How do YOU tell if another guy is gay/bi?

[matty20]

What kind of signs do you seek in determing whether someone is gay? I find it really hard, because I don't want to hit on a guy, and him be straight.

 

[pills]

What kind of signs do you seek in determing whether someone is gay? I find it really hard, because I don't want to hit on a guy, and him be straight.

It's hard these days what with all the metrosexuals out there. Also, I think there are a lot more (mainly younger) people that are much more open with their sexuality than they were when I was growing up. I blame/thank the Internet.

Kind of a vague question, though. Do you have a specific situation with which you are dealing?

 

[Kabluey]

I'm fairly oblivous.
If anyone's given you the fast full-body look up and down (especially when they don't think you're looking), holds eye contact a bit longer than usual and blushes slightly when you/they talk then these should be positive signs

 

[pai mei]

the typical stuff. hair is #1 around here, voice, if he checks me out when im checking him out lolz

 

[HoodedRat]

Just ask him.

 

[jensu846]

i will watch his eyes as another guy walks by to see if/and where he looks. If I see his eyes move down to his ass, then I try to make eye contact with him and give him a smile.
Also when I am at a store and I am approaching a hot guy, I always let him see me giving him a full body scan, and make eye contact, so they know for sure that I was checking them out. Some guys will make small talk too, & have gotten a couple phone #'s that way too.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

He tells me so. I don't assume anything.

 

[HunterM]

How do YOU tell if another guy is gay/bi?
When his mouth is wrapped around your cock...it's a sure sign

 

[barnbuddy]

^
like they said...eye contact

 

[FirePhoenix]

With my Gaydar of course silly...

I just installed a new antennae so it should be better and more accurate than ever!!

 

[palbert]

I have to be careful. I don't have that app yet.

 

[ixthrock]

I'm not interested in the answer to that question, EVER, because it reduces a broad spectrum of behaviours and mindsets and awarenesses into a few pretty vague categories. More interesting to me are questions like, "does this guy make me laugh?" or "is this guy fun to hang out with?" or "how much queer history/ general psych/ trivia/ cool stuff does this guy know?" or "will this guy let me suck his dick?" and, most importantly perhaps, "how invested could i or should i get into this guy?" Finding out whether or not a guy calls himself gay, straight, bi, or a tea girl, or making quick judgements myself about what a guy "is" in those terms, or which of those terms a third party might apply to him, really doesn't tell me the things i'm most interested in knowing.

 

[JayQueer]

I have the BEST gaydar.

Whenever I meet a man, my brain runs through a sophisticated algorithm to determine the JayQueer-certified %homo index of a man.

The algorithm includes running through the following assessements --

-- The voice of the man (how deep is the voice, the inflection -- most gay men have a "lilt" to their voice)
-- How they speak (a lot of gay men, especially more effeminate gay men, end sentences with leading phrases, which is a sign of more insecurity/lack of confidence. Straight men tend to speak in shorter sentences, more to the point)
-- Body posture and body language* (American gay effeminate men tend to be more expressive with their hand gestures and tend to stand with their legs close together, or mimic more feminine or subdued body language. American straight men are more likely to stand shoulders wide apart, legs wide apart)
-- Career (What job does he do? Is he an engineer (more straight) or an interior decorator (more "gay")?
-- Hobbies (What are his hobbies? Does he like to go to drag races (straight) or drag show (gay)?)
-- TV shows & movies (Does he watch soap operas, & Bravo, or ESPN and the NFL?)
-- Interest in Sports?
-- Political affiliation? -- Statistically, if he is a Democrat, he is more likely to be gay, if he is Republican, more likely to be straight
-- Personal grooming (Does he look unkempt, well-groomed, or overly groomed with shiny makeup?)
-- Clues to relationships (Is he wearing a wedding ring?)


Based on the above criteria, plus other factors, I put together a %homo index.

Here is the scale:

0-25% -- Straight man
26-50% -- Straight man with bisexual tendencies/ Metrosexual
51-65% -- Bisexual man/ Metrosexual/ or Very Masculine Gay Man
66-75% -- Masculine Gay Man
76-85% -- Typical Gay Man
86-100% -- "Flaming" or "Fabulous" Gay Man

 

[TheOscar]

I think a lot of it has to do with eye contact. We talked about it in my social psych class. Gay men tend to look at other men more and the eye contact will tell you if the other man is gay. And it's true. Something similar happened to me at the bookstore where me and another male kept exchanging eye contact, but in a sort of unconscious way. Sorta...

 

[palbert]

I have the BEST gaydar.

Whenever I meet a man, my brain runs through a sophisticated algorithm to determine the JayQueer-certified %homo index of a man.

(Disquisition deleted by palbert)

And, as I understand it, you then put the information - but not the man - to bed.

 

[texpatriot]

What kind of signs do you seek in determing whether someone is gay? I find it really hard, because I don't want to hit on a guy, and him be straight.

I don't.

I look to determine how hard I'm going to have to work to get into that guy's pants.

A couple of beers?

Am I actually going to have to get to know him.

If I have to meet his "girlfriend" do I actually have to be friends with her, or consider her a competitor?

(Sometimes it works if we both get to wear him down, except that she's telling him everyday how much he sucks as her boyfriend, while I'm persuading him how much better that guys suck dick than she does.)

I have the BEST gaydar.

Whenever I meet a man, my brain runs through a sophisticated algorithm to determine the JayQueer-certified %homo index of a man.

The algorithm includes running through the following assessements --

-- The voice of the man (how deep is the voice, the inflection -- most gay men have a "lilt" to their voice)
-- How they speak (a lot of gay men, especially more effeminate gay men, end sentences with leading phrases, which is a sign of more insecurity/lack of confidence. Straight men tend to speak in shorter sentences, more to the point)
-- Body posture and body language* (American gay effeminate men tend to be more expressive with their hand gestures and tend to stand with their legs close together, or mimic more feminine or subdued body language. American straight men are more likely to stand shoulders wide apart, legs wide apart)
-- Career (What job does he do? Is he an engineer (more straight) or an interior decorator (more "gay")?
-- Hobbies (What are his hobbies? Does he like to go to drag races (straight) or drag show (gay)?)
-- TV shows & movies (Does he watch soap operas, & Bravo, or ESPN and the NFL?)
-- Interest in Sports?
-- Political affiliation? -- Statistically, if he is a Democrat, he is more likely to be gay, if he is Republican, more likely to be straight
-- Personal grooming (Does he look unkempt, well-groomed, or overly groomed with shiny makeup?)
-- Clues to relationships (Is he wearing a wedding ring?)


Based on the above criteria, plus other factors, I put together a %homo index.

Here is the scale:

0-25% -- Straight man
26-50% -- Straight man with bisexual tendencies/ Metrosexual
51-65% -- Bisexual man/ Metrosexual/ or Very Masculine Gay Man
66-75% -- Masculine Gay Man
76-85% -- Typical Gay Man
86-100% -- "Flaming" or "Fabulous" Gay Man

Sorry JQ, but I have to call Bullshit.

I stopped looking for the "queers" a long time ago.

Every guy that I've ever met, whether in our out of the closet or not, if they've never experience "guy on guy sex" some of them are curious.

I don't tell them that "I'm Gay."

No Sir.

I just share with them that I'm open to however they want to express themselves 'sexually.'

That leaves a whole lot of things open.

So far the worse that anyone has said about my perspective is that I'm "Bi-Sexual."

To which I had to clarify, "No, I'm BUY Sexual."

Wine Me, Dine Me, THEN 69 Me.

I won't tell your girlfriend.

If I find out that you're married, and Republican, I'll find out where you live and have some Meth Head friends come by your place and cut the tires off of your Mercedes, kidnap your dog, and set fire to your yard.

How does that fit into your "Gaydar?"

 

[BostonPirate]

If they say they are then they tend to be. IF they say they are straight then they tend to be that way.

PS.. Just because the straight guy will let a gay man blow him when he's drunk doesn't make him gay. That just makes him convenient and you a warm mouth in a bind.

 

[bulge]

When you think a guy is gay, he is str8. When you think a guy is gay, he is str8.

 

[Ganoderma]

I have the BEST gaydar. (...). Based on the above criteria, plus other factors, I put together a %homo index. Here is the scale:
0-25% -- Straight man
26-50% -- Straight man with bisexual tendencies/ Metrosexual
51-65% -- Bisexual man/ Metrosexual/ or Very Masculine Gay Man
66-75% -- Masculine Gay Man
76-85% -- Typical Gay Man
86-100% -- "Flaming" or "Fabulous" Gay Man

Hi JQ, I ran myself through your algorithm to determine the 'JayQueer-certified %homo index of a man', and it turns out that I have to classify myself in the category 0-25%. So I am 100% Straight.

I concluse that your gaydar is not able to detect me. Am I right? so what now?

 

[AlmondMilk]

There ARE people who you wouldn't suspect of being gay/bi. They act "masc". I guess your best bet is to hit on a guy in a gay club/bar. There are straight guys there...but I'm sure the ratio of gay to straight isn't as confusing as some other random place.