CharmedFan28
JUB Addict
Luck
Chapter 1
I have had the worst luck with guys. It seems like things are going great then they either dump me or I find out they are cheating. At first I thought it was just bad luck but it seems to be a pattern. It seems like that I should take some time by myself and figure out if I am the problem.
Dating first happened for me shortly after I came out at 18. I have never been the most social person so I met guys online. Dating sites seemed like the way to go as I was not brave enough to just go on Apps such as Grindr as I wanted a relationship and also because I have never thought I was that attractive of a person. The first few guys I chatted with seemed nice but as soon as I mentioned that I was looking for a relationship they ghosted me.
Next I tried finding guys at the University I had just started attending. I had made friends pretty easily with people I had classes with so I first asked them if they knew anyone that might be right for me. That line of enquiry led me to my first real boyfriend James. James was blonde, cute and we could have real conversations. We had similar interests related to pop culture and of course friends in common so we hit it off right away. I lost my virginity to him and for about 6 months things went well until I mentioned that I wanted a commitment and he started to avoid me. He would ignore my calls and texts and would barely acknowledge me if we happened to bump into each other around campus. I eventually stopped trying to communicate with him as I got discouraged.
Things came to a head when I went to a party with my friends and spotted him making out with some random guy in the corner. He quickly saw me, came over and tried to make excuses. I told him to never contact me again and from then on whenever I saw James I just ignored him and tried not to get too upset.
Over the next few years I had a few more boyfriends and things kind of went the same with each one. I started to wonder if it was just me or had I just not met the right guy yet? This is what got me to where I am now, looking back at these relationships and starting to see that maybe I should get more comfortable at just being on my own. Sure I would miss the companionship and yes the sex but if I couldn’t be happy by myself then maybe that is what screwed up my past relationships.
After all this reflecting I decided to stay single for my last year of University and only get involved with a guy when I knew that if it ended I would be more ok then I had been in the past. From now on if I liked a guy I would just be his friend for a while and see if that changed anything. Surely being a friend first would help me to stop desperately searching for my next boyfriend and just enjoy what I had now.
I don’t know if this will make any difference in my life but hey, I think its worth trying anything that doesn’t lead me to a place where I feel either rejected after getting dumped or sad that someone I had trusted so much would cheat on me the first chance he got. As orientation for my final year of University approached, I was nervous but a bit excited. Hopefully my luck would change and I can just be more comfortable with myself. Time would tell but I had a good feeling that things would work out. I would either have a great year just making new friends and getting to know the ones I had already a bit better. Anything would be better then my past experiences with getting my heart broken or desperately searching for the right guy.
To be continued…


































