If you're gay and don't already know, beware of bisexual men...

[fabulouslyghetto]

How many times are we going to hear this?

Seriously.. can we just merge all the "keep away from the bis" thread into one big thread and let everyone just get out their frustrations with this? This topic pops up like every other week.

Come on Sultan, you of all people know the board serves as a venting space for the sexually displaced.

Let a sexy bisexual come along and lay that good pipe, these queens will strike that "beware the bis" bullshit right on out the door.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

I love that you were at least smart enough to add that fourth option. It almost absolves you from this ridiculous post.

Have we changed the definition of "smart?"

 

[Royal Heart]

Well, bisexual is not always accompanied by biamorous behavior. Just because a dude wants to have sex with both genders doesn't necessarily follow that he'll want to have a romantic relationship with both genders. Some do, some don't; but the two shouldn't be confused or implied.

So, yes, there are some bisexual men who don't want to have romantic relationships with men, and there are bisexual men who do.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Well, bisexual is not always accompanied by biamorous behavior. Just because a dude wants to have sex with both genders doesn't necessarily follow that he'll want to have a romantic relationship with both genders. Some do, some don't; but the two shouldn't be confused or implied.

So, yes, there are some bisexual men who don't want to have romantic relationships with men, and there are bisexual men who do.

Vous devez vous souvenir de, quelques gens ont oublié comment s'amuser. Certaines de mes meilleures relations étaient avec les bisexuels.

PS I don't speak French, just got bored and wandered over to freetranslation.com.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

@op or any other fucking dick heads that agree with that piece of shit: If you/he got stood up by a black or Hispanic guy would you come on here and rant about how all black/Hispanic men are shifty characters who people can't trust and need to be wary of? No I don't think so, SO WHAT THE FUCK GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO DO IT BECAUSE THE GUY IS BISEXUAL?! I'm sure every gay man on the forum wants to be treated the same as everyone else in life, so to the ones who discriminate against bisexuals:

FUCK OFF YOU HYPOCRITICAL ASS HOLE FUCKTARDS.

Look, will you just quit pussyfooting and tell us how you truly feel?

j/k, preach on brotherman

 

[alli-berri]

This reminds me of the bigotry I have occasionally observed within the black community. In certain US high schools, we "mulattoes" get the shit kicked out of us if we don't "choose" a side, white or black. It's not like this everywhere, but I digress.

Threads like this are inevitable when we live in a society that puts two "opposing parties" against one another. There will always be the "non-conformists" who blend the division and threaten everybody. In this case it's gay/straight.

Sorry about your problems Cedmln, but getting hurt is just part of the deal you sign when falling in love. Now you get to fall for somebody new!

 

[fetaby]

Nor is it wise to fall in love with pixels on a screen and a sob story about not fitting in and poor body image.

 

[jasoncrew03]

^....what?

 

[CumAlong]

^ who said anything about hating bisexuals?

I merely contend that it's not smart to fall in love with one.

Not smart to fall in love with gay men either. They're too emotionally unstable, unreliable, and will just give you emotional turmoil while he romps around town slutting himself out to every cock that flops, with a side dish of aids.

Oh wait... see what i did there?

 

[jasoncrew03]

@naughty I thank you

I know my commitment issues have nothing to do with my being bisexual lol.

 

[altlover85]

You're reaching fetaby.

I think commitment is more of an individual thing that can't be decided on the basis of sexual orientation, even if some people have found that bisexual guys aren't able to commit, it doesn't mean that all of them aren't.

I would like to hear other gay guys experiences dating bi men though.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Because they may seem like really nice guy who seem to care and you may be very interested in them because you think they are great and blah blah blah all that heart elevating shit, but when it comes for them to get close to you... WATCH OUT!

They don't want you for anything more than a potential sex partner or less and thats it. They don't want to share their hearts with US!

Don't let your heart fall for them. Its NOT worth the pain and suffering!

Some of you will disagree with me, but I have not seen different, EVER!

Sorry. I'm ranting and REALLY PISSED OFF!

In other news, all black people are criminals and all Indians are looking to make a quick buck.

-d-

 

[fetaby]

Jason, he's talking about this:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=314523

CumAlong, I've been with my companion for many years. He thinks I spend too much time at the puter (which I do) and I think he spends too much money (which he does), but it's a very stable relationship.

What's more, I've met many others just like us. Gay/gay relationships can often last decades.

The thing is, I've not ever met one single bisexual/gay relationship that's lasted very long. But I've heard the stories over and over again: gay falls in love with bi, bi leaves gay out in the cold for a girl.

We all base our opinions on what we see, don't we?

No we all don't. And no, that wasn't what I was referring.

 

[CumAlong]

CumAlong, I've been with my companion for many years. He thinks I spend too much time at the puter (which I do) and I think he spends too much money (which he does), but it's a very stable relationship.

What's more, I've met many others just like us. Gay/gay relationships can often last decades.

The thing is, I've not ever met one single bisexual/gay relationship that's lasted very long. But I've heard the stories over and over again: gay falls in love with bi, bi leaves gay out in the cold for a girl.

We all base our opinions on what we see, don't we?

It never occured to you that many bisexuals will identify themselves as straight or gay depending on their partner? They don't wear a sign on themselves saying "I'm with him, but I'm still bi" or "I'm with her, but I'm still bi".

It doesn't just pop out of regular conversation that one partner is gay and the other bisexual, or one straight and the other bisexual. For all intent and purposes, many bisexuals identify themselves as straight or gay for different instances. Their partners may know different, but you have no way of knowing, no knowledge to say that the happy couple down the street, is not a happy bisexual couple, or one is bisexual.

Thankfully, not everyone is so into labels as some people are and don't feel the need to define themselves by it.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

^ who said anything about hating bisexuals?

I merely contend that it's not smart to fall in love with one.

You have just proven that you know nothing about love. It's not smart to fall in love, period. That goes especially for men. Men are violent and selfish and the same holds true whether you're talking about gay, straight, bi- or trisexual men. Throughout history the most destructive force on the planet has been the human male.

To think you could weed through all these smelly, hairy beasts and find a Disney cartoon prince charming who likes to bake cookies and chop down trees for fire wood is so laughable I'm afraid that, coupled with the recent increase of fiber in my diet, the fit of hysterics I'm going into is sure to cause me to have an accident on my off-white couch.

 

[954dude]

Jealous queen. I'm not here for that.

 

[Telstra]

To those guys/gays who like fairly tale happy endings.
There is no such thing.

12 Sexual types:
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=315267

 

[Corny]

even with heated topics we ask you to stay factual and not let those threads end in insults. if you can't keep your cool, don't post in the thread and move on.

yes you might consider what the OP or someone else said as insulting, but you won't change his mind if you call him names. you'll only look like an angry kid that doesn't have any arguments.

any kind of further insults will be dealt with in accordance with the CoC.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

I'm going to do something new: I'm going to let you bisexuals talk.

Shutting your yap and allowing someone to speak for their self is "something new" to you?

You have the forum, and I'm listening.

Ok, I'll bite.

What are your goals in life?

To never take myself so seriously as to develop a mental or written list of goals. Lame!

With whom do you intend to settle down with?

Who asks questions like this? Nevermind, if I have to answer, umm, Anderson Cooper.

Do you see yourself marrying? Do you see yourself marrying a man, or a woman?

That's between me and the person I choose to marry, it's certainly no concern of yours as you won't be invited. Me and my future spouse might as well not exist as far as you're concerned.

In this relationship, do you see yourself as "faithful", or do you see a downlow situation?

I see myself as a backsliding whore, because unlike those gay men (the ones who nearly fucked themselves into oblivion for two decades) I am just unable to keep it in my pants. Because bisexuals are the ONLY people on the planet that have self-control issues, which is why we are to be avoided at all costs. Also we are still infected with the bubonic plague.

I'm asking because I don't know.

This is the first sensible thing you've said after paragraphs and paragraphs of font.

All I ask is that you be honest.

Done and done.

The ONLY difference between bisexual and homosexual men is the gender of each respective orientation's desire. A person's sexual orientation says absolutely nothing about their character, their abilities or weaknesses or whether or not they will be a philadendering whore of a commitmentphobe.

But it's become an endlessly popular game to categorize people into as many micro-groups as humanly possible and point out random flaws, it's like a roast on a grand scale. Instead of clowning Flavor Flav or David Hasselhoff, we're clowning religions and orientations and cultures. Thank God I've got just enough brain cells to know how stupid that makes a person look.

 

[Willie Boy]

Because they may seem like really nice guy who seem to care and you may be very interested in them because you think they are great and blah blah blah all that heart elevating shit, but when it comes for them to get close to you... WATCH OUT!

They don't want you for anything more than a potential sex partner or less and thats it. They don't want to share their hearts with US!

Don't let your heart fall for them. Its NOT worth the pain and suffering!

Some of you will disagree with me, but I have not seen different, EVER!

Sorry. I'm ranting and REALLY PISSED OFF!

Actually what you describe is the average gay male. And to a lesser extent, men in general. I am bisexual and am extremely monogamous. I have only one partner at a time, although if the partner wants, and we can agree, I am not against a threesome. The pleasure is in sharing that third person with my partner. It would be akin to us enjoying the feel of a new car we were driving around in. But personally I prefer alone time with my partner and I. Sex or no sex, as long as we share each other's company.

But the issue isn't really with bisexual men, but with your attitude. If you go into the relationship with animosity toward the other person, even deeply hidden animosity, it will be noticed. You can't expect someone you are cold to to be burning up with love for you.