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getting into a relationship with a bisexual guy? yay or nay

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mikey3000 said:
But wait... Did you say you're a porn director? *For real? *And yet you see fit to pass judgement on others for infidelity?
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I've been married to the same guy. For 20 years. And only one guy. For 20 years.*

Not sure what my job has to do with "infidelity." I was careful to point out that this has nothing to do with "cheating" or infidelity. In my first post.

But I'd be fascinated to hear your thoughts on the subject.

Please tell us.

Maybe get your boyfriend and your girlfriend to let us know their thoughts, too.

I'm sure we'd find it riveting.

Oh man, I won't even bother. It's just too easy. Yeah, bi's are bad people. What ever.
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Nobody has said bisexual men were bad people. In fact I think I said quite the opposite. Think I used the word "lovable" and said that it has nothing to do with "cheating" but that bi men need both men and women (like you do) and that I personally wouldn't be able to be in a relationship like that.*

I'm kinda about monogamy.

No judgements. But you're not in any place to throw stones at me for making porn movies (with mostly un-married performers) when you're in a relationship that very very few people would consider being a part of. *

Including me.
 
refujiunderground said:
no, i'm not invalidating bisexuality at all.

but with that said, has your partner ever hooked up with someone of the opposite sex while they were with you? what would you do if your partner told you they had romantic feelings for a woman and he wanted to get in a relationship with her as well? what then?
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No, he has never hooked up with someone of the opposite during the time we've been together (4 years). And to answer your second question: I would look at it as no different than him telling me he has romantic feelings for another man and desired to get into a relationship with him as well.
 
Seghers said:
I didn't mean to make it about your private life, but I'm guessing that not everyone would be cool with their bf blowing other guys just because it's part of their work, but you guys obviously have an understanding, in the same way that perhaps another couple could have an understanding that it's ok for one of them to have sex with women occasionally.
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I see the two pretty differently.*

But ok, that's true that many people wouldn't be ok with their partners makin porn. I'll give you that.*

And people need to be in relationships they're comfortable being in. We're comfortable with a few on-camera blowjobs. But I wouldn't want to share him in our private life with a other person. Especially a woman. That would just be too weird for me.*

It works for Mickey3000 and that's just fine. But if I'm expected to not judge him for being in a 3-way relationship, then give me the same respect and don't judge me for choosing who and how I date.*
 
^What for?

It's the same BS by the same people, countered by the same arguments by the same people. Both sides believe they're right, and neither will give an inch.

It's like watching a particularly shoddy remake, say Fame or Footloose.

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Footloose wasn't a musical, was it? I thought musicals had singing in them.

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blackbeltninja said:
Footloose wasn't a musical, was it? I thought musicals had singing in them.

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Footloose was as much of a Musical as Flashdance.

To me there are three kinds...

the "Surrealist" musical where people just burst into song and have music playing and people dancing around as if everything is totally normal. Think Grease, Singing In The Rain or Moulin Rouge.

There's the "Semi-realist" musicals where characters sing but in ways that we'd sing in our world... they play high school students in a play or singers in a band. No dialogue is sung but there are full-on production numbers. Think Fame or Dream Girls (which does have one scene with sung dialogue, so it's almost disqualified) or The Runaways.

then the "Realist" musicals that could technically happen in our universe. The dancing is done how it happens... at high school dances or in strip clubs or ballet auditions. No real "Production numbers" but the story is centric to the dancing and music. Think Flashdance, Dirtying Dancing or Footloose.

And so you can see, I'm WAY too gay for any self-respecting bi man to want anyway. :gogirl:
 
^Them not wanting you has very little to do with your gayness, Jasun...

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asu1117 said:
Fun fact: I've faced more adversity for my sexuality from gay men than any other group of people.
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So... Gay men have voted away your rights? Invalidated your marriage, told you that you're a child molester and shunned you from your family?

Blamed you for the tsunami in indonesia And hurricane Katrina?

Wow.

Why would you want to date one anyway?
 
pat grimshaw said:
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Asu's original remark did come across as some kind of emotional-blackmaling 'dutch auction'.
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Oh I'm so sick of people telling me that because nobody wants to date them that they're a victim of "Prejudice."

I'm not into guys who are too thin or hairless. It's not a turn-on for me. I also don't think dating a man half my age would be a good idea because I'm not really sure either one of us could relate on the level I personally need for a long-term relationship.

does this mean I'm discriminating against twinks? Not really... nor does it mean that I'm saying all twinks are bad people or that they're more likely to "cheat."

It means that in playing the odds... me dating a waifish 22 year-old man would probably not end well and would be best to avoid.

Sorry.
 
Soilwork said:
So... Gay men have voted away your rights? Invalidated your marriage, told you that you're a child molester and shunned you from your family?

Blamed you for the tsunami in indonesia And hurricane Katrina?

Wow.

Why would you want to date one anyway?
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I was talking about a personal level, of course there are bigger issues that encompass all lbgt people. But as far as who has personally (and I'm not talking about your constant purse fighting) given me shit for my sexuality in real life, it's been gay men. It has nothing to do with your hang ups or those of stupid baptist preachers, just my personal experience. But feel free to continue being self righteous. ;)


Soilwork said:
Oh I'm so sick of people telling me that because nobody wants to date them that they're a victim of "Prejudice."

I'm not into guys who are too thin or hairless. It's not a turn-on for me. I also don't think dating a man half my age would be a good idea because I'm not really sure either one of us could relate on the level I personally need for a long-term relationship.

does this mean I'm discriminating against twinks? Not really... nor does it mean that I'm saying all twinks are bad people or that they're more likely to "cheat."

It means that in playing the odds... me dating a waifish 22 year-old man would probably not end well and would be best to avoid.

Sorry.
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Wow, you're really worked up. First off, I don't see how your dating preferences are at all relevant considering you're married. And secondly, I didn't scream about prejudice or even mention my own dating experience, I simply made a statement based off of my own encounters. I know it's hard for someone as narcissistic as you to realize this, but not everything is about you.

pat grimshaw said:
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Asu's original remark did come across as some kind of emotional-blackmaling 'dutch auction'.
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Can you ever resist fueling the fire? Or say something that actually contributes to the conversation?
 
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