I wanna try cock in the worst way

[boydgivenswashere]

I'm 27 married bi curious and although I have always preferred women I have often wanted to try versatile sex with one or more dudes. Over the years I have found ways to try and pleasure my ass, to no avail. And I self facial (a lot more often these days). My interest in gay porn has overtaken my interest in straight porn ( at least currently). I want to try it so bad, preferably a three way but my wife wouldn't be cool with sharing me with anyone female nor male. And I'd try down low, but not only do I see craigslist it as unsafe, but im not sure I could do that to my wife.

just had to get that off my chest.

 

[sixthson]

You said it right when you said "worst way". You waited until you got married to become desperate for gay sex, even though the urge had always been there. Now, you know the only way to do it is behind her back, knowing she would not be cool. This is really not fair to her and do you really want to begin a lifetime of lies and betrayal?
If you think you are going to experiment, it's only right and fair to her that you tell her what you want. Give her the opportunity to show you the door. Otherwise, honor your wife as you promised when you got married.

I know it's not easy, but do the right thing.

 

[racer2438]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Well said............

 

[Str8Cocksucker]

I'll voice the opposite advice, side with sex advice columnist Dan Savage, and say try it and don't tell her.

. I've been with my wife for over 20 years, together almost 30, and she has no idea. I don't want our relationship to end as it's fine, she just doesn't have a cock for me to suck, and it's something I can't imaging stifling. I'm not gay, and have ZERO romantic ideas towards men.
You're obviously to the point where fantasy and a Dildo isn't going to cut it. Try it, just don't be stupid about it. Go explore!

 

[medic1]

You suck cock on the down low from your wife of over 20 years, and you think that because you are NOT gay and are bisexual this seems to get you a get out of jail free card.

Aint love grand?

Living a lie with your wife, douchebag comes to mind....

 

[LAPan75]

Cheating is cheating.
If you can't trust your Wife, who can you trust?

Plus, unless she's some Trophy Wife you only see when you need to parade her around....
she already knows or suspects you're Gay/Bi/Pan.​

 

[Str8Cocksucker]

You suck cock on the down low from your wife of over 20 years, and you think that because you are NOT gay and are bisexual this seems to get you a get out of jail free card.

Aint love grand?

Living a lie with your wife, douchebag comes to mind....

I am NOT gay. LOVE women, love my wife. I just like sucking cock. I'm not living a lie, and you don't understand anything about me or my life. I do know that I'm not a judgmental holier-than-thou prick. I'm always fucking amazed at how some (emphasize SOME, not all) gays, one of the most negatively judged peoples on the planet, can be so judgmental of others, especially of people that have had to do what they had to do for centuries upon centuries - suck dick and fuck men and be in the closet.

I'm honest with myself. "to thine own self be true". That all the originator of this thread needs to be.

Save your judgement because for that finger you have pointed at me (or anyone else) you have 3 pointing back at you. Didn't your folks or anyone teach you that?

 

[Str8Cocksucker]

Cheating is cheating.
If you can't trust your Wife, who can you trust?

Plus, unless she's some Trophy Wife you only see when you need to parade her around....
she already knows or suspects you're Gay/Bi/Pan.​

No.Just no.

I don't know his wife, but there could be so many other reasons he can't tell her any of this. I know a lot of married guys that love their wife but can't tell her about their having sex with men. Some wives won't suck dick, or have a low libido, or they might have religious issues with m2m sex, or would shoot their mouths off about it to, or any of numerous other reasons. But you don't throw the baby out with the bath water. So why wreck a marriage because one person in it needs to address something that seems to be an intrinsic part of them?

 

[sixthson]

I am NOT gay. LOVE women, love my wife. I just like sucking cock. I'm not living a lie, and you don't understand anything about me or my life. I do know that I'm not a judgmental holier-than-thou prick. I'm always fucking amazed at how some (emphasize SOME, not all) gays, one of the most negatively judged peoples on the planet, can be so judgmental of others, especially of people that have had to do what they had to do for centuries upon centuries - suck dick and fuck men and be in the closet.

I'm honest with myself. "to thine own self be true". That all the originator of this thread needs to be.

Save your judgement because for that finger you have pointed at me (or anyone else) you have 3 pointing back at you. Didn't your folks or anyone teach you that?

Honest? But your name says you are straight. How can you say you are straight when you have a mouthful of cock?
Also, you say you are true to yourself but you lie to your wife.

You neglected to mention the rest of the quote of Shakespear:

This above all: to thine own self be true,
and it MUST FOLLOW, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Or in your case, any wife.

 

[Str8Cocksucker]

I am bi, but the "str8" infers two things: meeting "str8" guys, as well as implies how I appear to people in my public life. I fully admit I'm bi to myself and the people that need to know. My wife doesn't need to know.

How about these quotes:

Don't judge lest ye be judged.

Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes.

Mind your own fuckin' business.

 

[medic1]

I am bi, but the "str8" infers two things: meeting "str8" guys, as well as implies how I appear to people in my public life. I fully admit I'm bi to myself and the people that need to know. My wife doesn't need to know.

How about these quotes:

Don't judge lest ye be judged.

Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes.

Mind your own fuckin' business.

My fella is bisexual as many on here know. We talk openly and honestly about topics that concern BOTH of us.

I HAVE walked more than a mile in my fellas shoes, that is why honesty is so important.

You posted this in a flame zone, i believe not for advice or support, but because my original assessment was correct.

 

[Str8Cocksucker]

My fella is bisexual as many on here know. We talk openly and honestly about topics that concern BOTH of us.

I HAVE walked more than a mile in my fellas shoes, that is why honesty is so important.

You posted this in a flame zone, i believe not for advice or support, but because my original assessment was correct.

Great that's working for you. But that's you and yours. It doesn't work for everyone.
I couldn't care less about a flame zone, nor your opinion of me, as mine for you goes unchanged as well.I'm a grown man who's seen more than most, and been called worse by other equally judgmental, close-minded, my-way-or-the-highway people, and I won't fret any about what one more person like that thinks.

I'll stand behind my original advice, which was to Squid. He should be the one reading advice, not some snarky comments on comments, or being judged harshly by people that have no idea what the whole situation is with him and between him and his wife.

 

[dralockhart]

So, essentially... you've been cheating on your wife for decades and assume your relationship can be "fine" when she knows nothing about this second life of yours. So much for communication, honesty, openness and authenticity in a marriage. And then you say that because we're remarking that that's unconscionable because you're putting her health at risk (in addition to other things), we're judging you and have no room to judge because we're *out* and bi/gay?

A few things:
- When people judge us, they have no room to do so because we're not hurting anyone.
- You are hurting someone whether you care to acknowledge it or not. Your marriage is a sham. Just because you haven't gotten caught doesn't mean you've done wrong. Your entire "ethic" is built on the shaky assumption that you won't get caught. And when you do (notice I say, "when") your wife will be tremendously wounded and you will have wasted years of her life.
- You are not living honestly and authentically with the people in your life so long as you let them assume you're straight, and you're being no kind of ally to LGBT people by reaping the benefits of heterosexual privilege while exploiting LGBT bodies for your sexual satisfaction.

I'd say there's plenty of room for judgment here.

 

[The Fly]

I am bi, but the "str8" infers two things: meeting "str8" guys, as well as implies how I appear to people in my public life. I fully admit I'm bi to myself and the people that need to know. My wife doesn't need to know.

How about these quotes:

Don't judge lest ye be judged.

Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes.

Mind your own fuckin' business.

I've been using thay quote for years...........can't remember who said it first...

 

[diesel]

Go for it. Life is too short not to try something that you've been earning for, and may regret not experiencing it. You're not hurting anyone, if they have no knowledge of it. Kind of like if a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, is sound made? Just do it smartly and safely. Some things in life can remain private, even with your wife. You're still an individual, married or not., and you have your own mind and can make decisions that are right for you. I know I'm waiting for the right opportunity to be with a man, and if or when that chance comes, I'm going to embrace it - it's nobody's business but my own. My situation with my life, my wife, and family is different than yours, and yours is different than anyone else's. I love my wife and my family and my life as a"straight" guy in society - it works for me- and I decided I never want to walk away from it or change it, but it doesn't mean I can't do what is important to me to experience. So, my advice for what it's worth is just own your decisions, but also be prepared to face any consequences of your actions. In the mean time, have a blast!

 

[sixthson]

Go for it. Life is too short not to try something that you've been earning for, and may regret not experiencing it. You're not hurting anyone, if they have no knowledge of it. Kind of like if a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, is sound made? Just do it smartly and safely. Some things in life can remain private, even with your wife. You're still an individual, married or not., and you have your own mind and can make decisions that are right for you. I know I'm waiting for the right opportunity to be with a man, and if or when that chance comes, I'm going to embrace it - it's nobody's business but my own. My situation with my life, my wife, and family is different than yours, and yours is different than anyone else's. I love my wife and my family and my life as a"straight" guy in society - it works for me- and I decided I never want to walk away from it or change it, but it doesn't mean I can't do what is important to me to experience. So, my advice for what it's worth is just own your decisions, but also be prepared to face any consequences of your actions. In the mean time, have a blast!

I knew someone who cheated on his wife with another man and I have no doubt that if he had followed your advice his marriage would be over and he would have been exposed. There would have been no more pretense of being the straight family man. Secrets rarely remain secret, they just have a way of coming out. Instead, he owned up to what he did and the wrongness of it and stopped the lying and cheating. I can't tell you how much respect and love I had for him because of his honesty and courage. That's what a real man is.

 

[dralockhart]

It's really sort of astounding to me that you're all so confident you won't get caught. It just takes one flub for your façade to come tumbling down. I hope you have a backup plan and a good lawyer. Gay affairs don't really go over well in divorce court. Nah, actually that might actually be understandable, if there were love/identity crises involved. What wouldn't go over well is a dude exploiting other gay dudes for dick with no love for them and no plan to be faithful to his wife. What was in those marriage vows of yours? Did you make it a point to exclude any suggestion of fidelity?

 

[medic1]

Great that's working for you. But that's you and yours. It doesn't work for everyone.
I couldn't care less about a flame zone, nor your opinion of me, as mine for you goes unchanged as well.I'm a grown man who's seen more than most, and been called worse by other equally judgmental, close-minded, my-way-or-the-highway people, and I won't fret any about what one more person like that thinks.

I'll stand behind my original advice, which was to Squid. He should be the one reading advice, not some snarky comments on comments, or being judged harshly by people that have no idea what the whole situation is with him and between him and his wife.

And i am done.

Have a nice day, please give my regards to your wife.

One last thing. I am neither close-minded or my way or the highway sorta guy.

As for judging, yes on occasion, this being one of them.

 

[cuteguyincali]

My advice to the judgemental, if its not affecting you stay out of it. Its none of your business. He didnt hire a morality cop nor did he hire a shrink. Go troll somewhere else.

You go boy! And do what you must.

Its like these "judges" troll around like its affecting their life.

Everyone comes in here from different walks of life. Let them be just like you want to let be. We dont all have your interest.

 

[sixthson]

The OP and others of his ilk in this thread who think that they alone have the right to an opinion, need to touch base with reality.
When you start a thread, you must know that there will be those who agree with you and those you don't. That's life.
If you agree with the OP, you consider yourselves to be compassionate, understanding and open minded. If you don't, you are immediately called a judgmental troll. That, too, is life. I'm not bothered, either way.

Very few people are able to sustain secret lives that don't eventually blow up in their faces. Think of Bill Cosby. The man was venerated for the image he projected and it appears it was all a lie.

Please don't come here and tell us how much you love your wives and children and never want to change what you have when everything you do conflicts with what you say. It's self destructive, at the least. It is no different than a politician who promotes "family values" while he is out getting his dick sucked in some toilet, thinking he is safe because it is anonymous. Well, Mr. Anonymous has been well known for getting his 15 minutes of fame by writing his tell-all book about the secret lives of others.

It takes no courage to come to a gay porn site, like JUB, and identify as a bisexual married man, when in your real world you live furtive lives in the shadows. These kind of "straight" people are usually the ones who oppose and vote against our right as gay men and women to live and love openly and honestly before the world.

Despite everything, I wish you no evil.