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Looks vs. Personality

I would have to say both since attraction is based on both and looks somehow contribute to the personality if it is there to begin with and vice versa. But if there is no attraction based on either then forget it!
 
Coward92 said:
What matters more in a guy for you?
Personality or looks? Are they equally important? Is one them completely insignificant?
Please share your opinions.

I for one think that they are equally important, maybe personality weighs a little more, but I still find appearance important.

What do you guys think?
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Definitely personality...I am not really swayed by looks very much.
 
Why would I care for his personality if he doesn't have the looks?
 
GiancarloC said:
Looks. Personality is a close second. Sure call me superficial... but I need to be physically attracted to a guy... if I'm not, nothing will happen. And as far as a relationship, it's a balancing act of the two...
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This ^^

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Fact is - it often works backwards for me. I meet a guy, I get to know him, I find him appealing, and then I find him attractive. No, I wouldn't have jerked off to his image when I first saw it. But looks are like the cereal box. I don't get hungry looking at a box of my favorite cereal because I have a thing for green boxes. It's because I now know what's in that box, and I enjoy what it has to offer. Many of the guys I've had sex with or jerked off to weren't necessarily 10s in the looks department. But I liked what they had to offer. :)

Lex
 
Personality.

I thought about it many years ago because the #1 topic in a gay bar if you are the bartender...hearing about how hot/cute/sexy someone else is. 90% of the guys other people would point out I had absolutely zero opinion of one way or the other so I thought about it and I figured out why..

If I like you...you look GREAT!
If I don't like you...you are ugly
If I don't know you I probably think of you as a cow...like in a field of cows...unless you know that one special cow they all kinda look the same.

Yup! That's my real answer.
 
Personality definitely is dominant. Anyone else who's been with a really goodlooking guy with a bad/negative personality will know what I mean. Past a certain point the looks can do nothing anymore.
 
I think that denying the importance of looks is a bit hypocritical. None of us would be compelled to sleep with someone we found physically repulsive, no matter how noble, kind, compassionate, intelligent and talented that person were. While it's undeniable that some people place extreme importance on looks (often, to the exclusion of everything else), denying that looking at least personable is important, would be preposterous.

However, after first impressions have passed, people must possess something to keep us interested. If you are with a very good looking guy who has an utterly horrid personality, is an idiot or simply doesn't make you feel comfortable, maintaining a relationship will be extremely difficult, if not impossible. Physical attributes just allow us to lay the foundations to a bridge to be built. If there's nothing worthy of cultivating after that, nothing will happen (well, at least in most cases).

The same happens the other way around - it's very difficult to start a relationship that's any more than platonic with someone you do not find attractive in the slightest, and it does take both time and effort to learn to appreciate the other person to the point where you actually develop any form of attraction to them. Even so, I don't think that this could happen with someone who is extremely unappealing from a physical point of view.

So I'd say that, in the beginning, it's about 50 to 60% physical appearance and 50 to 40% personality. After that, I think that it's more 90% personality and 10% physical appearance.
 
Looks aren't unimportant. I just think a year into being with someone looks can no longer keep you into them by themselves. I guess unless you're really shallow and don't mind bad relationships.
 
Adrusek81 said:
I think that denying the importance of looks is a bit hypocritical. None of us would be compelled to sleep with someone we found physically repulsive, no matter how noble, kind, compassionate, intelligent and talented that person were.
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The thing is - in the course towards discovering that a guy is noble, kind, compassionate, intellligent and talented...you often start accepting the "physically repulsive" part. The looks stop being a barrier, and actually can become something of an attraction. Much like how some people have "an adorable giggle" or "an annoying laugh", depending on whether or not you're currently enamored of that person. :) No, I'd never immediately jump into bed with somebody I found very unattractive. But if I spent time to find out his interior - and found all those positive goodies you mentioned - that would be time I'd also start re-evaluating that guy's looks.

Lex
 
Lets be honest, no one is lining up to date ugly guys, even some average looking guys have trouble getting dates. People say personality, but it's looks you notice first.
 
Beachguyj said:
Lets be honest, no one is lining up to date ugly guys, even some average looking guys have trouble getting dates. People say personality, but it's looks you notice first.
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That's true but not all relationships start the same way. Almost all of mine came out of some state of being friends first. Almost none of mine came out of randomly hitting on a guy I'd eyeballed for 15 seconds and sleeping with him.
 
I'm not going to lie, I tend to be more of the superficial type. That doesn't mean that I will date and/or have sex with just anybody. I will not date a complete douche bag. However, even if I get along with the guy, and I don't find him attractive, I don't think it would work either... There has to be a nice combination of both.
 
youfiad said:
I'm not going to lie, I tend to be more of the superficial type. That doesn't mean that I will date and/or have sex with just anybody. I will not date a complete douche bag. However, even if I get along with the guy, and I don't find him attractive, I don't think it would work either... There has to be a nice combination of both.
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I hear ya. A guy with amazing looks and no personality is just close to dating me as a guy with an amazing personality but no looks. Meet me in the middle, but I do have a preference for personality, because that is what it really does come down to. At least in my book, we could at least be friends that way.
 
I agree with OP. I want both. BUT if I had to choose between a guy who was hot as hell, but an asshole, or a guy with average looks, who was the nicest guy ever.. then I probably would have gone with the average looks guy.
 
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