I need an African-American ''friend''

[chace1617]

The truth is i really like African-American people and i always wanted to have a friend. Unfortunately in the small town i live it's too difficult to meet someone so i thought it might be a good idea to search for someone in here, well whoever wants can PM me and i can give my msn and chat

 

[DigitalFudge]

I tend to forget that there are people who are not as culturally mixed as I am.


I could not imagine not being around Caucasians, Middle Easterners, Asians ect ect

It's shocking to even spell it out like that.


How people like you survive is beyond me.

P.S don't worry bout blacks, we aint all that, Australians are where its at. Between their sarcasm and accents you just cant lose.

 

[chace1617]

I'm open to anyone, he just has to be able to speak English so that we can chat.


I tend to forget that there are people who are not as culturally mixed as I am.


That's why i want to move to a big city like LA one day, i'd like to live between different people, hung out with them, learn about their culture and lifestyle etc

 

[Jayden]

 

[fetaby]

This can't lead to anything good.

 

[chace1617]

i love her, she's hilarious in the movie, i would definitely become friends with her!

 

[chace1617]

It sounds like you asking for pet or something.

I knew some of you would start bitching around about that thread, well no i am not asking for a pet, i am sorry if that's how it sounds, i have already explained that where i live is too hard to meet African-American people and that's why i am trying to meet someone in here, i respect everyone no matter what skin color they have and i know i am equal with everyone else, i had no bad feelings when posted this so let's not lead there this thread.

thank you

 

[chace1617]

... so why do you want an african-american friend?

well as i previously said, i like knowing different people and learning about their culture and lifestyle, share opinions and discuss about different topics. I think it's good when two totally different people share their opinions, plus i always wanted to have an African-American friend cause they just seem like nice people to me, since this is a gay forum of course meeting someone new can lead to a relationship or something, so you never know...

 

[chace1617]

You're stereotyping an entire group.. even if you're talking about positive attributes.

African-American people have the same culture as other Americans.. honestly the only difference is the color of our skin. We're all different.. we're not all the same. I'm the same as a white, asian, or latino American.

People are reacting this way to your thread b/c this request is an ignorant one.
I'd understand if you wanted an AFRICAN friend if you're interested in African culture.. but yea, this thread is just all types of wrong.

see? i did a mistake cause i didn't know that from the beginning, i didn't do it intentionally, so if you would stop judging and just explain my mistake that would teach me something new and my thread would work as it was supposed to!

well if this thread is humiliating for some people i request the administrators to delete it, i had no intention causing problems

 

[fetaby]

explain my mistake

People like to be judged by the content of their character not the color of their skin.

To relate to someone on the basis of their skin color is superficial at best and racist at worst. No scratch that, it's just racist.

 

[shainski]

chace - i don't fit the profile, but the reaction to your thread could be summed up as this. If you came across a thread on another site that was titled

"I need a gay friend."

the trouble with the question is that nobody represents a community. But the question implies that if you had a gay friend - then you could understand gay people. But since gay people come from all cultures, ages, socioeconomic places - no one can speak for them.

I no you had no intention of slighting anyone. And i think it is noble for you to want to broaden your horizons to include friends that are not part of your circle.

Good luck - i hope you do.

 

[Telstra]

a simple request turns into dramma. You guys suck ...

 

[LilBit]

 

[saymyname]

I think some of you all are overreacting...

You are such a critical thinker.

No one is overreacting... it's just ignorant. It's generalizing and stereotyping an entire group of people. If you want a friend based off of this ONE attribute about them, let alone a minority status attribute, that's kind of fucked up. You're not looking at them as a person, you're looking at them as a thing. Even if you're trying to do it positively, it's still dehumanizing.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

To the OP: There's nothing wrong with wanting to be friends with a variety of different people of various persuasions to broaden your own perspective; It's your singling out African-Americans as something exceptional or exotic that is rubbing people the wrong way.

I've no doubt that if you interact with an ample cross-section of African-Americans for a period of time, you probably will get a culturally distinct impression of African-American life and culture. But you can't expect to import the African-American experience at large by having a black friend or two.

Lots of white people try that and it doesn't work.

I am confident that you will eventually get what you're seeking when you're not consciously looking for it.

 

[jaycee style]

you guys are going kind of hard on the kid,

he's just a little goofy, and that's good in this fucked up crazy world.

 

[Jayden]

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

What I read in the OP by Chance was he doesn't have the opportunity to meet a very diverse amount of people due to his location, age, & circumstance which is pretty homogenized (so to speak) and he would like to meet more types of guys.
I can see that situation if you are from a small town or even many suburban areas and haven't been exposed to other groups of people. There was a time not long ago and not much different now you could grow up 15 miles from the Nations Capital with a large black population and as a white kid never get to interact or get to know a single black guy or gal.
However I can also respect how some black guys could be sensitive to how he worded it.

But here again it could be a 2 way street. I live in a predominantly black neighborhood. I walk my dogs 2 or more miles daily in the neighborhood and am pretty visible yet there is little interaction in my neighborhood with my neighbors though I always speak, more times then not I get no answer or the evil eye. I have lived here for over 10 yrs and there is no change. Though I have good relationships with my direct neighbors it is easy to see that their children do not interact with white kids outside of school. I have more than one telling me they would like to have some white friends but none live nearby outside of being bused to school which has just ended.
Outside of my neighborhood, socially & through work I have plenty of friends regardless of color or ethnicity. Yet I certainly don't get offended when some one younger or more sheltered tells me they would like to get to know white people better.
...It can be a sensitive issue.
But then again when a bug bites my Father he is far more sensitive to the bite then if a bug bites me. Different things physically and mentally effect people differently and there are valid reasons which should be respected.

 

[MyReply]

The truth is i really like African-American people and i always wanted to have a friend. Unfortunately in the small town i live it's too difficult to meet someone so i thought it might be a good idea to search for someone in here, well whoever wants can PM me and i can give my msn and chat

Try craigslist.

 

[asianstudlover]

You're stereotyping an entire group.. even if you're talking about positive attributes.

African-American people have the same culture as other Americans.. honestly the only difference is the color of our skin. We're all different.. we're not all the same. I'm the same as a white, asian, or latino American.

People are reacting this way to your thread b/c this request is an ignorant one.
I'd understand if you wanted an AFRICAN friend if you're interested in African culture.. but yea, this thread is just all types of wrong.

Oh my God. He asked in the most innocent way. He said that his background in exposure to certain cultures was more limited than others on the board. Some of you on the board probably hate being "fetishized" in any way, except when you want to be, Christ give the kid a break. Just Maybe, he meant nothing---and if youd have empathy like youd expect all gay men and women could, maybe you could forget the pc and just respond to a simple question!