No tea no shade ya'll, but, I think being gay and choosing to start a family, is wrong and selfish.

[streetblackcock99]

As the only boy in my group of siblings, me having kids is seen as almost an obligation, as I'm supposed to apparently, "carry the family name",

Nayow,

aside from me having absolutely no desire to be a parent or want chilgun, I just think gay couples, "starting families" is wrong and selfish, for the children,

I don't know what it is, it's unlikely but perhaps it may be, "social conditioning" ? idfk,

unyways, I just don't like it, I know it ain't isn't always possible for a child to have a mom and pops for whatever reason, but I jus think too often gheys/lesbicans need to put their want for chilgun in perspective and just not go there,


ya'll feel me ?

 

[Jayden]

 

[star-warrior]

I think Neil Patrick Harris and David Burka make gread dads. Same with Ricky Martin and Carlos Gonzalez and all those normal everyday non-famous gay parents out there.

 

[zoltanspawn]

Yeah, ydfk.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Having a child makes you a parent as much as a guitar makes you a rockstar. To say a good parent can be summed up by what's between their legs is ridiculous. Studies have shown how well gays parent. In fact, you bring up being "Selfish" I think that comes down to perspective.

You have two 17 year old kids getting pregnant on accident and don't know wtf to do with it.

You have two same sex adults trying for years to have a child.

Who do you think is more dedicated?




One thing I will say is the importance of strong male role models. All we hear about is "He didn't have a man to look up to" or "She never got to see what a good man was" ect ect.

 

[Castix]

I see you're looking for attention again. You know as well as we do there is nothing wrong with gay people being parents.

 

[streetblackcock99]

Of course parenting skills ain't isn't defined by sexchtuality, but taking it all back to the grass roots of things, I believe a child needs to have a moms and a pops,

not two moms

and not two pops,

especially with the surrogates getting involved nowadays, so now kids have two dads and a mom they see every few years ? lawd, it's such a mess.

 

[Daximus]

You would never be aloud to have a child so don't worry about it.

 

[streetblackcock99]

I see you're looking for attention again. You know as well as we do there is nothing wrong with gay people being parents.

One stating their opinion, is looking for attention ?

OR,

Is it your perception of the weight and severity of the discussed subject matter that makes it so ?

 

[DigitalFudge]

Of course parenting skills ain't isn't defined by sexchtuality, but taking it all back to the grass roots of things, I believe a child needs to have a moms and a pops,

not two moms

and not two pops,

especially with the surrogates getting involved nowadays, so now kids have two dads and a mom they see every few years ? lawd, it's such a mess.

I think you are focusing on the lack of opposite sex.

If the child gets love, attention, care, appreciation and taught to value themselves while respecting others why does it matter if it came from a woman, man, two men, or two women?



I believe this whole "A child needs a mother" stems from the same rhetoric that spawned "Women belong in the kitchen"


There is no merit to either of those things other than the fact than that's just how it's been.

 

[diamondstar]

It beats seeing kids living in foster homes and for the most part gay/lesbian parents are cool. Personally as a gay man am proud that children will NOT be in my future, but for anyone who wants kids straight or gay go head.

 

[streetblackcock99]

Yeah, I think so.

The gay thing aside, generally, I think people are more comfortable with women raising children because they're seen as more nurturing, using their "mother instincts." Traditionally, the males are meant to do the protecting + providing but not so much the hands-on child rearing. Of course we can't apply this directly to same-sex parents, so I can see why it'd seem odd to you, like a same-sex couple can't provide a balanced parenting experience for their child based on traditional viewpoints. You've internalized a heteronormative and somewhat antiquated idea of parenting.

I think you just need to acknowledge your hangups/where they stem from and try to move beyond them. A good parent is a good parent, doesn't really matter in the end. Children just need loving and supportive parents who can keep them safe and provide for them.

so much truth, I feel all of that, especially the mothering part, very well explained.

 

[mikey3000]

Of course parenting skills ain't isn't defined by sexchtuality, but taking it all back to the grass roots of things, I believe a child needs to have a moms and a pops,

not two moms

and not two pops,

especially with the surrogates getting involved nowadays, so now kids have two dads and a mom they see every few years ? lawd, it's such a mess.

Sure, idealy a child should have a mom and a dad. But in today's world most aren't even getting that. Usually it's just one. Wouldn't two loving parents be better than one?

 

[ibill1]

Yeah, ydfk.

Agreed. WTF!

 

[streetblackcock99]

You would never be aloud to have a child so don't worry about it.

 

[BFizzle]

Go on and get that welfare check.

 

[streetblackcock99]

According to my psychology textbook, some research has been done on this subject; and it has been proven that it doesn't matter the sexuality of the parents or even whether the child's guardians are his/her biological parents. It just matters if the guardians are supportive and loving towards the child and if they plant the "achievement factor" (I think that's what it's called, it's been some time since I last touched that psychology book), then the child would be able grow up mentally healthy and have equal opportunities of succeeding in life as his/her peers who were raised by a mom and a dad.




I have a friend whose straight parents are divorced, and he doesn't get to see his biological mother that often; he technically has "two moms" (if you count his stepmother) and one dad.

 

[streetblackcock99]

Go on and get that welfare check.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Agreed. WTF!

Sis, your avatar, I use.

 

[Bry Bry]

The only reason someone would suggest gay people couldn't be parents was if someone had problems with gay people. This stems from that dated 1950's and prior stereotype that gays are pedophiles. It's just simply untrue. In fact there are more straight pedophiles than there are ones that define their sexuality as gay. But then there are far more gay men and women worthy of raising children than there are people like you, who rant on about how wrong and immoral it is.

Morality isn't confined to a book written thousands of years ago either, but at least they got one thing right in the bible: Their spelling.

Unlike some people. If you want to be taken seriously you should probably learn to speak like a human being first and not a walking stereotype.