Is this racism? - Let's discuss

[willsboy84]

I was just curious if he still needed a sugar daddy, or if he still needed people to send cash into his paypal so he could see if it worked.

send money into his pay pal to see if it works?! i'm sooooooo sure!!! i don't know what's worse, that someone would try somethin like that or, that i just know some dumbass prolly actually went for it. "oh gee sure there fella, anything i can do to help ya out"

 

[backpacker]

Good to see you back meheart. This should be a fun post to watch.

 

[Soilwork]

I'm confused.

What do you mean "he hangs out with themn like they're not HIV positive?"

He wont' hang out with guys who are HIV positive?

 

[Soilwork]

i'm sorry, it's my fancy way of saying he hangs out with them regularly like he would around white guys. i'm sorry if this was a bias to people with hiv positive.

What dumb-ass thing to say.

So HIV+ men are all black and one shoudln't hang out with them?

Geez, no wonder he doesn't want you.

 

[josher]

To answer your strangely phrased question:

If someone freely mixes with people of all colors and ethnic backgrounds, but only sleeps with one particular ethnic type, no he or she isn't racist. That's his/her preference.

Some people are only attracted to blondes or brunettes.

Some people are only attracted to people of a a particular height.

The roots of this may be in childhood experiences which could have been colored by racial or ethnic stereotyping, but the person's preference is just his/her preference.

 

[davy]

to answer your question: yes it's racism.

there are many different shades of racism and that is one of them.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=q80m6zjCyIE

 

[ok455]

I don't see it as you being a racist. If you like white and only white guys thats fine. If u like tall and only tall guys thats fine your not a tallest or a racist

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

I can see why you may intepret it as racist but no it's not really racist at all. Maybe the black, asian, hispanic guys he's seen are not very good looking. Where does he live? I hardly think that he lives Toronto that's for sure. I assume that where he lives that white guys are in the majority, which may explain why.

 

[rareboy]

oh meheart....how I look forward to your drive-by queries about whether guys that won't fuck you are racist.

As was said on the other thread you posted on the exact same subject.....it depends on how the person in question treats people in a non-sexual context.

 

[Matthew-]

Its definitely NOT racism.

 

[theFallenGod]

The question is... is he not attracted to them because their of a different race or is it some other reason....

Because in my case when I lived in the states I wasn't attracted to black men because the only ones I ever met were either waaay too feminine or way too ghetto... neither was a big turn on.... but when I moved up here I found that black peop, along with asians, south asians, and mid eastern men tend to be more like everyone else and have had great experiences with all...

 

[sheep]

It isn't racism, it's a preference and I'll kick the shit outta anybody that doesn't agree with me on this.

 

[prettyboysing]

I'll answer this question the same way I answer the "is being gay a choice" question. The day you figure out how to choose who you are attracted to, pass it on to the rest of the world. We will all be much happier.

 

[unclaimedblessing]

You have stated before that your family doesn't like you, school chums don't like you, other races don't like you and it's obvious some people here don't like you.
Hmmm! What is the common denominator here?
You have to grow up and develop some compassion, understanding and empathy for other people before they show you those traits.
Remember life isn't just about you.

 

[jhmphx]

Don't you think the "reasons" for the "preference" need to be examined. It may not be racist but it's certainly indicative of a racist social structure in which the color of skin could even be used to signify a "preference." It's not like one is born (to use the usual biological rhetoric everyone loves when these things are discussed) desiring "white" people...preferences/desires are socially constructed to some extent.

And no one's going to kick my ass for this opinion. I have ninja-like reflexes.

 

[FREDDIE187]

It is definitely not racist.

 

[sheep]

Don't you think the "reasons" for the "preference" need to be examined. It may not be racist but it's certainly indicative of a racist social structure in which the color of skin could even be used to signify a "preference." It's not like one is born (to use the usual biological rhetoric everyone loves when these things are discussed) desiring "white" people...preferences/desires are socially constructed to some extent.

And no one's going to kick my ass for this opinion. I have ninja-like reflexes.

[kicks jhmphx in the ass]

 

[Matthew-]

The question is... is he not attracted to them because their of a different race or is it some other reason....

Because in my case when I lived in the states I wasn't attracted to black men because the only ones I ever met were either waaay too feminine or way too ghetto... neither was a big turn on.... but when I moved up here I found that black peop, along with asians, south asians, and mid eastern men tend to be more like everyone else and have had great experiences with all...

Good point!

 

[Matthew-]

I could turn to you and say, "I'd never go out with a redhead and I don't really care for blondes and black guys in general just don't do much for me."

HOWEVER

There are ALWAYS exceptions and I could name more than a few black guys and blondes that I'd do and even a few redheads. Basically I learned not to say such things because well...it just isn't really true in my case it was just something I thought based on a very limited exposure to those types of guys and a very young age.

I'd say if there are NO exceptions in your case then it's probably at least based on some sort of prejudiced instead of just what looks good to you and what's attractive to you.

Of course maybe you're just young and stupid like I was when I used to say things like that.

What a great analysis!

 

[rareboy]

Of course maybe you're just young and stupid like I was when I used to say things like that.

While I wouldn't say stupid, one might suggest that OP probably has a very superficial view of the world and people's motivations.

With meheart, it seems to be all Ego and Superego....very little Id. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that someone was raised as a spoiled and petulant child and whenever the world doesn't suit, looks to put the blame everywhere but where it might comfortably and properly rest.