just got called faggot...

[Críostóir]

People saying what they would have said or done are so full of shit. We all would have reacted exactly as the OP did because the comment was a sucker punch. Sorry you had to experience that. Some people are assholes.

You'll note that I focused on what to do now.

 

[Sam Blum]

People saying what they would have said or done are so full of shit. We all would have reacted exactly as the OP did because the comment was a sucker punch. Sorry you had to experience that. Some people are assholes.

So at the age of 22 (according to your page) with so few years of experience under your belt, you call other people full of shit? You haven't even read all of the posts that came before! Or if you have, like Giancarlo, you're selective, confused and disorientated. Take a look in the mirror, little scamp - there's a smudge of crap just to the left of your nose.

 

[tcrawford18]

To respond to your original story...I don't think he means to be offensive. You said you know this person and you've known him for awhile. So you guys are friends of some sort. But you haven't been out for too long. He's probably just not used to being around gay people. He's trying to be playful and is just treating you like a buddy. I know a lot of straight guys who call each other faggots just to be cute.

 

[Críostóir]

To respond to your original story...I don't think he means to be offensive. You said you know this person and you've known him for awhile. So you guys are friends of some sort. But you haven't been out for too long. He's probably just not used to being around gay people. He's trying to be playful and is just treating you like a buddy. I know a lot of straight guys who call each other faggots just to be cute.

I'm sorry, but that is pure bullshit.

Straight male friends call each other faggot ONLY when they think it's a completely absurd accusation. They don't say it when they even THINK it might be true.

And please note, the OP hasn't said this guy was a friend, or "someone I thought was a friend," or anything of that nature. This was "the homeowner." Presumably he was visiting someone else who lived in that house; he hasn't said. I'm guessing the "homeowner" was his friend's dad (or possibly mom).

My point is that you DON'T say that to someone who isn't a good friend, even if you think you're both straight. The term CANNOT BE USED from a straight person to a gay person without hostility, and anyone who didn't intend the hostility needs to apologise profusely.

But it's not worth it to engage with them to make them see it. That's why I recommend having nothing further to do with him.

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

Around here, no, he wouldn't go to the cops -- he'd just drop a word to the Klan and The Race.

And you'd turn up in the news as an accident out in the woods, another tragic death.

ohhh yes - I am TERRIFFIED by a bunch of hicks in Oregon of all places

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

There is a difference between self-defense and assaulting someone for name-calling. If you want to be militant and violent to prove your masculinity, that's your decision but being arrested is not one of my many goals in life.



Turning the other cheek saved my life. What you're advocating is not self-defense but violence.

wtf r u talking about man? civil rights isnt just about self defense - do you think entire wars started because of someone slapped someone around - wtf - its about taking a stand at all levels and all times - sometimes it will be violent and other times it wont - but u will NEVER win freedom by walking home with your mouth shut

 

[Críostóir]

This thread is supposed to be a poll 'cuz
I really want to know who's in to fight and who's resent?

We kind of having non-unison voice here, that's why this thread expands to 3 chapters lol

Either way, I believe the point of our action is resistance.

You could make a poll thread. But you'll find that it's complex, because we don't know the relevant details.

I'd react differently if I were in a friend's house and someone called me faggot than if I were walking down the street. Also it depends on who the caller is, and it would be different for me than for someone less muscular, or for someone younger, or...

...so you'll see that the poll won't capture the information you want, and the people who will answer a simple one will be the least thoughtful on the topic.

 

[BFizzle]

None of you bitches would bust a grape in a fruit fight in Welch's backyard.

 

[Críostóir]

None of you bitches would bust a grape in a fruit fight in Welch's backyard.

Well, if that means something, I can't figure out what. Want to unpack that for those of us bitches who are clueless? If you're insulting me I'd like to know what you've actually said! (And, of course, if you aren't, I'd like to know that too, but that seems unlikely.)

 

[Lefty]

Well, if that means something, I can't figure out what. Want to unpack that for those of us bitches who are clueless? If you're insulting me I'd like to know what you've actually said! (And, of course, if you aren't, I'd like to know that too, but that seems unlikely.)

Deprived and Fizzled are advocating street warfare tactics

and total offense at all time while implying many people

here are to big of 'pussies' to take active umbrage.

I think they have their troll panties on today.

 

[Críostóir]

I think they have their troll panties on today.

Ah. Now I get it.

Do trolls really wear panties? An odd image.

 

[pai mei]

Ah. Now I get it.

Do trolls really wear panties? An odd image.

gay ones do lol

 

[Críostóir]

pai mei, would you explain to us who the homeowner was to you? It makes a difference to how the situation should be handled.

If, for example, it was the father of a friend of yours, than I would say "just don't go to his house any more."

 

[BFizzle]

I don't wear underwear.

 

[tcrawford18]

I'm pretty sure he's not going to tell us who the homeowner is to him. We've asked multiple times and he keeps ignoring the question. So I can only assume the reason why he said "I was over at 'a house' and 'the homeowner'..." is because he doesn't want to say "I was over at my friend's house and my friend..." probably because he doesn't consider this guy a friend anymore after what he said.

Unless he was like, I don't know, shopping for a new house? So this was the homeowner of the house he was touring... that's the only other explanation that would make sense.

So like I said, if he was your friend you should not be upset at him he just doesn't understand gay lifestyle yet but I'm sure you can educate him after some time.
And if he was a stranger than you just must be a little fem because how else would he know you're gay? Only fem boys get called faggot by strangers. And if you're fem than you're going to have to be strong enough to get used to it and brush it off.

 

[Críostóir]

Wow, tcrawford18, you're just so very wrong.

And he said he came out to the people in that house. You have no call to be saying "if he was a stranger than you just must be a little fem." He'd just told them. And "Only fem boys get called faggot by strangers" is just naive.

 

[Kulindahr]

ohhh yes - I am TERRIFFIED by a bunch of hicks in Oregon of all places

If you were here, with your attitude, you definitely wouldn't be terrified -- you'd be dead. And though the sheriff knew otherwise, he'd dutifully report it to the DA as an accident.

Deprived and Fizzled are advocating street warfare tactics

and total offense at all time while implying many people

here are to big of 'pussies' to take active umbrage.

I think they have their troll panties on today.

In other words, they're just like the mindless trolls of the skinhead tribes.

Wow, tcrawford18, you're just so very wrong.

And he said he came out to the people in that house. You have no call to be saying "if he was a stranger than you just must be a little fem." He'd just told them. And "Only fem boys get called faggot by strangers" is just naive.

Yes. Sometimes rifle-toting endowment members of the NRA get called faggot by strangers.

And sometimes the rifle-toting endowment member of the NRA says, "So? I can still outshoot you."

 

[refujiunderground]

i would ignore it, say a smart remark back or just smile back. basically, kill them off with confidence. they can't hurt you if you don't give them the power to. i remember sometime ago at my job when i was having a really bad day and this guy called me ugly to be mean. i looked him dead in the eye and told him "that's cool" or "okay". when he realized that i didn't react to what he said and gave him the cold shoulder, he felt bad and apologized because he ended up the one looking stupid and not me. you put people in their place when you show them that you could give a fuck less about them and what they have to say.

 

[pai mei]

pai mei, would you explain to us who the homeowner was to you? It makes a difference to how the situation should be handled.

If, for example, it was the father of a friend of yours, than I would say "just don't go to his house any more."

a friend of a friend. kno him mostly as an acquaintance. see em in group settings sometimes.


im also a tiny person, slender (tee hee ), dress fairly well (which is considered uber gay around here), wax my eyebrows, shave my legs, do my hair before i go out...

with my frame, id honestly have to dedicate years to training and working out to be able to fight people twice my size, i havent been in a fight since i was a child (before highschool) and i dont like fighting, and i never have. apparently, according to some in this thread i deserve to be a victim, which is why i never bothered giving anymore info because some of these people in here have issues where they are actively seeking an argument.

ive always been this way, but i guess they think i should go back to fucking myself up emotionally and psychologically by putting up some sort of manly tough facade, well no thank you. ima be fem, ima cry if i want to, im going to let myself feel for once in my life, instead of being some aggressive douchebag. i have dabbled in being an asshole growing up, and when i came out i left that behind me, and if turning the cheek when someone calls me a faggot is the price of that, then im ok with that. like i said i havent been out long and im getting more used to what it means to even dress nice out in public, let alone sucking dick. (tho not in public ). i was sharing more than i was seeking advice, and altho i love reading advice, these pissing contests of who's had the tougher life, or who would back down and therefor are pussies, are just fueled by insecurity, and it's sad, and only serves to reinforce my choice of putting assholish tendencies behind me, because all it does is create douchebags around you like some of these individuals. in fact i suspect a number of people only want more info so that they can say 'see, my "advice" was the correct one!! rejoice!"

 

[Lefty]

White Brows,

You invited the orcs to battle with your opening line. It did sound as though
you had been verbally assaulted by a virtual stranger. Your post had an aura
of outraged protest. Our Orcs love and feed off that.

Other than those 'orc'ing around, Elvin and Kuli stood out as rational and sane.
Others were good some were belligerent. You say it was a vent...ok. you
vented.

Based on your other info, you tend to emphasize the more delicate side of your
appearance as a lifestyle and claim to have 'come out' which would imply you
know you are 'waving the red flag' at the bullnecks.

Not being privy to the evening, but based on your info about...his house, casual
friend of a friend associationship, I think he was not insulting you. Unless his
good-bye faggot was said in hateful butch nasty tones I would vote to give
him the benefit of the doubt and assume he was trying to be humourous and
light hearted.

Like many minorities, gays have become very vocal and like enraged rattle
snakes are ready to bite when only a (excuse me for this) shake of the tail
is needed. Pai Mei, next time you are together...pull the guy aside and ask.
simple yes?...