Race and gay guys.

[HellYeahSurf]

Because every time we turn around, someone makes a new thread about the same thing. There are hundreds of threads in this forum asking the same question, and it hasn't been answered in any of them.

i just answered it
problem solved

 

[MtlAsianThong]

Hmmm...Not too sure about only looking for white guys but you're right, most guys I've been with were. I've been with black and Asians as well tho...So no absolutes for me just yet.

 

[Yohan1989]

I like Middle Eastern, Hispanic, and MIX guys. Somewhere around that range.

But I dont care much about race of someone, though. As long I'm happy with that dude then that is all.

 

[frankfrank]

Originally Posted by gsdx View Post
Because every time we turn around, someone makes a new thread about the same thing. There are hundreds of threads in this forum asking the same question, and it hasn't been answered in any of them.

Well, then...stop turning around! LOL

 

[gsdx]

Well, then...stop turning around! LOL

Ba dump bump!

 

[reiz_90]

hmmm well i'm black. and i'm pretty much only checking for black guys. maybe hispanic after that, then arab. i like brown skin lol. i think it's all in your head.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I agree that crucifying black and asian men who admit to being "snow queeens" is unproductive, but I still think MOC (men of color) who are only interested in dating white men are setting themselves up for a world of disappointment and missed opportunities.

They also need to realize that if they reject their own race at 20, they cannot come creeping around at 50 trying to make amends and get back in "black." That's a pattern I see regularly. And it's unfortunate. So much wasted time...tsk, tsk.

 

[Yohan1989]

I've been with men from all races. The hottest guy I've ever been with was Middle-Eastern. He was so beautiful. His eyebrows were thick but in a perfect kind of way. For some reason one of the first things I notice about guys is their eyebrows lol. He shaved his head and had a nice body. His face was so cute. His eyes were a spectacular brown, his lips were exquisite, he had an amazing dick and an ass nations would go to war over. I really wanted him to be my bf but he was still in the closet. It was a couple years ago but I still think about him sometimes and what might have been

Of course I notice race when I meet someone that's pretty normal, and I never have a problem with it. Not only does it bother me when some ppl DO have issues with other races but I just can't understand why! I've always been fascinated by other cultures going back to grade 3 at my best friends birthday party, his family was from Cambodia and it was a cool cultural experience. We ate different food, listened to different music and played different games. But anyways I guess my point is even though it's a little cliche is that we're all humans and it's good we're so diverse!

I am a pretty Assyrian King of Assyria in Iraq

 

[maxpowr9]

Here's an excellent and relevant article on this topic from an openly gay academic.

I actually read the article and it's decent. Not thorough but there are plenty of books on the subject.

One thing that always boggles my mind is the seperation between identities. When one thinks of gay, they think of "white male". It's that silence of racial minorities that seems to be forgotten. Now, I'm not gonna play hypocrite and say, "I''ll date anybody". Human nature will tell you elsewise that it's impossible to get along with everybody, regardless of race. That being said people are just attracted to certain types. Why do some people like chubbies, blondes, Asians <insert group here>? I'm not a psychologist so I can't really answer with much validity. If I had to, it would be with some standard psychobabble, "we all have some sort of predisposition towards our likes, wants, and necesities and how we go about satisfying them."

 

[kayman23]

I actually read the article and it's decent. Not thorough but there are plenty of books on the subject.

One thing that always boggles my mind is the seperation between identities. When one thinks of gay, they think of "white male". It's that silence of racial minorities that seems to be forgotten. Now, I'm not gonna play hypocrite and say, "I''ll date anybody". Human nature will tell you elsewise that it's impossible to get along with everybody, regardless of race. That being said people are just attracted to certain types. Why do some people like chubbies, blondes, Asians <insert group here>? I'm not a psychologist so I can't really answer with much validity. If I had to, it would be with some standard psychobabble, "we all have some sort of predisposition towards our likes, wants, and necesities and how we go about satisfying them."

Well Maxpowr9, the issues with the "silence of racial minorities" comes from the fact that they have to deal with compound sets of issues mostly ranging from their individual cultures in addition to homophobia. Overtime dealing with both can become tedious and tiring to one's psyche. Being white is the normative of the most "Westernized" societies in the world, so think about how would you feel if you deal with being an ethnic minority that has to combat the prejudices then deal with homophobia that may or may not come from the "mainstream" along with your ethnic community. Thus a compound battlefront of issues.

Back to topic, I just don't deal with it anymore. If a white guy wants to date me then so be it, if not then so be it. The same has happened with black and Latins guys. I deal with rejection and being approached by those of all ethnic backgrounds, but its whether or not I want to deal with the guy is all that really matters to me at this point...

 

[SoulSearcher]

It comes from "preference", which, as amongst straight people, is determined by social upbringing and conditioning regarding what is considered desirable, and racism, popular culture, parents, church, childhood friends, etc. all play a role in determining "preference".

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I wonder what Mrs. Niggerbaiter would have to say about this thread?

 

[lilTomTom]

"For me I am not sure if I would be that comfortable with a black guy."

I've talked to white guys over the years and there are those that feel the same as you. A few white guys have stated that one of the reason they have no attraction to Black guys is because of our "Body hair"...Odd statement to say if you've never been with a Black person physically...

But we all know stereotyping plays a MAJOR role...And we all do it..

I've dated White Men and Women and not even 30-minutes into the date the FIRST thing that comes out of some of their mouths is "How Big is your Cock?"...Talk about a MAJOR turn-off especially if i'm into the individual..This happened mainly with white men and only a few white women..

One thing I've noticed about some Gay/Bi white guys is that they see Black guys just for the size of our Dicks and getting Fucked by us...Don't read me wrong I'm not comparing Black & White Fuck Buddies that know from the start what they want from each other. I'm talking about when Blacks and whites date each other and how the date goes SOUR because the white person is more concerned about what's in the Black mans Boxer-briefs VS what's in his head.

Black guys & Black women that I've gone out with never asked about the size of my Dick at the dinner table...

I don't know if other gay/Bi Black guys on this site have noticed the same thing about white guys, but I've chatted with a few Black guys that experience the same thing..

I kinda posted about that in another thread. I got a bit angry at times from those wanting me to top them just because I'm black. Even some conversations just got plain out akward after they just wanted to know what size of my penis is. Even after clearly stating the fact that I'm a bottom, they still feel that they can "convince" me to top.

 

[bankside]

White saturated? Where I live it is about 12% non-white. Growing up when we would watch media from the states, we saw waaaay more minority groups than we would ever see on a daily basis. Depending on where you're from, your daily experience might show that white people are underrepresented.