Have you ever hired an escort?

[frankfrank]

erich whitney here. i'm a gay escort in los angeles

some guys hire me and have a great time.

other guys don't have such a great time - either because we don't have chemistry or because they have issues that are beyond me (shame or guilt, either about being gay or hiring a pro, chief among them)

2. hire him for the amount of time you really want to spend. If you love a 5 hour caress-fest and hire him for one hour, you are going to feel rushed. If you love a no talking wham bam, then a whole hour is going to feel endless.

if you find one you like, don't lose his number.

Good to hear from both sides of the question here...I've hired escorts a few times, but I never did so the first time until I was comfortable with it. I don't feel any ethical or moral issues with it - any more so than having a professional work on my computer, or getting professional advice from my doctor, etc. Sexual prostitution is nothing more than an agreement between consenting adults, and nobody is ever forced to hire an escort.

I respect the sex-for-hire business (and I use the term here because I don't think females are ever called "escorts"...are they?) as much as I respect family farmers, courtroom bailiffs, lawn and yard care people, restaurant servers, etc. The work isn't as easy as people think - not even maybe - the job of pleasuring people and being good at it requires a lot of versatility, both sexually and socially. It's not as simple as some people think - "Wow, he's being paid to have fun!" Being a good escort requires a lot more skill than most jobs I can think of, except there's no formal education for it, and it must all be learned by trial and error. I don't think ther percentage of people who could be successful as escorts is all that high...and my guess is that a successful escort is often called upon to try something they may not be all that comfortable with. If an escort tries to do something which is far outside his comfort zone, he is not as likely to be "good at it" in the view of the paying customer.

For it to be illegal is just...WRONG.

And the advice to hire an escort for the amount of time one really wants is, I think, something which is often forgotten. I'm more a two-hour type of guy myself.

Where prostitution is a bad thing, is not in the sex world - but in places such as Congress, or some of the right-wing radio media ACTORS/CLOWNS (names not needed, we know who they are), lobbyists and the like - these people will sell their souls to force things upon us, knowingly lie and steal, etc.

Why are people so hung up about it. He's a professional selling his services. If you need legal advice you'll think nothing about hiring a lawyer or if you're sick, you'll pay a doctor. It's only because someone has beat into your head that selling a sexual encounter is bad that you look down on it. Most of the guys I've met during the years have been extremely nice, intelligent, caring people. There are many of us who because of age or physical appearance can't attract hot looking guys. This is a way to do this without hurting anyone else. The pro gets paid and you enjoy your fantasy. What's the fucking problem?

Exactly how I've always felt about it, but thanks for saying it more eloquently than I ever have.

Also, I do tend to find the same types of guys attractive as many other of us do. Those are the types of guys I couldn't ever get (but rarely) even when I was in my Twenties and rather frequent at it. Escorts are expensive, but once one is willing to pay for sessions, one can actually fulfill nearly any fantasy they may have - including muscle worship, or a guy with all the attributes that one may be seeking, etc.

It's only the really exotic preferences and fetishes (such as scat, cutting/blood, etc.) for which somebody is seeking, may not have much success finding a willing escort. (Or if somebody lives really deep in the boonies in Flyover Country, they might not be able to find ANY kind of escort easily, LOL.)

 

[Yuki Sohma]

Have you ever hired an escort?

Nope...not as of this morning!

 

[Nomenclature]

We all have to pay for sex, but honestly I think it's a lot cheaper to just pay to take a guy out on a date. If you like each other, then you can have lots of sex together without having to worry about time limits, or how you're going to afford next month's rent.

That is, unless you're a sugar daddy or something.

 

[subobj]

I've thought about it many times, but my hangup is this: it feels like an admission that I'm not capable of getting what I want without paying for it. I know that's not really the case -- it's more a matter of not having the time/energy to pursue the types of guys I'm interested in (or even any guys at all, for that matter) -- but that's the feeling that keeps me from actually doing it.

 

[Speeds]

Nope and probably never will. I'm more into relationships than just sex.

 

[Pushyourluck]

I'd probably get into trouble for hiring an escort as i'd be too critical of them. It's a service you're hiring so if they weren't doing something right or any better than the Tom, Dick of Harry I could have picked up in the bar down the street then it's kind of pointless.

My thoughts are that if they are being paid to do it they are less likely to be into it than if you had met with them and hit it off because there was a chemistry between you.

 

[Audio Tech]

Well, I may as well chime in here.

I did. Not because I was horny or anything.

I did it to help me break down some severe emotional and mental barriers. I was so scarred that I was actually terrified just to TOUCH another man. I really didn't know if I could do this, or what would happen. I needed someone that would not judge me, understand what I needed. Understand how damaged I was.

It was an interesting and at first very frightening experience. But he knew how to handle me and things progressed pretty well. By the end, I have broken the barriers AND turned out to have a really good time. I wish it could have gone on a lot longer, actually. As it was, he gave me a lot more time than we agreed on. I thank him for that.

For me, the experience was exactly what I needed. It has forever changed me, given me confidence to go after what and whom I want. It has SHATTERED my last remaining mental barriers to being a free, gay man. It was the end of a VERY difficult coming out process.

Will I see him again?

Yes. At least once, to live out a very old fantasy of mine. And then, I'll go from there.....

So, yeah..... An escort can be a good thing. I learned a lot about myself that day.
I wasn't lucky enough to be out in my teens like many here now in these new times. I had to do it the HARD way. At least now, when I DO meet someone else, I won't be bringing any baggage along.

 

[BearBoi]

Never tried it, would never want to. Just not my thing. I’m a bit of a romantic and sex isn’t ever ‘just sex’ to me; it has to mean something or I’m just not interested. Even when watching porn I’ll make up little background stories in my head to further set the mood.

Anyway, I went through a period of wanting to learn about escorting out of academic interest. I read “The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way” by Aaron Lawrence. A good read for anybody interested in, or curious about, the profession.

Oh, and I fully support the legalization of prostitution.

 

[operafan]

I haven't. I might, but probably not.

 

[thewiz]

Nope...never hired an escort. When I first came out I did go to a bathhouse in Chicago and found that there was plenty to be had.

Now I have a great fiancee and could not see the need to hire anyone....he's perfect!

 

[CowboyBob]

No, never have and never will unless I need someone to carry my luggage for me.

*ouch.... my back*

 

[Audio Tech]

No, never have and never will unless I need someone to carry my luggage for me.

*ouch.... my back*

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