My bubble finally burst and I need input.

[Kabluey]

Good luck.

 

[Kabluey]

Maybe that's a shemale?

Nah - it's that guy from One Direction.

 

[dereperez]

For some of you this will be nothing more than a joke, however I'm hoping to get some help from those who will take me seriously, are wise and know things that might help me.

OK, I know that my obsession with Zayn (Malik) over the past few days here on JUB might have been fun for some, annoying to others, and nothing to the most of you. I enjoyed it a lot; that's because I wanted to speak of him as often as I could, as if to keep him alive in my heart (and I'm sorry if I annoyed you).

However, the bubble that carried me to high and beautiful places burst and I fell, colliding painfully with the hard floor of reality. This is serious!

I know Zayn's a celebrity. I know he's hard to get because of that last fact. I know he could probably have anyone he wants, so he would be very picky. And most importantly, I know that you think he's out of my reach.

All that set aside, I want to know this: What are the chances of him being gay? You can laugh all you want. And after you do, consider this scenario and just pretend it's true. Please just pretend:

I might have the means to reach him. I might have many. I might have the connections, the musical talent, the wits, or the power to reach him. I might have one, or I might have them all. Just pretend. And let's say I did reach him, and..... what?

If he turns out to be straight, all my hope and efforts will go down the drain, or much worse. I'm not looking for a one night stand. I know that many guys had one night stands with people who consider themselves 100000% straight. I want the true thing... with anyone! But right now I'm just thinking and asking about Zayn. What are the chances he's gay? Again, I am very serious. I won't stalk, I won't do anything illegal, I won't hurt myself, this won't destroy me, so you don't need to worry about anything. I want a simple answer, especially from those who have more information about 1D. Can he be gay? If yes, based on what facts?

I read somewhere on JUB that there's a rumor that he dated a guy when he was in school. Is it just a rumor?

I'm not sure how to end this except to say... For those who took me seriously: I thank you from the deepest part of my heart . For those who had a good laugh: No hard feelings, I hope you enjoyed it.

Never say never. Go for it. Zayn has been waiting for you.

I read that Lee Ryan from the British boyband Blue eventually married one of his stans when she sent naked pictures of herself to him.

 

[silentalk]

To the OP,

I think you have much better chances if you focus on guys within your reach (non celeb guys)

The chances of celebrities dating their fans/stalkers is very slim.

And why Zayn? He seems like the bad boy type who is nothing but trouble.

Sorry to disappoint you, but Zayn drinks,smokes, curses and have many tattoos. He seems like a bad influence.

I think you deserve better.

Thanks and I mean it. But I firmly believe that people make their own chances. And I know that love changes people, usually to the better. So if there's anything "bad" about Zayn, and he loves someone who loves him truly, madly, deeply, then they'll both work on becoming better people, at least for each other. If love doesn't make you a better person, it's nothing more than an emotion, a chemical in the brain if you will. If, however, it does influence you to become a better person, this is when the chemical (emotion) mixes with our core: the human spirit.

Good luck.

Thanks

Maybe that's a shemale?

Indeed. Why else would he be with her?

Nah - it's that guy from One Direction.

Never say never. Go for it. Zayn has been waiting for you.

I read that Lee Ryan from the British boyband Blue eventually married one of his stans when she sent naked pictures of herself to him.

Thanks loads it's great that some of you guys are supportive. What's better, I know you guys really mean it.

 

[BFizzle]

ZM is straight.

So is Taylor Lautner but you - oh wait never mind.

 

[Willie Boy]

OK, I'm going to add my two cents worth, but first let me say you have received some very good advice so far.....

Now for my two cents: There is nothing wrong with feeling as you do. But the thing to remember is he does not know you. Not does he not know who you are, he doesn't know that you exist. This is neither good nor bad, it just is. I would say if you can emotionally handle the worst case scenario (you meet him and offer your heart only to have it crushed) you should maybe go to a 1D concert when you are able, preferably getting a vip pass. When you get a chance to meet Zayn be polite and courteous, don't go all fangirl on him. I would suggest having a little note prepared that you can hand to him that describes your situation. Include a phone number for him to call should he be interested.

The chances that he is gay, AND that he would fall for a complete stranger, are quite slim...... But one thing I've learned from my extended time on this Earth is that anything can happen

If he calls you maybe you can find a way to meet up for coffee or something. If he doesn't maybe you can move on to someone more attainable.

In either case be safe and sane.

 

[silentalk]

So is Taylor Lautner but you - oh wait never mind.

Some people think rules don't apply them. No, it's not that. It's probably that he's not obsessing over Taylor Lautner like I am over Zayn.

OK, I'm going to add my two cents worth, but first let me say you have received some very good advice so far.....

Now for my two cents: There is nothing wrong with feeling as you do. But the thing to remember is he does not know you. Not does he not know who you are, he doesn't know that you exist. This is neither good nor bad, it just is. I would say if you can emotionally handle the worst case scenario (you meet him and offer your heart only to have it crushed) you should maybe go to a 1D concert when you are able, preferably getting a vip pass. When you get a chance to meet Zayn be polite and courteous, don't go all fangirl on him. I would suggest having a little note prepared that you can hand to him that describes your situation. Include a phone number for him to call should he be interested.

The chances that he is gay, AND that he would fall for a complete stranger, are quite slim...... But one thing I've learned from my extended time on this Earth is that anything can happen

If he calls you maybe you can find a way to meet up for coffee or something. If he doesn't maybe you can move on to someone more attainable.

In either case be safe and sane.

Thank you Will. Indeed, some advice was good. Probably most, even those that said I should forget about him.

I definitely won't go all girly on him. It's just not who I am. And as for your suggestion of note handing, sounds good, except that I think it could actually freak him out a little, even if he was gay. And, like you said, the chances of him falling for a stranger are slim.

One more thing... Do the British meet for coffee? They might of course, but to me, it seems that it doesn't seem to fit the British character. Don't ask me why, I don't know. But I always though that the English preferred beer, even in the morning or early afternoon.

 

[Willie Boy]

Do the British meet for coffee? They might of course, but to me, it seems that it doesn't seem to fit the British character. Don't ask me why, I don't know. But I always though that the English preferred beer, even in the morning or early afternoon.

OK, maybe high tea? Or simple tea and crumpets? Maybe just grab some fish and chips? You could go the alcohol route, but I wouldn't recommend it for a first meeting.

 

[silentalk]

OK, maybe high tea? Or simple tea and crumpets? Maybe just grab some fish and chips? You could go the alcohol route, but I wouldn't recommend it for a first meeting.

I wouldn't want it either.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Some people think rules don't apply them. No, it's not that. It's probably that he's not obsessing over Taylor Lautner like I am over Zayn.

Careful... his lawyers can use this against you.

 

[Scealle]

Never say never. Go for it. Zayn has been waiting for you.

I read that Lee Ryan from the British boyband Blue eventually married one of his stans when she sent naked pictures of herself to him.

Indeed Lee Ryan did. I remembered George Clooney dated a bar tender for a while.
I would say if you are really serious about it, maybe you can try the entertainment field. Off or on screen workers always gets to meet celebrities (whether famous or not so famous ones.) They were one of the aspirations for me to work in the film media.

 

[silentalk]

Careful... his lawyers can use this against you.

No they can't. I mean they won't. I mean.... Oh no!. I hope they don't. Please, please leave me alone lawyers. I'm thousands of miles away from Zayn. I haven't even attempted to contact him. I'm just fantasizing here. Or not.

Indeed Lee Ryan did. I remembered George Clooney dated a bar tender for a while.
I would say if you are really serious about it, maybe you can try the entertainment field. Off or on screen workers always gets to meet celebrities (whether famous or not so famous ones.) They were one of the aspirations for me to work in the film media.

That's one of the best advice post I've read on this thread. Thanks! At least one of us is thinking practically.

 

[kindabikindagay]

Zayn is said to tweet that he's a muslim, and even mention fasting at the onset of Ramadan.I doubt, he'll ever be able to be open about his sexuality given the fame and family expectations, if he is that way inclined.

Moreover, tbqh, you're just another fan in a whole mass of fans. As with other stars over the ages, you've got your hopes and aspirations for him, but you'll realistically never achieve the goal of partnership with him, or overcome his family's faith and creed.

He'll be getting married to a young muslim lady and there's nothing anyone outside his circle of family ties can do about that.

I urge you to find someone you can be happy with and let Zayn be someone that tickled your fancy, the forever-crush that can never come to fruition.

no. muslim men can marry christians and jews too

but yeah, I agree.. even if he was gay, he'd never openly admit it due to his faith and his family's faith.. then again he drinks and has tattoos and all that so.. Idk.. OP, you're really scaring me tbh

 

[silentalk]

no. muslim men can marry christians and jews too

but yeah, I agree.. even if he was gay, he'd never openly admit it due to his faith and his family's faith.. then again he drinks and has tattoos and all that so.. Idk.. OP, you're really scaring me tbh

What does "OP" stand for? Or is it a name/nickname/username?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

OP = Original Poster. Since you started this thread, he means YOU!

 

[silentalk]

OP = Original Poster. Since you started this thread, he means YOU!

Oh, thanks I guess now I should ask him why I'm scaring him.

no. muslim men can marry christians and jews too

but yeah, I agree.. even if he was gay, he'd never openly admit it due to his faith and his family's faith.. then again he drinks and has tattoos and all that so.. Idk.. OP, you're really scaring me tbh

Hey kindabikindagay. Why is it that I'm scaring you? I'll give you the possible reasons, and you pick: you think I'm a stalker (I'm sure half the JUBbers here think this is true), you think I might hurt myself or get hurt over him (very kind of you, thanks), or you're Zayn (Please PM me right away!)

 

[layton]

I think you are only going to end up getting hurt, my advice would to get over this obsession, even if he is Gay, in which he would not even come out until several years after the 1D fad is over, and if he was Gay your chances of being with his are incredibly slim, not only would you have to be compatible, but you also would have to meet him in a situation where you are not just a fan.

 

[silentalk]

I think you are only going to end up getting hurt, my advice would to get over this obsession, even if he is Gay, in which he would not even come out until several years after the 1D fad is over, and if he was Gay your chances of being with his are incredibly slim, not only would you have to be compatible, but you also would have to meet him in a situation where you are not just a fan.

What's coming out got to do with it? I'd much prefer it if he stayed in the closet.

 

[G-Lexington]

You're not being very proactive about this. You should at least be in conversation with him by now, if not getting into his pants. Do we have to do everything for you?

Lex

 

[Willie Boy]

Hey kindabikindagay. Why is it that I'm scaring you? I'll give you the possible reasons, and you pick: you think I'm a stalker (I'm sure half the JUBbers here think this is true), you think I might hurt myself or get hurt over him (very kind of you, thanks), or you're Zayn (Please PM me right away!)

A stalker? So you like corn and beans?

I doubt you would actually hurt yourself over this. You do seem to understand that it is a long shot at best, not happening at worst.... And you still purport yourself with a reasonable level of sense.

Is he Zayn?????? You may be onto something there!