How many sexual partners have you had?

[andyspete]

For some guys, one must engage in anal sex for it to count as sex. I disagree with that but if engaging in anal is the defining act, I would say less than 100, and I was predominately the bottom.

I started having sexual encounters with grown men when I was 12. By the time I was 13, I had been with 35 grown men. Lost count after that. First time anal I was 16 or 17. From the time I was 12 until now would be in the 2500 - 3000 range. Not proud of it but damn, I've had some hot sex in my lifetime.

My problem is I've never been in a relationship. I don't know what it's like to have sex with someone in a loving relationship. One of my biggest regrets in life was the fact that I started having sex when I was 12. I was way too young to understand the ramifications of what I was doing. It really warped my ability to love and to allow someone to love me. Now, all I have is the occasional hookup but never anyone to care for or that cares for me. That's what I so desperately desire.

If I could have a "do over", I would have waited until I was at least 18 or so. Sometimes when I think of all the guys I've been with I feel deep shame over it. I really messed myself up starting so young. Had no idea how starting that young could fuck me up so badly. Now I'm knocking on the door of 40 and don't think I'll ever know love.

I started having sex with adult men in public restrooms in the local mall. I would go to the mall with my mother. While she was shopping I was sucking guys off in the men's room. She never knew. She would have been mortified. Looking back, I'm pretty appalled at the number of men who were willing to risk their freedom by engaging in sex with a minor. Crazy!

 

[Scealle]

Its no big deal really.Our Cessna went down over a little island.I survived,and after a few weeks of not being rescued,I started to get a little lonely/horny....enough said.

LOL!!!!!!! Amazingly I was expecting more from a live.......junkie Not enough gays in shady pines I presume

 

[PrinceCory]

Age: 58

Number of partners: 2

Number of (sexual) relationships: 0

 

[RaKroma]

I had full blown sex with 5ish and hand-jobs to blow-jobs to rim-jobs with around +- 15? Lately I'm going through a scary up and down phase where I get propositioned but hookups have not been emotionally fulfilling to me, so I'm hesitant to engage in them. I hope some guy will make me enjoy sex again.

 

[ElmosToe]

age:31
number: lost count, somewhere over 1,000

probably should have stayed out of this one.

 

[youngnihilist]

age:31
number: lost count, somewhere over 1,000

probably should have stayed out of this one.

That's a lot, but not out of the ordinary where I live. I'm surprised how few partners most gay men have here. If you're active and decent looking in a gayborhood you really rack up the numbers. If you visit bathhouses or orgies it goes up even more. I'm guessing a lot of my friends, let's say have a median age of 30 and a median sex partner count at 400-600. I'm counting oral sex btw.

Me, 27, about 100 give or take. I wish it was more. Other people I know my age are probably at 500+ but at the same time, a lot of them have been less picky than me. They'll take people they aren't that attracted to due to being drunk or just needing to get off. If I have about 100, at least just about all the 100 have been hot to me.

I see having sex with lots of people, as long as enjoyable to both parties, a great thing. It's life experience, you explore and meet different people (Even if only for fleeting encounters) and I think it makes you a better person..

 

[Alnitak]

I suppose being in a relationship for the last five years I've missed out on a lot of hot opportunities, but every STD known to man as well, some of them being permanent and life threatening.

 

[eastofeden]

i see having sex with lots of people, as long as enjoyable to both parties, a great thing. It's life experience, you explore and meet different people (even if only for fleeting encounters) and i think it makes you a better person..

thank you

I hate it when some people try to characterize everyone else's sexual experiences as meaningless when they weren't there and have no idea what they are talking about...

That whole religious virgin Mother Mary of Jesus Immaculate Conception sex is dirty and shameful thing fucked up alot of people.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

I am 23 and I guess the number is ~15-20 depending on what people want to call sex.

thank you

I hate it when some people try to characterize everyone else's sexual experiences as meaningless when they weren't there and have no idea what they are talking about...

That whole religious virgin Mother Mary of Jesus Immaculate Conception sex is dirty and shameful thing fucked up alot of people.

Really agree with this - sex is there to be fun for those that want it and should never be questioned by those outside! You might enjoy a piece by the normally brilliant Paris Lee - http://www.vice.com/read/being-a-slag-is-a-virtue-not-a-vice-paris-lees

 

[bankside]

I think its odd when people with dozens or hundreds of random fucks assume someone else is missing out because they only have one or two guys in their history. I found someone who makes me horny, who still makes me horny after 16 years, and we have good fun sex a lot. We've also built a life together. I like that. I get that it's not important to everyone but I shake my head when this idea gets floated that somehow a guy's sex life is limited or not enjoyable or religiously constipated or whatever. You have noooo idea. I wouldn't be a better person if I started fucking hundreds of strangers. The only difference would be I'm trying something else to have a happy life, and I'd be at much greater risk of getting a disease and giving it to someone else.

 

[eastofeden]

I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy who has been with one guy.....

When that person constantly makes bitchy judgements about everyone else...well...that is another story. I judge his bitchy judgements...not his choice to be with one man.

 

[dpnice]

I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy who has been with one guy.....

When that person constantly makes bitchy judgements about everyone else...well...that is another story. I judge his bitchy judgements...not his choice to be with one man.

This is more or less my stand on the subject.

I envy someone who has managed to build a life long relationship with one man. I also envy those who can go out and pick up a different guy when ever they want.

What I don't like is being told one type of behaviour is better than the other and that the so called "whore" is catching STDs right left and centre.

 

[eastofeden]

I am 23 and I guess the number is ~15-20 depending on what people want to call sex.



Really agree with this - sex is there to be fun for those that want it and should never be questioned by those outside! You might enjoy a piece by the normally brilliant Paris Lee - http://www.vice.com/read/being-a-slag-is-a-virtue-not-a-vice-paris-lees

THANKS for the link! That was fucking beautiful...love it.

 

[IamNoah]

I'm 24 or 25 depending on who you ask; I've had sex with 45% of the male population of these United States.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy who has been with one guy.....

When that person constantly makes bitchy judgements about everyone else...well...that is another story. I judge his bitchy judgements...not his choice to be with one man.

Exactly.

As if there isn't "slut" shaming or guys constantly questioning men who sleep with different men on the regular. People who keep sex on a pedestal all the time tend to annoy me. Every time someone has sex doesn't mean it has to be intimate, sometimes it is just sex and it is fun, enjoyable, a pass time, etc.

 

[The Fly]

Age; 51

Number of partners.............maybe 20-25. All while serving in the Army. Though I've been with the same guy since '84, gave him one blowjob, and he's been hanging around since...........

I don't see any meaning at all to the number of partners a person has. If you're enjoying yourself, go for it, don't bend to someone else’s prescription of morality.

 

[sixthson]

One is all it took.

 

[Alnitak]

This is more or less my stand on the subject.

I envy someone who has managed to build a life long relationship with one man. I also envy those who can go out and pick up a different guy when ever they want.

What I don't like is being told one type of behaviour is better than the other and that the so called "whore" is catching STDs right left and centre.

Exactly.

As if there isn't "slut" shaming or guys constantly questioning men who sleep with different men on the regular. People who keep sex on a pedestal all the time tend to annoy me. Every time someone has sex doesn't mean it has to be intimate, sometimes it is just sex and it is fun, enjoyable, a pass time, etc.

It's not a moral problem at all, but it cannot be ignored that according to the CDC 18% of gay men in the US have HIV, half of whom do not know it, and expect that the epidemic will right itself.

 

[bankside]

It's not a moral problem at all, but it cannot be ignored that according to the CDC 18% of gay men in the US have HIV, half of whom do not know it, and expect that the epidemic will right itself.

I wonder what that rate would be if everyone who fucked someone had been tested since the last time they fucked someone.