Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

[Medusa]

Hey guys I am new to this site,so please excuse me, if this question might be in the wrong section.

I would like to get everyone's opinions, or votes on which one will be more likely to date a bisexual man. This question has been heavy on my mind recently,btw.

 

[Rolyo85]

Men of course. Let me talk in stereotypes a bit

To women, "bisexual" spells either "slut", or "closeted gay guy". Both negative.

To men, it spells either "closeted gay guy", or "kinda straight but still wants me". Although I find the latter unhealthy, it makes bi guys more attractive to gay guys.


I am assuming you are asking because you're labeling yourself as bi?

 

[Medusa]

I am a bisexual woman. I was just asking because I saw the question on yahoo, and it have been on my mind since. And would make more sense if bisexual men, and gay guys are more likely to date each other.

 

[weinerslav]

Hi Medusa! Welcome!

I would say none! LOL, kidding, but actually, it depends, if it was just for fooling around, I would say both would have no problem getting the bi guy, but for a serious commitment I don't know, I do know a lot of women that would never get into a relation with a bi guy because they would never stop wondering about if they would be enough for him... As for the men... It depends, most of the gay guys that I know wouldn't, since they think exactly what rolyo85 said above "closeted gay guy", and I serious doubt any of those guys would put the neck on the line because most of us already had the experiment where the guy in the end picked the girl, just like in the movies. I don't know if I would pick a bi guy, honestly, I guess I would always fear being left for the girl, but it always depend of the situation...

So, I would say women, because in the end I believe they are more brave (and sometimes insane) in love than men.

 

[Medusa]

Hi Medusa! Welcome!

I would say none! LOL, kidding, but actually, it depends, if it was just for fooling around, I would say both would have no problem getting the bi guy, but for a serious commitment I don't know, I do know a lot of women that would never get into a relation with a bi guy because they would never stop wondering about if they would be enough for him... As for the men... It depends, most of the gay guys that I know wouldn't, since they think exactly what rolyo85 said above "closeted gay guy", and I serious doubt any of those guys would put the neck on the line because most of us already had the experiment where the guy in the end picked the girl, just like in the movies. I don't know if I would pick a bi guy, honestly, I guess I would always fear being left for the girl, but it always depend of the situation...

So, I would say women, because in the end I believe they are more brave (and sometimes insane) in love than men.

Actually I think women are too afraid of bisexual men.Even some bisexual women are afraid of bisexual men.lol. So,me personally I think Gay men are more bold,plus I heard it was a turn on for gay men.

 

[umjreon88]

Personally a Kinsey 4/5, I say to me, the orientation of the guy doesn't matter. As long as he loves me, that is all that matters. However, I've thought about it and sometimes I think if he leaves me for a woman I would be devastated. Then again, it just means that he doesn't love me anymore. So yeah, I don't mind Bisexual guys.

 

[weinerslav]

Actually I think women are too afraid of bisexual men.Even some bisexual women are afraid of bisexual men.lol. So,me personally I think Gay men are more bold,plus I heard it was a turn on for gay men.

LOL, maybe you're right, it may be a turn on, but I think that it is just for the fun part.

Yes, women are more afraid of bisexual men, I have a friend that once told me she would be devastated if her boyfriend left her for a man because she would assume that it would be because of her! She is incredibly feminine and beautiful so it really seems silly to listen someone saying that when she is such a perfect woman, but I made the question to other friends and they all thought the same. Even so, most women when love don't let go easily, at least that's the impression I have.

I figured out I was gay because my best friend, when I was 18, started having feelings for me, and I realized that something was happening there and that I also had really strong feelings for him, well a few months later e left me for a girl, he was such a sweet guy and tried to keep being friends but, naturally, that was just impossible for me... So you see the problem, I feel it was the first and last bi guy for me, even if I could consider someone else if it is someone worthy of my trust but, even so! There are stories like this one everywhere, if you want a serious commitment the perspective that it may happen is really scary! But well if it is just for fun, bring them on! LOL

 

[weinerslav]

sometimes I think if he leaves me for a woman I would be devastated. Then again, it just means that he doesn't love me anymore.

That made perfect sense, I never thought about it that way but it is exactly like that, maybe it really doesn't matter if you have to face competition from both sexes, in the end, if he loves you, he loves you!

 

[Appleman34]

Gay Men... Sadly, gay men think less gay = more attractive. Sadly, straight women think more gay = less attractive.

 

[Medusa]

LOL, maybe you're right, it may be a turn on, but I think that it is just for the fun part.

Yes, women are more afraid of bisexual men, I have a friend that once told me she would be devastated if her boyfriend left her for a man because she would assume that it would be because of her! She is incredibly feminine and beautiful so it really seems silly to listen someone saying that when she is such a perfect woman, but I made the question to other friends and they all thought the same. Even so, most women when love don't let go easily, at least that's the impression I have.

I figured out I was gay because my best friend, when I was 18, started having feelings for me, and I realized that something was happening there and that I also had really strong feelings for him, well a few months later e left me for a girl, he was such a sweet guy and tried to keep being friends but, naturally, that was just impossible for me... So you see the problem, I feel it was the first and last bi guy for me, even if I could consider someone else if it is someone worthy of my trust but, even so! There are stories like this one everywhere, if you want a serious commitment the perspective that it may happen is really scary! But well if it is just for fun, bring them on! LOL

Did y'all declare yourselves in a relationship? or were you just fuck buddies? And yes us women does feel like it's our fault that a man cheats on us.It's even more crumbling, and horrific if we find out he has been screwing a man.I bet that feeling is awful.

 

[Medusa]

Gay Men... Sadly, gay men think less gay = more attractive. Sadly, straight women think more gay = less attractive.

Yes.I find it very odd, and strange that gay men are not attracted to their own, or think negative of it.And it's not sad for women,to me

 

[weinerslav]

Did y'all declare yourselves in a relationship? or were you just fuck buddies? And yes us women does feel like it's our fault that a man cheats on us.It's even more crumbling, and horrific if we find out he has been screwing a man.I bet that feeling is awful.

I don't remember calling it a relation, but it was really more than just sex, we where close friends, and getting closer physically made everything more profound, I thing we where trying to figure what was the meaning of all that, I could deal with it, he couldn't, that's life. In this situation I think it was never about stop loving, it was more about being splitted and not wanting to face the real world as a gay man, that's why I never had thought before about what umjreon88 said, if it is someone that knows himself well, maybe it doesn't matter at all, if he loves you, he will stay...

 

[broadshoulder]

I think probably gay men because bisexuals make themselves available but as someone who has had bad experiences with them I wouldn't do it again.

They are fine with the sex but the commitment or being with a gay guy troubles them. They seem to have far more "guilt" and selfloathing then "out" gay men. When the going gets tough or you want to move the relationship on then they often shrivel back into the closet or take the easy option and get with a straight woman which society expects.

Some are cowards.

 

[T-Rexx]

Women are far more likely to date a bisexual man. (In fact, women are more likely to date a homosexual man).

This is fortunate, as there is almost no possibility for a gay man to establish a permanent relationship with a bisexual man. They always end up with women. Always.

 

[Scealle]

Personally I think women. The bi guy that had a fling with 2 years ago now ended up dating one of my close female friend. I told her about our "encounter" and she doesn't seem too bothered by it. She just says as long as he loves her than they are ok. Hmmm.

 

[Hellax24]

Gay Men.We love the Cock and further seeing how much farther we can push their sexual buttons. They also seem to be more sexually uninhibited, which is always a good thing.

CXXX

 

[Hellax24]

Double Post.

I love scratching that itch that those women can't do and knowing a BI Guy needs that fix is very hot.

CXXX

 

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[nfgrls]

I'm not sure, but not me.

thats just what I was thinking. I can deal with the guys that weren't sure confused and tried a woman but one that still openly is attracted to and likes women not for me

 

[Medusa]

Personally I think women. The bi guy that had a fling with 2 years ago now ended up dating one of my close female friend. I told her about our "encounter" and she doesn't seem too bothered by it. She just says as long as he loves her than they are ok. Hmmm.

Was she desperate to have a man? Did she have low self esteem? I find out that one of the many reasons why a woman would a date bisexual man is because she does not think highly of herself, or have very low self esteem.They feel like as long as any man loves me,it's better than no man at all. Is your friend fat?