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Have you ever...

Yes, quite a few.

Have you ever cooked an entire holiday meal on your own?
 
No, I've never cooked a holiday meal by myself. The most I ever did was to comply with requests such as "Will you put this in the oven?" "Can you stir the gravy on the stove?" or "Can you run out and buy rolls from (the only store that's open on this holiday?)" I once cut the family turkey on Thanksgiving, but everybody told me I did it wrong. OK, fine! I'll leave it for someone else to slice.These days I live by myself and I don't have any living close relatives nearby, so I don't have holiday dinners.

Have you ever had the misfortune to be with friends who were having a big ugly breakup in public? (a true story inspired this question)
 
No, but I have experienced the aftermath of a big ugly breakup between friends privately. (Now spill the tea about your true public story!)

Have you ever felt like you had to choose sides when friends have broken up?
 
It's funny, but I don't think I've ever had to choose sides when friends are breaking up. They either didn't demand that I take their side, or one of the guys would seem to sort of disappear.

OK, for the big breakup story. I had a 23 year old friend who formed a relationship with a 17 year old (clue: the 23 year old was the more immature of the two in this situation). He had never had a relationship, he had just tricked his way through gay life for the previous 6 years or so.

The setting: Gainesville, FL, midday Sunday, early 1980s. I was driving around town, while the two were arguing in the car. Whenever one of them suggested a place to eat, the other one shot it down. This went on for a good 20 minutes or so. Finally I decided I had enough, and picked Morrison's Cafeteria, figuring that they'd at least calm down enough to be civil while we were eating. Big mistake!

In the South there was this custom that people would go eat at cafeterias after church. But anyway, my two friends chose to argue it out in the crowded lunchroom. There were all these church-going Florida cracker types, many of whom were in their 80s, and no doubt would have gone to their graves without ever seeing a gay person in their lives, if it hadn't have been for my two friends!

Have you ever lost a friend, or had to patch things up with them, due to a simple misunderstanding?
 
(I bet the elderly church folk were thinking "I have heard that those people tend to be overdramatic anyway". :lol: Was the cafeteria Luby's?)

Yes, I did have to patch things up with a friend over a misunderstanding. I made some throwaway comment about something in conversation with her one day over lunch and didn't hear from her for nearly 2 weeks. She wouldn't answer my phone calls, texts, nothing-uh! Then a mutual friend let me in on something she'd been privately struggling with and my (what I thought was a) benign comment got to her. I managed to get through, properly apologize and we've been as right as rain ever since.

Have you ever gone without power/electricity for 24 hours or more?
 
Yes. When hurricane Sandy hit in 2012, I didn't have power for about two days. Since it was October I didn't need heat or AC. Just had to be judicious about opening the fridge and freezer. Minimal damage too. Minimal,that is, compared to some of the devastation I saw. Lucky I guess.

Have you ever been in a really bad car accident?
 
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I've never been in a really bad accident. The only accident I've been in was when I was rear-ended on the interstate. It completely smashed the back end of my car, but I was unhurt, and could drive away. It could have been worse. I have SEEN some bad accidents, and I've previously posted about them in this thread.

Have you ever been told by somebody that your cooking was bad, after you made what you thought was a good meal?
 
I've never cooked for anybody so no. My cooking skills are basic, but I can confirm that they're pretty good. ;)

Have you ever caught someone you thought was a friend talking smack about you?
 
Yeah, but I don't recall it happening recently. When I was a kid and a teen, I was a persona non grata as far as a lot of the other kids were concerned. If I did make a friend, usually a new person, I could count on the friendship not lasting long, once the other kids got ahold of them. More than once I caught or overheard someone run me down.

Have you ever decided not to attend a high school or even college reunion, because you weren't enthused about meeting those people from your past?
 
No, but that's because I haven't received invites for any school reunions. I'd be interested in seeing what my former HS classmates are up to these days.

Have you ever had to confront someone from your past whom you felt mistreated or wronged you?
 
I don't really recall getting the opportunity to confront people who wrong me, and there have been several over the years. Because usually those people seem to disappear from my life rather quickly, perhaps mercifully. I was bullied a lot as a kid, and I don't know or care where any of them are. Most likely I would not be very nice to them.

Have you ever had something happen that caused changes in your life that you didn't want, but upon looking back on it, you realize that things turned out all right for you?
 
Yes, on a couple of occasions. The first that springs to mind was my Freshmen year of college. I was leaving home for the first time to a university where I didn't know a soul and my parents were living in another city and I was utterly miserable that first year. However I needed to go through that in order to stand on my own two feet and gain my independence.

Have you ever caught a friend's significant other cheating with someone else? And if so, did you tell them?
 
OK, let's go back to the story of my two friends who had the fight in Morrison's Cafeteria. What had been happening was that my friend was becoming controlling, and his young lover resented it and started pulling away. The 17 year old met a guy at a gay social meeting, and I didn't really think anything of it. However, several days later he had me take him to that guy's apartment.

And guess what? He didn't show up at home that night. My 23 year old friend got all upset and panicky, going on and on about something terrible must have happened to him, you know, calling the kid's mother and everything. So to settle my friend down, I was forced to admit that I wasn't too worried, because I think I know where he is.

So anyway, my friend makes me take him to that guy's apartment in the morning, and the 17 year old came out and had to confront my friend. (Come to think of it, I believe this was the morning before the cafeteria drama).

So yes, I told him, but not willingly.

Have you ever had to help a close friend or family member through a difficult situation, whether it was an emotional upset or some other crisis?
 
Yes, quite a few times. I'm a natural supporter and comforter to my friends and family and make it my mission to help them through difficult times. Even if all I can do is sit with and listen to them or console them with words of love and support.

Have you ever been let down by friends or family when you've needed them the most?
 
No, maybe it wasn't when I needed them the most, but it still hurt.

Have you ever got closer to someone after many years? Like a childhood friend or something like that
 
I reconnected with an old HS friend last year. We'd talked on the phone and on Facebook sporadically a few years after graduation, but we drifted apart. One day last year I passed through her neighborhood and decided to drive by her old house and she was standing at the corner with a toddler on her hip and a baby in a stroller waiting for her oldest kid to get off the school bus! We literally hadn't seen each other in almost 15 years, but it felt like no time had passed. I had to stop myself from asking where she got three kids from. "She ain't 17 anymore, RM! She's a grown woman with a husband and kids!" :lol:

Have you ever reunited with someone and it ended badly?
 
I don't think that has ever happened to me, since I hardly ever get a chance to reconnect with someone from my past. As it turns out, I have lost contact with everyone in high school, and most of my close college friends are now deceased. I suppose I could end up with a reunion turning ugly if someone from my past meets me and finds out that I'm gay.

Have you ever had to be the caretaker of a loved one or close relative suffering from a terminal disease, or at least having to be around while their health was deteriorating?
 
I personally haven't, but a friend of mine lost a grandparent to Alzheimer's and witnessing the slow deterioration of their mental and physical health was absolute torture. It's such a cruel disease.

Have you ever feared that your test results would come back positive with a disease?
 
I've never really had a fear that I would test positive for a disease. A mole on my back came back positive for carcinoma in my 30s once, but that wasn't the bad kind. I haven't had a test that I really feared for the results yet, but as I'm getting older, I realize that situation could change.

Some years ago, I went to a doctor who'd always test me for cholesterol. My LDLs would always come back a little high, but my triglycerides were always especially high. I had what I thought was a reasonable diet, and I'd always go mountain biking on the weekends, but the triglycerides were always high. And the doctor was no help. He'd prescribe medication, and tell me not to eat sugar, fatty foods, fried foods, starchy foods, processed foods, pastas, etc. In short, I needed something a little more specific than "Don't eat everything you're eating!"

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to choose between a lover and giving up something else you wanted, as in having to give up living in a place you liked, or giving up a good job, etc.?
 
No, anyone has ever loved me so much as to make me choose between them and something else. I don't see it happening in the near future either :(

Have you ever had surgery?
 
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