Good rules for fwb?

[mikey3000]

Please, Ninja, don't feel sorry for me, While a lot of gay guys never find someone to love, I have two who love me back dearly. And we're all ok. It might not be your normal, but neither is your normal mine. But I must say, the judgement on here is laughable, by those who scream for acceptance the most. How ironic. Yeah, me learn lots around here.

 

[Gentleheart]

omg...how did I miss the no spooning bit?

we can't spoon for just a little? damn.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Please, Ninja, don't feel sorry for me, While a lot of gay guys never find someone to love, I have two who love me back dearly. And we're all ok. It might not be your normal, but neither is your normal mine. But I must say, the judgement on here is laughable, by those who scream for acceptance the most. How ironic. Yeah, me learn lots around here.

Keep playing this card that everyone else is being judgmental besides yourself. Get off the high horse you have been on for quite some time. It seems your biggest problem here is that people challenge your opinion. All I have to say to that is grow up.

 

[eastofeden]

Please, Ninja, don't feel sorry for me, While a lot of gay guys never find someone to love, I have two who love me back dearly. And we're all ok. It might not be your normal, but neither is your normal mine. But I must say, the judgement on here is laughable, by those who scream for acceptance the most. How ironic. Yeah, me learn lots around here.

The response you got was due to your own judgement. How can you miss that?

 

[unloadonme]

What's the difference between kissing and spooning?

I'm with Bender on kissing. I couldn't imagine sex without it. To me it would seem so mechanical and cold.

 

[dereperez]

This is where I'm really old fashioned, but how about finding someone to have a meaningful relationship with? Is this the norm in this community, no strings attached fuck buddies? We all get hurt romantically at some point in life, but does that nean we have to shield our hearts for good?

Meaningful relationships and fuck buddies are not mutually exclusive. And having fuck buddies doesn't mean one is shielding his heart. Just fyi.

 

[dpnice]

This is where I'm really old fashioned, but how about finding ONE person to have a meaningful relationship with? Is this the norm in this community, tired of just your wife, so get a boyfriend too? We all get horny at some point, but does that mean we have to move a new man into our home?






I paraphrased your words. Once again, maybe you shouldn't be the first to start judging others.

I agree about the absurdity of being judgemental; but did you re-read your comments before posting?

Your comments were extremely judgemental even with the disclaimer of being "old fashioned".

I am not justifying his relationship but not knowing the complete story nor knowing the acceptance of each member of the relationship
I wouldn't have worded my criticism in the same way as you.

I know of several couples where a third person was brought into the relationship quite naturally. I myself have been in such a relationship so I don't find it that strange a situation.

 

[dpnice]

I do think we are a little unfair to mikey3000.

He is criticised for his abnormal (or rather rare) relationship; then for not understanding that others can also have different standards, as he does and finally for encouraging monogamous sexual relationships.

JUB really is a mixture of different standards. We praise the weddings we have witnessed here as the pinnacle of homosexual achievement; yet fucking your best friend is acclaimed as the heights of sexual convenience with all the benefits of a relationship without the disadvantages.

Any sexual activity entails the possibility of emotional involvement, be it with a friend or just someone seen occasionally for sex. There lies the problem........can a sexual relationship be regular without emotional involvement..........can a friend with whom there is already an emotional contact become a sexual partner with no harm to the relationship.........

I think many members can answer yes to both situations in which case no harm is done to either party. If you are not certain of your reply then I think honestly you should stick to a monogamous relationship or accept that for a certain degree of pleasure you are going to suffer a certain degree of emotional pain.

 

[Saybrooke]

Come on guys, we're all friends here. Let's just squash this.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Please, Ninja, don't feel sorry for me, While a lot of gay guys never find someone to love, I have two who love me back dearly. And we're all ok. It might not be your normal, but neither is your normal mine. But I must say, the judgement on here is laughable, by those who scream for acceptance the most. How ironic. Yeah, me learn lots around here.

I don't feel sorry for you; I don't think I should, either.

Your comment on finding a meaningful relationship seems odd from someone who is effectively in an open marriage. This could only get more Dali-esque if Kallipolis were to agree with you.

-d-

 

[Gentleheart]

What's the difference between kissing and spooning?

spooning goes more like this:

 

[unloadonme]

Thanks Adrian. Can't say I've any experience of cuddling heavily pregnant women. For all I know, her waters might break and drown me!

 

[Gentleheart]

Thanks Adrian. Can't say I've any experience of cuddling heavily pregnant women. For all I know, her waters might break and drown me!

i just used the first "example" I could find!

 

[unloadonme]

i just used the first "example" I could find!

Thanks, I get the general idea now!

I've not heard "spooning" used over here (my first, brief, thought was spoonerism which is something else entirely), nor do we use "making out" for that matter.

 

[sixthson]

I agree about the absurdity of being judgemental; but did you re-read your comments before posting?

Your comments were extremely judgemental even with the disclaimer of being "old fashioned".

I am not justifying his relationship but not knowing the complete story nor knowing the acceptance of each member of the relationship
I wouldn't have worded my criticism in the same way as you.

I know of several couples where a third person was brought into the relationship quite naturally. I myself have been in such a relationship so I don't find it that strange a situation.

We all make judgements everyday. This is not wrong, but there are many who would then call us judgmental for doing so.
You, yourself, have referred to gays marrying and gays deciding to have children as us being "heterosexualized". Personally, I find this an offensive judgement because it implies I want to be something other than I am.

 

[medic1]

Spooning, or cuddling up to a guy, is one of lives simplest though greatest feelings. IMO.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Thanks, I get the general idea now!

I've not heard "spooning" used over here (my first, brief, thought was spoonerism which is something else entirely), nor do we use "making out" for that matter.

Just look at how spoons lay together in your silverware drawer. There ya go.

 

[HunterM]

To the OP, ignore the naysayers! I understand you completely. I can be your FWB.

For each "no" on your list, I would have to charge you $50 each session. Less work for me...what's not to like?

 

[blackbeltninja]

Thanks Adrian. Can't say I've any experience of cuddling heavily pregnant women. For all I know, her waters might break and drown me!

That's why you keep away from her front-bottom while spooning...

-d-

 

[hylas]

This is where I'm really old fashioned, but how about finding someone to have a meaningful relationship with? Is this the norm in this community, no strings attached fuck buddies? We all get hurt romantically at some point in life, but does that nean we have to shield our hearts for good?

This is where I'm really old fashioned, but how about staying on topic? If somebody is trying to get their tomato sauce right, I'm not going to explain to them how fantastic my chocolate pudding is. Besides, in my own experience, casual sex and meaningful relationships are neither mutually exclusive nor as strictly separate as some people seem to think.