment) and gain respect from those who once viewed themselves as more confident, assertive, aggressive and bulltysome towards myself.

I have a situation where a guy like myself who has been viewed as the classroom shadow (invisble), and classroom nerd for many years by others (I've NEVER personally felt that way about myself but definitely felt damaged by the constant comments.)Is now trying to gain respect and governance from the SAME individuals who once tried to step all over him.

How can I go from someone who was treated as less than nothing to someone who is treated as a person who has and deserves to have everything....who is respected FEARED (because i want my workers to fear me) and glorified.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

NeedingHelpASAP said:
How can I go from someone who was treated as less than nothing to someone who is treated as a person who has and deserves to have everything....who is respected FEARED (because i want my workers to fear me) and glorified.
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It didn't work out for Caligula...
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

Hmm well i'd never want to be feared, that's wrong. Respected is good.

Possibly one of the reasons is because you don't respect yourself. It starts from within, so begin to develop self esteem and it will influence how others treat you.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

BENDERBOY said:
So you want people to feel as shitty as you did, yeah well good luck with that mate, sounds like a winning stratergy,
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He doesn't want people to feel the same way he did!! where did you get that from... he just wants to be respected and "feared" by his workers.. that doesn't mean he wants them to feel the way he did..... But you have to have some respect from the people who work for you, otherwise they wouldn't get the job done.....

As for the actual problem, I say you need some professional help.. a psychiatrist can help you better than 100 amateur JUBers...

good luck (*8*)
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

I'm gonna say seeing a Psychologist about your self esteem and confidence issues is your best bet.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

um - yeah - i get that you want your workers to fear you. Why would anyone want to work for you?

from the title, I thought this was going to be a success story, not a whiny rehash of a tired old Rodney Dangerfield routine.

you cannot control how other people think/feel about you - ever.

to realise that you LET people walk all over you is an important first step - you follow through by not letting them do it anymore, but just remember - it's lonely at the top.

others not respecting me is not my problem. whether or not I treat others with respect IS.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

Grow a pair and stand up for yourself. People only treat you that way because YOU let them.

I'm not saying you have to be rude, or bullying - but you don't have to lay there and take it either.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

***How can I go from someone who was treated as less than nothing to someone who is treated as a person who has and deserves to have everything....who is respected FEARED (because i want my workers to fear me) and glorified.****



That's going a bit overboard if you ask me. (Kinda reminds me of the "Dr. Horrible" Prequel......;)

 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

NeedingHelpASAP said:
I've been treated badly my whole life and have been treated as meek and frail. I've been bullied and undermined due to my age and possibly my race as well as physical appearance. How can someone like myself who has been treated as less than nothing for so manny years. Rise up to be a leader (i plan to possible start a business and need to be able to have people respect and fear me (ie my workers) but have never been respected in my everyday life....and have no idea of how to gain back control of my receivied treatment) and gain respect from those who once viewed themselves as more confident, assertive, aggressive and bulltysome towards myself.

I have a situation where a guy like myself who has been viewed as the classroom shadow (invisble), and classroom nerd for many years by others (I've NEVER personally felt that way about myself but definitely felt damaged by the constant comments.)Is now trying to gain respect and governance from the SAME individuals who once tried to step all over him.

How can I go from someone who was treated as less than nothing to someone who is treated as a person who has and deserves to have everything....who is respected FEARED (because i want my workers to fear me) and glorified.
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You want to go from being a nobody to 'feared and glorified'? That's.....how high school shooters think. For the record.

Honestly it probably has a little to do with your physical appearance. People do treat you better if they find you good-looking (Hollywood went from a 6-acre farm to the mecca it is today on that very premise). Start to work out; you'll feel better about yourself too.

As for your workers; make them realize you control their paychecks. Fire the most incompetent one. That'ss fear right there.

Shrug. I don't see anyone glorifying you anytime soon though.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

JOHN B said:
***How can I go from someone who was treated as less than nothing to someone who is treated as a person who has and deserves to have everything....who is respected FEARED (because i want my workers to fear me) and glorified.****



That's going a bit overboard if you ask me. (Kinda reminds me of the "Dr. Horrible" Prequel......;)

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LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

If the only way you can gain respect at work is by trying to make everybody fear you, then you deserve to be walked over. Nobody fears me at work, but nobody walks over me, either.

Lex
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

Well, I'd recommend reading Machiavelli's The Prince, since that seems to be the angle you're gunning for...

But do keep in mind, even Machiavelli suggests that in most circumstances it is better to be loved than feared; or at least to maintain the appearance of being a just and fair boss/ruler, than actually being one.

But yes, as someone else who got picked on a lot as a kid, I can tell you: being a leader and being admired is as simple as finding something you're passionate about and becoming a leader in that field and making a name for yourself.

You don't have to put others down to get that feeling.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

Dude...wrong wrong wrong..concept of life.



If you did this for publicity, you're nothing special than Casey Anthony.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

GayPopeye said:
Dude...wrong wrong wrong..concept of life.



If you did this for publicity, you're nothing special than Casey Anthony.
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Not the wrong concept of life. I know what I want and desire.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

Anyone who disrespects you, immedietly whip your dick out and slap them across the face with it.
 
Re: From walked all over to well respected and feared.

>>>No one respects me

>>>Not the wrong concept of life. I know what I want and desire.

Well, maybe this is why. Because I sure as hell don't respect you now, either. :)

Lex
 
Re: Suicidal thoughts ....help?

justnotperfect said:
:wave:
hi, well i just wanted to tell you that although i dont know you
im here to show my support. I, in no way know how you feel
or what you being trough. But as people have been saying here
seek for help its the best thing you could do FOR YOURSELF
you have every right to be happy, dont let people hurt you,
or put you down. Dont feel ugly every person is beautiful despite
the flaws and all.

You dont know how much pain and sadness i feel when i hear
that someone killed himself over other people mean opinions
or because they dont feel accepted or they feel alone
it breaks my heart.

You deserve better and for that to happen you have to believe it yourself
and for that you need to seek for help. Here there are people who actually care
about you including myself now!.
Contact help ASAP! Contact the numbers that have been given in here!
Talk to someone you feel comfortable with, but still seek for a professional.


PM if you like :)

(*8*) :kiss:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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I feel very alone.
 
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