I agree with most responses here, but would only add a gentle reminder: it's not fair to criticize someone's choices - good or bad - without having been in the same situation and dilemma. I don't condone cheating or dishonesty, but I have made some of the original posters mistakes, or lapses in judgement. Before I cheated on my wife I would have thought it impossible, but it happened nevertheless. Whether that cheating was with a man or a woman in immaterial - it's was cheating. I now understand that the situations we find ourselves in are rarely black & white, or can be resolved by making the "moral" decision. It's just not that simple. Some of the most principled, humble, honest people I'm lucky enough to call a friend (male and female) have made this same mistake, or find themselves in similar situations as the poster. I don't judge them, condemn them or end our friendship because of their human frailty. The only difference between people who have cheated and/or hid their sexual behavior and people who have not is simply that distinction - not one of moral superiority or better personal integrity.
This forum and the people on it need to be a little more compassionate, less judgmental, and more understanding that as individuals we don't all think, act and live our lives the same. I would hope that this forum is a place where confused, hurt, guilty, angry, scared boys and men can come for help, reassurance, understanding and maybe even advice. Sexual orientation, sexual behavior and intimate relationships are difficult things to sort out for a lot of people. This forum and its members of various backgrounds, beliefs and situations should be here as a resource fro everyone without the fear of being judged, flamed or ostracized.
My two cents. Go ahead and flame me if you choose.