No fats or fems.

[mikeyjon]

I told someone who used these words in a dating ad that I thought they were insensitive. He was surprised I felt that way. Am I being too sensitive?

 

[roadtripboy]

No you aren't.

 

[Willie Boy]

I told someone who used these words in a dating ad that I thought they were insensitive. He was surprised I felt that way. Am I being too sensitive?

Yes. You are being far too sensitive to his insensitivity.

 

[BigChicken]

Me too.

I never understood that. Why not describe what you want?

It's always annoying when I see an ad that says "no blacks" as well. I realize people have their physical attractions, but I'd be more interested if they described the features they wanted, instead of putting down those they don't like.

Though I do think that when viewing, folks should try grow a thick skin and not let it get to them. They're just superficial ads. People tend to be brutally honest when it comes to what dick they want in their mouths.

Indeed! I would rather people be up front and brutally honest with me and tell me I have absolutely no chance with them, so I don't waste any time or effort on them.

 

[figjam]

Ohwell, at least he's honest

I agree 100%. Honesty... If that hurts your feelings, well cry me a river...

Why mess around with online adds - say what you like and don't like. I am so sick of insecure fatties pleading for the world to spare their feelings - spare us some KFC FFC!

 

[Swellegant]

I don't think you're being too sensitive... but I do think that a guy who writes such glib negatives in his personal ad just isn't for you.

I get irritated by such phrases in ads (or I used to be when I was reading ads), especially when they indicated me as something they didn't like, but I consider them good screening tools... even if I weren't "fem," I don't need to interact withy men who cannot state their preferences in a more euphonious manner.

 

[Sha-Rok]

Me too.

I never understood that. Why not describe what you want?

It's always annoying when I see an ad that says "no blacks" as well. I realize people have their physical attractions, but I'd be more interested if they described the features they wanted, instead of putting down those they don't like.

You'll get shit for saying the qualities you like because by default if said person is not included in the qualities you like your a "hateful bigot."

I stopped caring because for every person who doesn't like said features someone else does. I love everyone! But I would only date a certain type that would make me happy..Is that not the point?

 

[BostonPirate]

I have a belly. I get alot of action and its always from young skinny guys. IF someone says no fats I just look at the belly and go ... ehh... someone else out there wants me.

who cares. to each his own.

I certainly am not going to pretend that I am skinny and heave in the old gut out at the meeting place and go... Now where did THAT come from...lol

I am happy the way I am and I am happy that there are people out there that find me attractive.

its enough.

Who wants someone that doesn't want YOU? is it rude to say no fats and fems?

I think its ruder to pretend that you aren't chubby if you are, and I think its rude to not mention in advance that you are turned off by chubby guys and meet them, only to tell them at that point that they are not for you.

If everything is out on the table from the beginning, what difference does it make? We aren't talking about long term relationships here. You don't take an ad for that in a paper or on a website. We are talking about a sex hookup.

If the blunt realities of a hookup are offensive to people, they ought to stay home and not try to get laid.

 

[Beachguyj]

That's an old phrase that comes from listings written in hookup section of gay ad in those free mags you got when you were leaving a club before the internet was popular. I find it makes the person posting it look bad.

 

[figjam]

I have a belly. I get alot of action and its always from young skinny guys. IF someone says no fats I just look at the belly and go ... ehh... someone else out there wants me.

Nothing wrong with that. I tend to gym frequently and I like to decide what I like - teling me that is shallow just convinces me even more that I made the right choice by not meeting you...

 

[shainski]

i never done the ad thing - so i don't speak from experience. But if someone said.

"In shape - Thin, Whites Only"

Would that not convey the same insensitivity?

 

[mikeyjon]

I agree with you on that Reckless (.....Luv your avatar btw )




mikeyjon, the guy was honest and up front about his preferences
....people want what they want

was this an ad that you responded to?
if so, why did you?

I just think "in shape" and "masculine" sounds better.
I was just looking at random ads, but his mentioned what a catch he was. He was dumbfounded why he could'nt find someone. Just wanted to let him know nice boys don't say those words.

 

[mikeyjon]

I agree 100%. Honesty... If that hurts your feelings, well cry me a river...

Why mess around with online adds - say what you like and don't like. I am so sick of insecure fatties pleading for the world to spare their feelings - spare us some KFC FFC!

I just think you can be honest without being a dick. And the KFC remark was insensitive, ours just went out of business.

 

[mikeyjon]

The problem with online-ads is that people lie to themselves so that they actually start believing they are what's considered "in shape". "Masculine" encompasses a lot of things, too. I like well-built guys. A guy might be a "masculine" person who hunts 24/7 but is very overweight. You never know what you are getting when someone says they are "masculine" or "in shape", because "in shape" has different meanings for different ages.

He mentioned how "heads turn" when he walks in a room. Loved that line!

 

[figjam]

The problem with online-ads is that people lie to themselves so that they actually start believing they are what's considered "in shape". "Masculine" encompasses a lot of things, too. I like well-built guys. A guy might be a "masculine" person who hunts 24/7 but is very overweight. You never know what you are getting when someone says they are "masculine" or "in shape", because "in shape" has different meanings for different ages.

I agree. It is risky. I believe the fatties should keep to themselves - no reason in spoiling it for the ret of us who care after our bodies. It seems to many fat people these days are allowed to do what they want in the name of "fairness"!!!

I say - take your fat ass to the KFC and stay away from me! Sorry, might sound harsh, but it is true.

 

[figjam]

The dude reads like an asshole.

I agree. Fat people should not be allowed out the house till they loose at least 100 pounds each.

 

[kevbo]

All this talk of KFC has gotten me hungry

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCPSh47gHz8[/ame]

 

[80KGold]

How about when guys type, "No blacks or Asians"?

It's all just 'personal preference'--which you can't help--right?

 

[birddog7]

I see people are still posting in disregard to others' feelings...especially when they're only focused on getting cock shoved up their asses.

What would you expect? Most people have little regard for others. After all, it's supposed to be all about ME ME ME, right? Greed and selfishness rule this world.

 

[80KGold]

I have found that only saying what you want doesn't get the point across. And what if you, for example, don't mind if the guy is Asian, white, or Mexican, but DO care if he's black?

I know exactly what you mean. It's really too difficult to just ignore the advances/ messages from people you don't prefer. It's much easier (and 'honest', right?) to stress to them how disgusting you think they are.